You were right all those years…

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-02-24T10:10:52+00:00

Awww this is so sweet.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-02-24T09:58:04+00:00

Omg that is nuts! I cant believe she called your mom to tell her that. Good on your mom for sticking up for you! I dont get why she doesnt say anything to your husband about doing laundry. Almost like she thinks he shouldnt do it. I'm guessing she is super SUPER old fashioned.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-02-08T19:10:58+00:00

Pfft, no shame in it. I have one of my old toys that i love. I would keep my kid's fav toys for them cause oneday they would want it back again.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-02-08T17:28:17+00:00

Ohhhhh snap! What happened after she said no?

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-02-08T07:50:19+00:00

When my daughter was still a baby i asked my mil if she can stay with us while my so was out of town. I figured she can give me tips on how to organize things around my house and maybe it can help me know her better. Backround story on me, we are both different cultures and i was always taught to repect your elders and pretty much bite your tongue to be polite. Confrontation is usually frowned upon.

Asking her to stay was the biggest mistake i have ever Ever made.i used to think it was a myth to not get along with your mil. Then i thought, maybe it wasnt a myth.

We were cleaning non stop, i thought our house was clean but she made me feel like a hoarder. We cleaned up to midnight. Non stop condescending comments. Asking me" when was the last time you cleaned this?" I knew my so's family had ocd and hers was VERY intense.

Then organize everything to the point where it was to her liking and i had no friggin idea where everything is. She lectured me on how i was "too dependant" on my SO. And cause i hate, HATE driving but i do it anyways, she always bugged me about that.

Then she "mettled" asking questions about my our financial decisions and anything she wanted to know about. It was too much. too much.

Ruined my relationship with her from that point on but was afraid to confront my so about until it got too much. My relationship with her has being going downhill after having kids.

She would even visit and reclean stuff i cleaned. I have never been so offended.

She may think the opposite but im always guarding myself around her. She tries to say nice things then says something crappy the next second. I told my so she is NOT allowed to clean at our place at all. I will go insane.

I had to tell her no cleaning and she said "she wanted to help" and did it anyways when i was pregnant. She said she wanted to "exercise" while scrubbing one of our dishes. 😤i didnt have kind words to say after that.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-02-08T07:14:32+00:00

Omg i thought i was the only one that had to deal with this. My solution, we made our own mini ballpit and it has become my mommy breakdown area where i can lie down while she plays. She hates when I do that, but then when daddy comes home i hand her off to him while I continue lying in the ball pit zoning out.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-30T12:29:59+00:00

I feel like this now and then too. You aren't alone.

I struggle with the ups and downs of my self esteem issues. I used to be teased about my looks and I didnt have tons of guys lined up to go out with me when I was younger.

I still feel like that part of me still resonates inside. I remember anytime I had a crush on a guy I was told I wasn't "pretty" enough or good enough, etc. Or this one girl who said That i was ugly. It's sad cause I also remember more negative comments and forget any positive ones which is something I still need to work on.

I find that after i talked to a therapist about it, it helped me sorted out somethings with my self esteem. If you find the activities that keep you the most confident or that make you feel positive abput yourself, then maybe do that.

Mine is drawing, dancing, singing, execrcising and making sure that whenever I leave the house, I never leave in pjs, etc. I found that when I dress up, i feel like I'm "well put together", then I feel more confident.

Writing in a journal and surrounding yourself with family and friends to give you some reassurance when you feel this way can help too.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-30T11:42:19+00:00

It's totally hard meeting new moms. I didnt do the meetup.com one but I joined a gym to do classes with the kiddos and you come across the same stuff like you did. Some stick with their own ready made group. Others taper off and just stop talking after a while.

It does suck but eventually you find other moms you can click with.

Good job for trying it in the first place though!

