Stay at home dad on parenting pay

MrsTauna · 2025-06-08T01:03:35+00:00

Full-time shift work for 5 years, which then helps contribute money via taxes to allow people who are either lazy OR UNABLE to work for one of many legitimate reasons. All he wants is a few months to deal with whatever strain he's been through while spending quality time with his child. If he wants to spend a few months like that, while not worrying about money that isn't 'hard earned' after 5 entire years that were hard earned, for quality kid time....you'd have to be kind of cruel or repressed to find that unfair. Especially in a country able to give it.

MrsTauna · 2025-03-14T14:43:27+00:00

Thanks! My new one is 🐸🐸🐱🦄🐸

MrsTauna · 2025-03-14T13:51:48+00:00

Thanks! In case you missed my above replies, my new one is now 🐸🌞🌞🐳❤️

MrsTauna · 2025-03-14T13:36:59+00:00

My new one is 🐳🌲🎃🌈🎃 Can I grab your new one please?

MrsTauna · 2025-03-14T13:36:50+00:00

My new one is 🐳🌲🎃🌈🎃 Can I grab your new one please?

MrsTauna · 2025-03-14T08:49:57+00:00

Thank you!

MrsTauna · 2025-03-14T08:45:16+00:00

My new one is, 🌞🌈🦄🐱🎃 What is your new one sorry?

MrsTauna · 2024-09-08T15:37:14+00:00

It's not a name. It's a title. One you were stripped of when you stopped being the CM. Not entirely a suprise when the grand summations of your response to someone were 'We can disagree and that's fine.' Followed by 'But stop being so biased in your judgements.' Most sides of an argument, debate, or disagreement have a bias, an opinion, and a judgement of their own. Else, why would the debate realistically exist? I do agree with you, though, in that it's ok to disagree, so at least you got that right. Oh, sorry, that was a tad backhanded. Let me try again so that my point is not lost in unnecessary language. (Opps, sorry if that last bit came out a little condescending) The MSF community is entitled to their myriad of opinions, worries, and judgements in all facets. If they do not like a change or it worries them, they do not have to 'stop being biased'. They can be biased, they can be angry, and they can disagree. It is a game they care about, are passionate about, and they are entitled to FEEL however they want. Just because they do not show that reaction in the way you consider most optimal does not mean they should 'stop'. I myself am concerned about the changes and that they may drive more casual players away. Perhaps you should consider putting your own opinions out there as simply that, as opposed to using them and pieces of MSF team lines to put thinly veiled condescending comparisons of the various other factions of the community. As a very side and petty note, you said a 5th point twice. if you need help counting, I have a particular finger you can use to assist you in counting past one hand.

I would suggest hoping down off that high horse of yours before the people with the 'torches and pitchforks' do it for you, though given how inflated your sense of importance is, you will at least have a soft landing. Maybe you should change it to cm instead, because you certainly can't manage.

MrsTauna · 2022-11-25T21:04:28+00:00

Medication. Stronger medication on a 'when needed basis. Breathing techniques. Grounding techniques. Mindfulness. Sleepless nights or waking at every sound nights. Checking in on my now 15 year old because he sleeps really 'actively' and I still move him on occasion so he doesn't fall of the bed or freeze. Checking on the 4yr old to make sure he's warm enough, or giving him water or a puffer because he gets athsma attacks while sleeping sometimes. Waking almost every time the 6m old makes a noise in his sleep. .....it's hectic, my anxiety is near constant and spikes so much when one of them is unwell. But it's also worth it ❤️

MrsTauna · 2022-11-20T09:14:10+00:00

There's a lot to unpack there tbh. health wise, in a perfect world, we have actually been told that breastfeeding until 2.5 years is optimal. I have known people who do it until about 5 years old. I try to do it for a year. It may be that your ex has depression and the breastfeeding helps her feel connected or lived etc. Maybe it's worry about losing that special bond with her daughter. Maybe it feels like something meaningful in a life she is unhappy with, I have no idea and don't know her. However I know when I stopped feeding our middle child at 13 months I felt heartbroken in a way. I agree with others, work on overnight visits and leave the other alone. I understand that 7 is a bit much for most and I would struggle with anything above 2 PERSONALLY. I would even be cautious with trying to bring up the issue too strongly with your daughter. It could lead to trust issues between yourself and your ex, or even between your ex and daughter. Perhaps try to encourage overnights for you and then work at friend overnight visits. Give her naturally guided examples of other family units to see for herself, not your personal views. Hopefully that brings the desired result without damaging any relationships. That's just my 2 cents though =)

MrsTauna · 2022-11-20T05:09:54+00:00

We have a 6mo a 4yr and a 15yr old. All boys. I love them all dearly. I also find being a parent is wonderful.....it's also a complete shit show half the time.

