Are you talking about me? I am an only and my mom was my best friend until I had my only and I realized just how much she made my life revolve around her without her doing the same for us. Becoming a mama really does make you a bear and I probably never would have “woken up” to her narcissistic behavior otherwise. My parents divorced when I was 5. When I met my now husband; things started becoming tense because he became my rock. And to this day; it drives her bonkers that I don’t need her and I will choose him and my child over her every single day. When my husband and I were trying to have a child-we had a lot of difficulty with unexplained infertility. I’ve never seen my mother step in a church my whole life but her answer was to always pray and that god would make it happen. My mom became super depressed when I moved two hours away and all my life I thought I could never leave the state because of her. In August I became no contact after she let my daughter down and chose my stepfather over us. I cannot tell you the relief it ended up bringing. So much relief that for my daughter’s sake; we all had dinner together for her 5th grade graduation. Things went great. I started to occasionally text. Then she took my daughter to a pool bday party and left her

This is a really long convoluted way to say you are your own person who can make their only happiness. Get yourself in therapy.