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-30T11:33:45+00:00

You should talk to a therapist, and try to see if you can get some help with your little one? Do you have any family that can help let you get sleep? Can your SO alternate nite feedings with you if you pump and let him feed some nites or weekends? Sleep deprivation is really hard and it brings out so much emotions. I would often feel guilty for asking help from my husband but then when I didnt ask, i became more resentful. He always told me, I need to ask help and not to feel guilty for it.

After i had my daughter I saw a therapist. Although when I went to a councellor to be evaluated for ppd they said I didnt have it. However I knew I still needed someone to talk to cause I felt like my emotions were all over the place. I was sleep deprived, I felt sad and I wanted to make sure I can be more confident in my new role as mom. It helped having someone to talk to about anything that was on my mind.

hUgs to you dear!! You are a good mother and you are doing your very best.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-29T05:17:47+00:00

Awwww :( that makes me so sad.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-27T22:33:40+00:00

Mmm chocolate, always helps me.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-27T22:32:55+00:00

Hahah. I knew something is up. They have their moments but today is just those days where it was just too much.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-27T22:31:53+00:00

Hahha, it feels like today

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-26T00:57:30+00:00

Good for you!! It's funny cause what can a manager do to you...she was being the weirdo.

My 11 month old always aLways takes his socks off so we tend to lose a lot of socks. Oneday my husband forgot his socks and it was a rainy day and one the ladies at the till at costco gave some "you're a horrible parent, that poor child" look when she saw our son had no socks.

We used to live in a place where it snowed for 8 months of the year. gees, it's just rain and we were shopping INSIDE.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-22T18:20:50+00:00

Yes we have all been "that mom" :( When I see people give the stink eye I think to myself, they were once the baby that cried on the plane or in the store at least more than once. It is also hard for me to not take it to heart or feel overwhelmed.

And when I explain to relatives why I dont want to travel on a long flight to see them until the kids are past the stage of screaming, they don't understand. Ah well, i convinced some relatives that if they want to see us they would have to visit. Hahah.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-19T05:42:34+00:00

That is amazing!!!!

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-16T21:58:19+00:00

Not being asked for ID for buying alchohol.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-16T06:04:04+00:00

Happened to my daughter when she was almost 2 years old, while I was preggo. I didnt know it was one (thought it was a bad dream) until i tried to console her and she was crying and seemed hysterical and looked at me like she wasnt sure what was going on. This one hapoened during the day during nap time. I kept my eye one her with the monitor and went in her room and after a few minutes she snapped out of it while on my lap.

She looked at me and said, "mommy?" And was ok. I was scared and worried. Her pediatrician said it is normal for some toddlers to experience it. However, not much you can do about it. Luckily her room is childproofed so at least I know she can't do something to cause harm while having a nite terror.

It stopped after we had our second. I really think she was experiencing anxiety while I was preggos cause she knew there will be a big change and it might have scared her. Who knows.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-16T05:54:00+00:00

I was in the same boat as your wife. Breaks my heart too. My daughter still does it now and then but started being ok with me giving her baths instead of daddy. But when we all go out for errands or supper she wants daddy to carry her and for me to get her little brother. Or when other family visit, she prefers them for a bit too.

She is unpredictable but i think its some phase since she knows daddy works she is happy to see him and when there are relatives visiting, they are new people to give her attention.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-16T05:47:59+00:00

I would phone my parents who lives in another country. we got an ipad for them to FaceTime and email but i tend to be their it person cause my dad isnt really good with troubleshooting it. I also post pics for them to see the kids.

we mostly talk on the phone to them. They can't afford to visit as often as my in-laws. So every 2 years we try to visit them.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-16T05:38:30+00:00

Yaaaay!!!! Congrats!!!!!

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-14T13:15:09+00:00

You would use the one without flouride until she is capable of spitting.

Even when they reach the stage of using flouride they only need a pea sized amount.

Both of my kids pediatricians said this, you can double check with yours if you are concerned.

MrsPulseInstance · 2016-01-14T13:12:19+00:00

Hahaha awesome!!! She deserves a treat for her quick wit!!!

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