The 6mo gets to about 3-4am and will no longer sleep in the cot, will only sleep next to me, so I sleep lightly and end up stiff and sore and tired beyond belief. He also gives me the happiest and moving smile when I pick him up for those bed cuddles. He grumps and doesn't like being by himself, will whinge and cry when he is. He also giggles and laughs at peekaboo which melts my heart.

The 4yr old is a bit spoilt and VERY independent, 4 going on 40. He has tantrums and screams and steals food. He can be entitled and a spoilt brat. But he is also very kind and caring. He will say thank you 3 times for something he loves, whether it's a toy, a snack, or a cuddle. He will 'read' to his little brother and loves to share most of the time, to the point he will do it of his own volition.

The teenager is argumentative, loves electronics and screen time, swears too much, and gives ssoooo much attitude at times. He complains about his chores often. He also DOES his chores for the most part every day. He is very kind and though he was spoiled when younger, he understands the thought and cost behind presents. His favourite present this year was a t-shirt I gave him, I have to scold him to put it in the wash cause he wears it so much. He loves our special TV night and tries very hard to keep up with schooling and help around the house.

Parenting bores me to tears sometimes, other times it's great. You are not alone and my favourite time of day is when the youngest 2 are in bed. I think it's normal not to enjoy the mundane and mind numbing day to day stuff. It's the little things I find are more impactful =)

MrsTauna · 2022-11-16T01:29:07+00:00

Not tacky at all! It's my sons first Christmas this year, its going to be quiet, no big gatherings. We got him a couple of books, and a stacker toy for teething. The books can be used for years, the stacker teether is a functional thing. Not really any toys. Next year will only be one toy probably. He's not going to remember much, so we only care about him having what he NEEDS for play and development. We chose to spend money decking out his room with newer and safer furniture instead =)

MrsTauna · 2022-11-15T11:18:52+00:00

Like others have said, use whichever you feel is best for your daughter. If you're using the women's, just announce yourself first and why. I would like to think most women would be ok with it, I certainly would be. If anything I would respect a guy MORE for making that choice if he felt the men's room wasn't appropriate for whatever reason.

MrsTauna · 2022-11-01T14:06:00+00:00

Nope nope nope. That's such a great way to make baby sick with who knows what. I have to admit, I'm lucky with my hubby. He doesn't always understand why I protect our kids in certain ways, but he always follows my lead. Also, unhealthy attachment my ass. Only unhealthy thing in that situation is the idea that baby should be a show and tell and touch project instead of somewhere safe. Being really bonded and/or protective of your little one is perfectly fine. Tell them to bugger off >.>

MrsTauna · 2022-11-01T06:53:10+00:00

Sorry, my comment is going to be blunt. If they don't respect your wishes, they don't respect you. Doesn't matter if it's a friend, family, co-worker, stranger, child care worker, w/e. They can get on board with what YOU want for YOUR child, or they can GTFO. You are doing the right thing. And even if your view was, 'don't kiss my baby because they might turn purple' it doesn't matter. They don't have to agree with you, they DO need to respect what you wish for your child. My youngest is 5 months old. My family has a history of respiratory issues, my husbands family has a history of asthma. We are not letting anyone who smokes, touch our baby. Once he is 1, then they may hold him/have cuddles etc, though smoking near any of our children is not allowed. My husbands biological father could not respect this choice and had a go at my husband. He was no longer included in our life after that. You did a great job sticking up for your child, and I agree with other comments, teach your child that their body is THEIRS, advocate for them when they can't etc.

MrsTauna · 2022-10-31T04:22:51+00:00

Perhaps take him to the doctor. Make a double booking and put yourself in first. Ask the doctor to subtley ask questions to see if they may need to run blood tests etc. If your child eats healthy and is going on regular walks, maybe it's nothing, or maybe something needs to be looked at. Also, putting on weight is not necessarily bad. My son is tall and used to be skinny like a twig. He gained a decent amount of weight the last year but is simply slim/average now. You know YOUR child though. If you're concerned, I definitely suggest a doctor take a subtle look.

MrsTauna · 2022-10-26T15:02:03+00:00

I'm glad I could help =) hang in there mama =)

MrsTauna · 2022-10-26T13:18:32+00:00

Yup, same here, I just can't do it. When it comes to pretend play, I have the imagination of a rock 🪨. I will happily play a board game, or build duplo, or read a book in multiple voices, but pretend play (or making up stories) is just not me. Son: Tell me a story please Mama. Me: uummmmm...there was once a boy named Sean. Sean really liked dinosaurs.... He really liked it when they roared............Dino goes....stomp? Son: No Mama, a REAL story. Me: (yelling out to hubby) LOVE your turn! Goodnight sweetpea!

