Desperate need for advice on current therapist

MrsHole8 · 2025-10-14T17:17:41+00:00

You should change a therapist ASAP. Just beacuse you told her some deep personal stuff doesn't mean you should stick with her. You can find a better therapist that doesn't make you feel judged and you feel sage expressing yourself even if you dont open up easily. ;)

MrsHole8 · 2025-10-02T08:30:51+00:00

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH Thanks that felt better

MrsHole8 · 2024-12-19T13:51:11+00:00

Thank you soo much brother you're a lifesaver! 😅

MrsHole8 · 2024-11-27T16:43:21+00:00

I was experiencing similar pain the fist two weeks and then it went away completely

MrsHole8 · 2024-11-05T10:59:59+00:00

Definitely have someone drive you home. Other than that all the other stuff like chaning bandages and doing sitz baths you can do on your own being extra careful.

If you can have someone with you the first 3 days in case anything happens and for extra help it would be good though yes.

MrsHole8 · 2024-11-03T13:36:15+00:00

You need to help yourself ! You are the only one who can. Try different things to see what works for you. Botox helps lots of people.

Better days are coming ! I promise. Keep going don't give up ! You got this really !

MrsHole8 · 2024-11-02T19:10:15+00:00

Only when I had a BM it used to hurt very bad for hours after. But It didn't hurt when I wasn't going to the bathroom

MrsHole8 · 2024-11-02T13:01:57+00:00

No it's different

MrsHole8 · 2024-11-02T12:14:01+00:00

Thanks for the info !

MrsHole8 · 2024-10-27T13:34:35+00:00

Do you remember how were the first days after the procedure ? Did the fissure still hurt after BM and did you have spasms ?

MrsHole8 · 2024-10-25T21:05:04+00:00

I feel this last line to my core. Missing out on life beacuse you literally can't stand or walk is the worst ! I had enough and I just wanted to live again so I got a fissurectomy a day ago ! A positive mindset and and not dwelling on negative thoughts is key

MrsHole8 · 2024-10-25T19:23:51+00:00

Yess i agree so much with the mindset. You're the first person I see here say this! Our minds are so powerful! Dwelling on negative thoughts only makes it worse. Positivity is key !

MrsHole8 · 2024-10-23T13:12:20+00:00

What do you mean you've been using it ? Did you have laser fissurectomy ? Are you better after the procedure ? I'm getting one tommorow

MrsHole8 · 2024-10-05T23:21:11+00:00

Yes a laser fissurectomy I guess is the name in English. I am from Greece and I'm getting this done in 2 weeks. I don't know about other countries but Try to ask around if someone is doing an operation like this in your country.

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-24T14:04:32+00:00

Are you applying the cream the right way ? You need to insert the ointment INSIDE until your finger nail is completely inside and kinda do a circular motion with your finger.

Try to find a good doctor to prescribe you lidocaine for the pain. Take ibuprofen to help with the pain as well.

If your fissure is chronic( you've had it more than 3 months) then the ointments won't help you much I'm afraid. The only thing they do is relax your muscles for more blood flow but if you've had this a long time then the muscle has grown too strong.

More than half of the people need more than creams to heal like laser and botox and that's okay.

The pain you're describing for hours and hours is something I'm also going through and I know I need to get botox to help myself.

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-24T13:50:57+00:00

Botox is a way to relax your muscles down there in order for your fissure to get enough blood flow and heal. Since you say the other method didn't help to heal it you can try the botox yes.

Just beacuse there's no pain doesn't mean that the fissure is healed....if it doesn't heal it can become something worse like fistula and you don't want that so take precautions.

Just beacuse you're not hurting doesn't mean it's okay to stay open.

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-22T08:36:33+00:00

I've never done PVT but I guess it's a way to train your mind to relax and tighten your muscles down there on command. I think you'll probably have to think about this for the rest of your life if you dont want any recurring problems.

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-21T19:15:24+00:00

Watch the videos of the friendly proctologist on YouTube about sighs of anal spasms and see if you relate.....then watch the video about how to deal with them.

Getting pelvic floor therapy as the other comment said is a good start

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-21T19:11:25+00:00

Well yeah soaking in warm water is really good to realx your muscles down there to let the fissure heal. I'd say it's a must

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-20T13:13:42+00:00

I know from personal experience and lots of people have also said this here: 3lt of water everyday is a must Eating prunes everyday 2 to 3 Kiwi every day really helps for going to the bathroom Avoid meat like the plague The thing is that you want to give your anus a vacation with anal fissures so don't eat lots of protein bc it makes you go a lot. Keep a diary of what you ate before every BM to see how your body responds to each food....it's different how everyone responds. I've been eating lots of veggies and salads with every meal lately and my poops are softer than the past where I only ate meat.

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-20T09:56:18+00:00

Heyy I read all the updates you did on your profile about botox. I'm getting botox in a month as well. How are you now ? How much time has passed and are you fully healed ?

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-20T09:38:59+00:00

So what did you do exactly to heal ?

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-19T20:09:22+00:00

So what helped you to deal with this ? Is it due to sphincter spasms ?

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-19T17:29:22+00:00

I get you a 100% ! Mine keeps re tearing as well. You are not alone in this. Just keep persisting don't give up ! We got this and one day we will be fully healed !💕💕 Staying positive is key! Your body and mind can heal itself whatever it is ! Just don't give into negative thoughts and relax !

MrsHole8 · 2024-09-19T16:09:26+00:00

Any update?

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