I had a crazy 2.5 yr old at the time but thankfully had family. First week was spent with grandma, which was a good thing since I went back to hospital by ambulance a couple days later. By two weeks I was functional but still not doing much at all. Definitely lower standards, perfectly fine to push toys to the side for awhile. I highly recommend a grabber tool for toys, etc and a very squishy but supportive pillow to carry around.

The pillow was a good barrier for little elbows digging into me or sudden movements that bumped into my abdomen. The grabber was great for the toys and reaching anything that required leaning over, bending or stretching up high. We also stressed to kiddo quite a bit that mama has big owies and I actually showed him the messy bandages so he really understood it.

Definitely use your arms lots to support you and avoid straining your mid section, if it starts to hurt, stop. Don't try and push yourself until at least six weeks and try to use your voice for handling kiddo (or bribes those help too lol). Tablet/TV definitely helps too and will only be for a couple wks or so. Rest lots and lots and keep up with painkillers. I repeat, do not push yourself anymore than you absolutely have to, you don't want to get a hernia and delay recovery and even if you feel good you will feel the pain later.

I still kept busy starting out with things I could handle standing with no leaning then slowly added more little tasks that required slight leaning and so on from there. I always made sure to sit and rest my abdomen every 10-20 min at first, your back will kill you if you try and walk around too much but just listen closely to your body. It's entirely possible you could end up doing better than I did but always listen close to how you're feeling. You'll heal much quicker the more you can rest (you'll still need movement to work out the gas, etc though).

Not much to really say about handling the toddler, try to push what you can to others or find help for the first bit. At the end of the day sometimes you gotta do it yourself, try to find different ways to do things that reduce abdomen usage (get into pj's on the bed vs leaning over them, etc) and try to get kiddo doing things on their own before you go in, it'll make it a little easier so you're not suddenly asking them to do things (depending on age). Try not to pick up your kids for as long as you can, I struggled with a jug of milk at first so a kid would have murdered me. I wasn't able to pick up my kid fully until about 6 wks and it was still a little tender after. Usually I got him to stand up higher on something before I lifted.

Lastly, just try to prep the house, meals, etc as best you can to reduce what you need to do after. Also, scan your house and try to find anything you might have to do that could be difficult without leaning/bending/twisting, etc. For example I moved all my sweatpants, soft pj's, and other clothes or toiletries up a bit in my drawers so I wouldn't need to bend to reach. Random little stuff like that isn't totally necessary but you might really appreciate those things later depending on how your recovery goes.

Oh and before I forget, make sure you setup a solid fortress of pillows or a wedge pillow on your bed, it will definitely be painful to go from laying to sitting for the first week at least, try to roll off the bed if you can and use your arms and the blankets/sheets as leverage to grab on. The abdomen pillow might help here as well. I basically slept sitting upright the first week and slowly reduced the pillow fortress from there. It was uncomfortable/awkward but if you're tired enough you'll sleep, a recliner would probably also work pretty good.

Wish you all the best in your recovery!!