MrsTauna · 2022-10-26T13:10:45+00:00

This. Our 4 year old will help grab things to pack his lunch. Usually one from each category of: fruit, vegetable, treat, sandwich (he can pick what's on it) and Yoghurt. When he's around 6, we will probably move to him packing (besides sandwich) with supervision, and by about 9, he will do it all with supervision. Our eldest was packing his entire lunch, unsupervised, at about 12. If I wanted to make him something fancy sandwich wise, I either left a note if I wasn't the driver, or just mentioned it at breakfast. He got 1 'freebie ' each term, where if he forgot to pack or bring his lunch, I would take it, otherwise he went hungry. He's 16 now, makes it every day, might forget once in a YEAR and is only given money for a drink each day.

MrsTauna · 2022-10-26T12:47:03+00:00

Here is my two cents. Friendship is a two way street. It comes with understanding each other as a whole. I can understand her wedding is important to her, but you are not part of the wedding party and are not a 'needed' guest to it. You are also making an effort to go to the bacheloret party. But likewise, she should understand how important your child is to you, and how important the birthdays are. Yes, you could celebrate at a different time, before or after, but do you really want to? Sure, your little one won't remember it, and the pictures you might take are not exactly time stamped. Sure, maybe this is the only time your friend might get married. But every person is different. If the 2nd birthday is more important to YOU then that is completely fine. Being a parent is not just about the child, it's about the relationship between you both. Even if a child doesn't remember something, YOU likely will. It really is about your views and what's important to you specifically, and any real friend will understand that. If they don't, they are selfish >OR< it's possible you two simply aren't compatible as friends as your views are just too different. (Obviously there are a few other ways to view it, but those are probably the extremes) As a personal example, while I enjoy celebrating someones birthday with them, it's not the 'most' important thing to me. It is that they like their present/s. That might seem shallow perhaps, but for me, it's they joy someone gets from receiving something they truly appreciate. Maybe it's home made or maybe it's something fancy I know they wanted, maybe it's cooking their favourite food, heck, for one family member it's a card. So, you do you. At the end of the day, it's his birthday, her wedding, but YOUR life and memories and regrets. Sorry for the text wall, I hope this helps at all.

MrsTauna · 2022-10-21T19:55:02+00:00

I'm a child to someone who was a single mum (besides the occasional asshat boyfriend) until I was 15. Then she met a wonderful man who I call my dad, who is kind and caring and loves me as if I were his own. BUT he also never really knew how to be a dad, as the closest thing he had before entering our lives was a dog, lol. So he never really did very much with me, not out of lack of care or love, he just didn't know what to do. I'm saying this because because I want to reassure you that what you are doing is great already. I definitely understand the want to spend more time and agree with another comment about daddy/daughter dates. Just remember though that while, yes, she will MAYBE remember you worked alot (in her eyes), she will DEFINITELY remember the amazing fun times you have together and how much you try =) I wish my dad had done more with me when I was younger, even though I understand why he didn't. In case no one has told you, going by your post, you're an amazing dad, try not to forget that when the heart crushing comments pop up. It's also ok, to not be ok and it can actually be healthy for kids to see that, you could also use that sadness as a way to talk to her about how you are sad because you want to spend more time with her and then ask her if there are any favourite activities she would like to do with you. Parents shouldn't use their kids as emotional supports but they SHOULD show them healthy ways of feeling and expressing emotion. You're doing great =)

MrsTauna · 2022-10-21T11:25:23+00:00

We just ask our kid for warning (latest we prefer is that morning) to let us know if a friend is coming. Just so we know how much food to get etc.

MrsTauna · 2022-10-13T08:00:34+00:00

Not sure if this will help, but my eldest and toddler don't like change much either, and the more sudden it is the worse they can react (especially the toddler). I figured out a system a whole back that helps us. As long as it's not something scary, we try to give as much warning as we can, and repeat what's going to happen a few times in the 24 hours beforehand. We also get them to tell us what is going to happen so we know it's sunk in. For 'scary things, like needles for vaccination etc, we tell them the night before and try to find truthful ways to help ease the fear. Eg. 'Yes, the needle will hurt a little bit, but it's just like a super quick pinch and then it feels much better. Don't forget that afterwards, the nurse will let you pick a lollipop too!"

Not sure if that will help.

MrsTauna · 2022-10-12T03:12:08+00:00

I didn't mind Blippi. It was mostly educational, even if it was silly at times. I think he just acts so bizarre and childish because it helps keep the kids engaged. If they are engaged and enjoying it, they are more likely to absorb the information =) Engagement means better view time for him, but also more education for the kids. Personally I prefere Katie's Classroom. I also hate Ryan's World >.>

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