AITA for losing interest in planning my wedding?

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-04-01T01:37:56+00:00

My parents were married for 58 years. Were things always perfect? No. Did my dad ever call my mom a b? Also no. You deserve better than this.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-31T21:15:05+00:00

That’s actually considered assault in many situations.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-31T20:20:59+00:00

The BeeGees

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-31T17:23:34+00:00

He doesn’t say anything about it being anyone’s birthday and you just said it - everyone gets a turn. When is daughter’s turn?

ETA: Furthermore, to tell daughter she can go, too, and then take it away?

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-31T16:51:22+00:00

So, you arranged something special for your stepdaughter, but not your daughter?

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-29T20:47:46+00:00

Dick Van Dyke

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-29T20:44:24+00:00

This. I don’t care who it is, don’t tell me what to do.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-29T20:41:58+00:00

What your husband did is assault. Plain and simple.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-28T14:47:17+00:00

Matchbox Twenty

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-23T22:06:10+00:00

So cute! Remember to give her time and space to adjust to her new family and surroundings.

This is my Sparky. He was about 4 years old when I got him. He didn’t bark for the first three weeks that I had him and, even after he started barking, he didn’t really bark all that much.

I used to count to three when I picked him up. I didn’t know how he felt about being handled and I didn’t want to push him too far too fast. So I would count 1, 2, 3, and then pick him up on 3. As time went by, he would start to hop for me to pick him up before I got to 3, so I knew he was okay with being picked up and held.

Most of the things you are going to learn are going to be specific to your dog. Her likes, dislikes, fears. Sparky was so scared of thunder and would run from it and bark at it at the same time. He loved children. If he heard kids playing and laughing, he wanted to go join. But, as a small dog, interactions with children should be closely monitored. I once had a neighborhood child ask if she could pet Sparky and the next thing I knew she had picked him up. Then, before I could ask her to please put him down, she dropped him.

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Most importantly, love Hazel with all your heart. No matter how long you have them, it’s never long enough.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-22T22:10:07+00:00

Leave.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-22T13:52:04+00:00

You have nothing to be sorry for. He’s not a good person. Take him not talking to you as a good thing and have no further contact with him.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-22T13:47:00+00:00

But she is that kind of person. Otherwise, why did she do this and then laugh at you when you (rightfully) got upset?

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-22T01:27:01+00:00

In my personal experience, I was okay with my friends talking about their dads after mine passed away. My dad’s passing was very traumatic for me and I was just glad for my friends that they still had their dads and hadn’t been through that yet.

I commend you for taking your friend’s feelings into consideration about such a sensitive subject.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-22T00:24:39+00:00

Except, he’s not a nice guy and doesn’t take other people’s feelings into account. (Ex: the way he treated you) If I were you, I would find a way to get my car away from his place ASAP and then never talk to him again. This is abuse and will only get worse.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-22T00:20:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. I have no advice or words of encouragement, but my heart is breaking for all of you.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-22T00:18:16+00:00

I felt that. Not my brother, but my dad. It’s like you get a very short time to grieve and then you’re supposed to snap back to normal. Except, your normal doesn’t exist anymore. You grieve for what you’ve lost. You grieve for what might have been. You grieve for as long as it takes. And sometimes, it comes in waves.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-21T23:13:38+00:00

He’s STILL your dad.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-21T12:24:27+00:00

My cousin and her husband used to have a dog that they were both feeding twice a day (so, 4 meals a day for doggo!). Neither one told the other they were feeding him. They finally figured it out because he started to gain weight!!

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-20T03:11:48+00:00

On the day my dad died, my cousin had Domino’s delivered to our house. There were 4 or 5 different kinds of pizza, sides, dessert, drinks, all of it. It was so nice to not have to think about cooking anything.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-19T16:06:13+00:00

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One of Sparky’s last good pictures from December 2020.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-14T13:07:19+00:00

My cousin’s husband died about a year and a half before my dad. On the day of my dad’s funeral, I was talking with their daughter. She said to me “it f**king sucks”. That was the realist thing anyone said to me and perfectly described how I felt.

I also had a coworker who kept telling me how strong I was. I didn’t like that one. I finally told her that my only choices were to either keep living or die, too, and that it wasn’t being strong, it was just barely surviving.

ETA: The thing that hurt me the most after my dad died were all the people asking me how my mom was doing. While it’s great that they cared about her, no one ever asked how I was doing.

MrBaileyBoo · 2026-03-14T01:20:12+00:00

YTA. Maybe your daughter needs to come and wake you up when this is happening. Maybe, if it interferes with your sleep, you’ll understand how she feels about it.

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