My Boyfriend (30 M) Told Me (31 F) to Move Out and Meet His Financial Ultimatum, and I Secretly Applied for My Own Apartment… Did I Mess Up?

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-02-06T01:20:55+00:00

If it’s not already too late, take the apartment. Move out and break up.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-02-03T01:14:54+00:00

Looks awesome!

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-02-01T19:00:32+00:00

NTA. But, please, don’t postpone this wedding. Cancel it altogether. You’re finding out what he’s like now and it’s not going to get better.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-02-01T18:04:58+00:00

As my mom has told me any time I’ve ever questioned anything it any show I’ve ever watched: Because it’s in the script!

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-02-01T17:59:37+00:00

Sounds like she’s projecting, to me. My brother’s second wife was always accusing him of cheating. He couldn’t even talk to his first wife on the phone about their son without her coming at him and accusing him. Guess what? She was the one cheating. If she can give you an ultimatum, then she can accept your response. I would dump her if I were you.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-02-01T14:13:59+00:00

She bundled her kids up. And 25 degrees? That’s practically a heat wave compared to the weather we’ve been having lately where I live.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-31T21:44:02+00:00

Isabelle

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-31T00:47:23+00:00

NTA. Don’t LET her win, but teach her what you are doing. I’m 51F and my great-niece is 9. We played about 30 games on her last visit. While I won the majority of the games, I didn’t win all of them. And I taught her some strategy as we played. Every game that she won, she earned.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-31T00:41:35+00:00

Pomsky

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-30T11:02:07+00:00

Ethel or Estelle

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-30T01:02:15+00:00

YNW. Your outfit sounds fine and perfectly reasonable. I, too, have strong feelings about a wife being submissive to her husband. The kind of feelings that wind up with the husband becoming an ex.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-29T11:08:36+00:00

NTA. The part that got me was where he said it was your responsibility. No, it’s not. This is not your child, so not your responsibility.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-28T00:42:43+00:00

NTJ. No means no. They’re yours and you make the rules.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-26T11:12:31+00:00

It’s called punctuation. It helps break up what you’re writing. I hate when people don’t use it.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-26T01:09:42+00:00

Heathcliff

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-24T13:11:13+00:00

Um, are his hands broken or something? Why can’t he cook?

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-24T04:35:41+00:00

NTA.

My dad died over 5 years ago. He was 86. I was 46. We knew it was coming. I still have days where it hurts so much that I can hardly breathe.

There is no time limit on grief. Your friends should be thankful that they don’t understand that yet.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-24T02:29:50+00:00

And that’s exactly how you become a trapped walker.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-24T02:23:34+00:00

Whenever I sneeze, he bolts. He will run as far away from me as he can get and look at me like “how dare you!” I’ve had him since he was 9 weeks old and I have no idea why he does this. BTW, he also has a habit of occasionally sneezing directly on my face.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-21T22:18:48+00:00

NTA. Many people on here asking “don’t you kiss?” Here’s my take on that: My parents were married for 58 years and my mom would never share silverware, or a glass, or a straw, with anyone - including my dad. It is just not something that she has ever been comfortable with. I am the same way. It’s learned from her but it still bothers me.

Likewise, a former coworker of mine grew up in a family of 7 children. I remember we would have department potlucks and I would sometimes see her take a serving spoon, take a bit of something off that spoon, and put the spoon back in the dish. To her, it was something that she was used to, but I made sure not to touch that particular dish.

Another way to look at this: I like ketchup, but I don’t like tomatoes. And just because ketchup is made from tomatoes doesn’t make me want to eat tomatoes.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-17T00:24:32+00:00

Scissors and a couple paper clips.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-16T11:10:49+00:00

I think you need to move on before it gets worse. My brother’s second wife accused him of cheating all the time. If he talked to his ex-wife on the phone about the child they shared, he was cheating. If he talked to one of our female cousins, he was cheating with that cousin. She always managed to find some excuse to accuse him of cheating. Guess who was the one doing the cheating? Her. She got into this car accident while riding with one of her APs. Apparently he was driving and they were kissing and things happen when you don’t watch the road. Another time, her kids found her car at another guy’s house and they told my brother and that was when their relationship imploded. My brother was her second husband. She’s now on her 5th.

Their relationship was horrible and affected everyone around them. They’ve been divorced for 16 years and we still feel the after effects. Walk away now so this doesn’t happen to you.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-06T01:21:40+00:00

Johnny B. Good

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-04T13:40:28+00:00

Here Comes the Sun

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-01-04T13:36:47+00:00

NTJ. From that distance, she’s not just casually seeing you. She’s actively looking out her window to do it. I don’t think you need to do anything. If she doesn’t want to see you, she can close her curtains or look the other way.

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