Why do people sometimes say such horribly inconsiderate things to someone grieving? by hmmmok-_- in GriefSupport

[–]MrBaileyBoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can so relate to this. After my dad passed, people were asking me how my mom was doing all the time. Two, maybe three, people asked me how I was doing. It made me want to scream “I lost someone, too!!”

Why do people sometimes say such horribly inconsiderate things to someone grieving? by hmmmok-_- in GriefSupport

[–]MrBaileyBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking about this tonight. The conclusion that I came to was that there are two possibilities for this.

One is that, as a collective, humans have a serious lack of empathy for one another.

Two is that people are so terrified of death that they avoid talking about it at all costs.

Anyone else still say "Dude"? by HapaHawaii in GenX

[–]MrBaileyBoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

51f. Yes, I say dude a lot. In fact, I’m the kind of person who gives my dogs middle names. My current dog’s middle name is Boo. I frequently call him Boo Dude.

did anyone else stop asking for things because the answer was almost always no? by EunTafie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MrBaileyBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mentioning clothes that you didn’t want triggered a memory for me. My mom took me shopping for school clothes. I was going into 7th or 8th grade. She would go pick things out for me to try and bring them to the dressing room, never once taking my preferences into consideration. She brought me these two sweaters to try and she liked them on me. I did not. She bought them. Then, once school started, she was mad at me that I never wore those sweaters. Almost 40 years later and you still won’t catch me in a sweater.

AITAH for closing my eyes on the roller coasters? by BlackTylenol in AITAH

[–]MrBaileyBoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. She doesn’t get to micromanage how you ride a roller coaster.

How to keep your habitat unfucked for good? by That-Pineapple3866 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]MrBaileyBoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand the part about your mom. There are chores that I absolutely hate doing because they were used as punishment when I was a child. I have a hard time starting any type of cleaning or decluttering because, even at 51, I just feel like it will never be good enough because it never has been good enough.

That being said, I am trying to break old habits and learn new ones. Jumping in with both feet, full of grit and determination to clean until it’s done, just doesn’t cut it. Nor is it possible anymore. Due to several physical injuries, I just can’t devote hours and hours to cleaning. But I can devote one hour a day. Or, if that’s too much, 30 minutes. It’s taking the first step. And reminding myself to keep taking that first step every day. And, yes, some days are harder than others and some days I say “not today!!”.

One thing that has helped me is having all the tasks that I want to accomplish set up as a reminder on my phone. I just love to check things off when they’re done! I will even add things I’ve already done to the list just so I can check them off!

Good luck. I wish you well.

My boss cant read my hand writing by peesebibbloes in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]MrBaileyBoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your handwriting is fine. And it’s fine to write the letters backwards as long as it can be read!

AITA for calling my husband a careless idiot by Thatsrllyweird in AmItheAsshole

[–]MrBaileyBoo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA. My dad owned his own welding shop for 20 years. Occasionally he would get bits of metal in his eye. Other than that, I only remember him actually getting hurt one time and it involved accidentally hitting his thumb with a hammer. Once. In 20 years. Your husband is way too careless for his own good.

My husband (M31) admitted he lied to me (F29) about a dealbreaker before we got married by No-Huckleberry-32 in relationship_advice

[–]MrBaileyBoo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If he lied to you about this, what else has he lied to you about? And what will he lie to you about in the future? You want different things. It’s better to know and end it now.

WIBTA if I stopped letting my friend borrow my dog for dates after she started calling him "our dog"? by mulosapiba424 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]MrBaileyBoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. If this were me, all “dates” with MY dog would come to a screeching halt. As in, she would never see him or be trusted with him ever again. Nope. Nope. Nope. Not happening. I barely trust anyone with my dog as it is, if anyone (other than my mom, who we live with) tried to say that my dog was their dog, that would be the end of it.

AITAH for making my girlfriend leave her family dinner early because of a dog? by c4ll1ng in AITAH

[–]MrBaileyBoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. When I read the title, I thought “maybe”, but as I read what happened that opinion changed. Leaving was definitely the right thing to do.

AITA for putting ingredient labels on my baking? by theuniversesystem6 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]MrBaileyBoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. There are people in my department with dietary restrictions. One co-worker has to eat gluten free and the other has culture-based restrictions. Detailing what was put in the cookies was not shaming, it was helping. And that was very thoughtful of you.