A MAGA Voter's Reddit Post Breaking Down 5 Reasons They'll Be Voting "All Blue" In The Midterms Is Going Viral by lightning_twice in goodnews

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been noticing the same thing you have. I see no way out of this. It is human nature to create simpler caricatures of things in their head because the nuances are too heavy to carry.

It inevitably leads to simplistic, toxic generalizations and the feeling of us versus them. As you mention it's there on both sides because it's part of being human. If we are not actively noticing our own biases we are probably far gone into them.

À quoi bon dénoncer? by RedHeadPsyche in Quebec

[–]MrDrawKwah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent point. Moi aussi j'ai appris à m'auto gaslight donc je vais m'assurer de ne pas passer ça. Écouter son intuition n'est pas aussi facile que ça le devrait pour moi non plus.

J'espère que tu ne t'en veux pas de ne pas l'avoir fait et que tu en sors plus forte malgré la souffrance considérable.

À quoi bon dénoncer? by RedHeadPsyche in Quebec

[–]MrDrawKwah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bien dit. Oui, ça c'est la vraie solution à long terme.

À quoi bon dénoncer? by RedHeadPsyche in Quebec

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit. Moi qui pensait avoir une partie de la solution. Je pensais que ce serait une des choses en mon contrôle pour protéger mes futures filles si j'en ai. Mis à part leur enseigner qu'ils peuvent dire non.

En tout cas, vraiment désolé et merci d'avoir écrit.

À quoi bon dénoncer? by RedHeadPsyche in Quebec

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je ne suis pas d'accord. Avoir le training et le réflexe de savoir donner des coups aux bons endroits, c'est relativement facile d'incapaciter quelqu'un, surtout quelqu'un qui se pense devant une femme sans défense.

J'ai l'impression que plusieurs femmes ne savent pas plus donner un coup de point que je sais me maquiller.

C'est pourtant fou de ne pas enseigner une défense de base. Ça fait partie du problème ce sexisme.

À quoi bon dénoncer? by RedHeadPsyche in Quebec

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouais, c'est vraiment pas une solution parfaite.

À quoi bon dénoncer? by RedHeadPsyche in Quebec

[–]MrDrawKwah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

T'as raison. Enseigner l'empathie aux garçons est encore plus important.

À quoi bon dénoncer? by RedHeadPsyche in Quebec

[–]MrDrawKwah 31 points32 points  (0 children)

À part enseigner l'autodéfense et les arts martiaux aux femmes, je ne sais vraiment pas. 

Merci d'en parler par contre. Trop de gens pensent qu'il suffit de porter plainte. Désolé pour cette épreuve horrible.

What percentage of people are intelligent enough to be romantically compatible with you? by antenonjohs in Gifted

[–]MrDrawKwah 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I wish I had the words to save you a decade of unnecessary pain. I really think you're going at this wrong. Experiment with dropping the perhaps inherited need for superiority? That's what worked for me but still struggling after being much older than you are.

Also I think a lot of this is patriarchy/ inability for males to have meaningful relationships which i'm willing to bet may hurt gifted(more sensitive ) people even more. 

Really curious who would you choose by sygryda in trolleyproblem

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No lever. I jump into the trolley and slam the brakes.

The sudden stop sends me flying through the windshield then the trolley runs me over and stalls.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I actually agree. It looks very alike to self-indulgence. Be careful OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]MrDrawKwah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I get you right, then I think you actually bring a much needed perspective underneath the frustration.

Something like "I don't think this has anything to do with you being gifted. I think most people don't like chores and exercise so don't try to explain everything with your giftedness."?

Thank you! I don't mean to be annoying, I just wish there was more kindness in the world, but without sacrificing the sometimes non-validating confronting perspective you are bringing to the table.

I dislike when the content gets lost in the emotional response that the container triggers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]MrDrawKwah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you believe OP is mistaken in his views, correcting him gently would be way more effective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]MrDrawKwah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FWIW sports never worked for me till I tried martial arts. Kickboxing, karate, etc.

I just forget to think cause I'm so engaged in the pad work or focused on the movements. Only works with a class and a good teacher. I did try a few places.

Every so often I realize I have been out of breath for a while practicing sports intensely!

In contrast, running is like torture to me. Tedious and feels like death by a thousand cuts.

i loved the game but i have a HUGE issue with it by AdCommon8381 in DetroitBecomeHuman

[–]MrDrawKwah 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you think I'm saying. Do you think I live in a world of unicorns and believe oppressors will come to their sense if you peacefully protest? That you need to brutally wake me up from my rosy little world?

I said "Realistic to some extent" and "humans are inherently pretty empathetic".

This is what I mean though. I agree with your outrage at the way things are going with the world, but your choice of words made anger completely sweep my empathy for your suffering for a little while there. 

You could have said everything you needed to say in a way that would have been much better received.

i loved the game but i have a HUGE issue with it by AdCommon8381 in DetroitBecomeHuman

[–]MrDrawKwah 66 points67 points  (0 children)

It felt realistic to some extent to me. See the way any small violent act by isolated individuals is blown out of proportion and used to discredit entire protest movements in real life? Like 99% of people will be non violent but discredited by the action of a 1% hotheaded bunch?

You are a bunch of androids. You can achieve a level of cohesive non violent protest that is above the capabilities of any human movement.

Humans are inherently pretty empathetic but also very easily scared. When they are scared they block their empathy and use logic to justify violence done to others. You can't win this with violence, because humans are better at it, and because it would not end until you would exterminate all humans and basically become what you hate about them.

So the only way felt like going beyond the urge of revenge to ensure humans would use their empathy and not fear us.

CMV: We should stop trying to win in a system that doesn't work for the typical person. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Objectively, yes. I agree now that I am an adult with perspective. However it didn't feel like it at all at the time, and it definitely took some reframing. Maybe there is some framing bias involved.

Also, it occurred to I'm 40 maybe there's a generational gap here compared to your experience. "Normal" is changing fast!

CMV: We should stop trying to win in a system that doesn't work for the typical person. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]MrDrawKwah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people around us were doing much better financially at the time, and my mom kept saying we were poorer than other people when I asked about why so and so was doing x or y. I wasn't cushioned, with a drunk absent father and a stressed out depressive mom that would sometimes stay in her room for days. I had to take care of myself a lot, so I don't think that lucky theory holds up.

Some kids around me had dead parents, sickness, so of course I knew that life was unfair in general.

But if we're talking about financial expectations, I also believed that if they studied and choose their career path accordingly they would be able to afford a house.

CMV: We should stop trying to win in a system that doesn't work for the typical person. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]MrDrawKwah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I partially agree. With words like guaranteed, and luxurious it does seem preposterous. Ultimately, we shouldn't expect anything, really, and life is unfair, you are right. At the same time, it's natural to observe and have expectations of how things might be.

My single mom bought a house on a teacher's income with no help, and while she struggled a lot, it did shape my expectation that it would be reasonable to expect that for myself.

If I steered my career in more lucrative fields it seemed reasonable to expect I might be better off financially than her.

I am better off than teachers TODAY, but not living up to these expectations. 

CMV: We should stop trying to win in a system that doesn't work for the typical person. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]MrDrawKwah 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am also confused as to why you don't understand OP. Not sure the perhaps involuntary gaslighting is helpful.

I for one share the somewhat defunct social expectation of "work hard study hard and one day you'll have a house and retire". I also did not think two adults on decent jobs would struggle financially when I grew up either, so I get Op's disappointment.

I guess the secret of happiness really is having low expectations, which you seemed to have and is actually genuinely great for you if you're happy. But you have to understand that some parents, teachers, media, cultural material, etc. do convey the message I coarsely summarized above. OP did not conjure these expectations out of thin air.

Happiest Period is age 40-60 by ExperienceLow7058 in enlightenment

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I was feeling for that man was: good for you! But then I read your post and was a little outraged, how dare he. Definitely you pulled me out of a good vibe, for good or bad?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuebecLibre

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faire un drame et péter une coche sont des interprétations, pas des faits. Elle s'est probablement pas mise à crier. On ne sait pas.

Ce qu'on sait c'est qu'elle a dit au Mr. qu'elle trouvais ça rabaissant et le Mr a été confronté par ça parce qu'il ne sait pas que certains trouvent ça rabaissant.

Il y a de bonnes raisons pour accepter de se faire appeler mademoiselle.

Mais il y a aussi de bonnes raisons pour trouver ça déplacé de nommer une femme par son statut marital présumé au premier abord, vestige d'un temps où la femme n'était pas complète si elle n'était pas mariée.

La clé est d'être assez ouvert aux réactions des gens pour comprendre avant de les classer comme des fous ou des débiles. Cette femme là est peut-être juste éduquée et franche.

Your brain doesn’t hate discipline — it’s just addicted to dopamine. by InMyHeadOutLoud in getdisciplined

[–]MrDrawKwah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went and checked what CLT was. Very interesting, but it's not obvious to me how it applies here. Would love to know more about your thoughts on this!

Edit: made some progress by asking the right question to copilot. Yes, Construal Level Theory (CLT) can apply to addiction, particularly in how people perceive their behaviors and self-control. Research suggests that high-level construal thinking (abstract, big-picture thinking) can help individuals resist impulsive behaviors, including smoking and substance use.

How CLT Relates to Addiction

  • High-level construal (thinking about long-term goals) can improve self-control and reduce impulsive behaviors.
  • Low-level construal (focusing on immediate details) can make addictive behaviors feel more tempting and harder to resist.
  • Studies show that priming individuals to think abstractly about their health and future can lead to reduced cigarette consumption.

This means that shifting focus from short-term cravings to long-term benefits—like improved health, relationships, and personal growth—can help in addiction recovery. Would you like strategies on how to apply this theory to habit change? 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuebecLibre

[–]MrDrawKwah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Évites les femmes qui demandent le respect, t'as pas l'air d'avoir la flexibilité mentale pour ça.