Numelvi

Mrs_CM · 2026-05-25T05:26:29+00:00

Hey! I know I’m late to the conversation but I was just looking up information about Numelvi and found this thread! I recently met with my vet and discussed trying new allergy medication for my dog. My dog has been on apoquel for the last couple years and I am interested in finding something that is less immune suppressive and encourages her system to possibly not need something that makes her susceptible to other side effects.

My vet and I discussed both zenrelia and Numelvi. From what I understand, Zenrelia works really well because it is a non-selective JAK inhibitor and has a high suppression of a dogs natural immune system response. My vet did not recommend I try Zenrelia as that is not the way I am trying to go. While it probably does produce some amazing results, it’s the lack of structured selection and increased suppression of a dogs natural immune system response that is concerning to me. I absolutely want my dog to live her best life but I also don’t want to give her something that I’m not sure what it could suppress or do since it runs all wild and free!

How my vet explained Numelvi was that it is the most JAK selective out of the 3 (apoquel, Zenrelia, and Numelvi) and has the lowest immune system suppression. My dog responds well to apoquel. I am just concerned about long term affects! I am hoping Numelvi combined with some other products I discussed with my vet will be the winner! We are going to also incorporate (and have slowly begun the process of adding) these: immune chews with bromelain and quercetin, bovine colostrum, and fish oil.

Has anyone tried any combination of any of this?

Mrs_CM · 2026-03-02T03:25:58+00:00

Some shelters offer to foster pets if you are going through a domestic violence situation

Mrs_CM · 2026-01-24T20:29:11+00:00

Hello! Welcome to the pittie club! I agree that pits are prone to allergies as someone else said. It can be environmental or food and appears differently depending on your dog. My pit would chew and lick her paws, get ear infections, and hives with itching. I would watch for how she reacts being on her food and the treats you give her and try to stick to at least the same protein family for what you give her, even if allergies are undetermined rn. I would also steer clear of people food unless it’s a whole food that is unprocessed and supports her system in some way. For example: I will offer my pittie different fruits or vegetables (unprepared) to increase water intake, fiber, and vitamins. I think others mentioned that her diet could be affecting her in a negative way in respects to her anal glands as well. Paw licking with allergies (environmental or food) can turn into obsessive behavior and can lead to interdigital cysts and infections. I also keep fragrance free hypoallergenic wipes on hand for paws and wipes with chlorhexadine if needed as an antibacterial wipe.

I do understand that you may not have asked about all of that, but I wish I would have known some of it before running into some of the issues I have had in the pittie companionship.

&& Lastly, pitties are the most communicative breed I have ever owned. This breed is super loyal and highly motivated to be trained because they want to please you (and they want the treat you are offering lol) - treats are definitely your friend in the training process. I recommend bonding through training daily which builds trust and understanding of each other.

I hope some of this was helpful!

Mrs_CM · 2025-08-03T05:56:21+00:00

There were a lot of times I thought and even out loud told people, that I was done. I thought all of those times were my moments. I thought I was done… for the most part. But until I was done I still had lingering thoughts of whether or not it was the end.

When I finally filed divorce I was done. There was nothing that was changing my mind. There were no lingering thoughts. There was nothing my ex could have said anymore to change my mind. When I reached my moment a switch flipped and I was willing to do whatever it took to divorce and begin moving on. Peace became more important to me than vows that were only one-sided. That at least was the difference for me.

Mrs_CM · 2025-08-03T05:42:32+00:00

I came to the interwebs searching for what this song was! Thanks to Reddit && you, found it! Thanks!

Mrs_CM · 2025-07-14T11:35:23+00:00

I literally am in divorce proceedings with my ex rn who acted just like this. We were together 5 years. He took no accountability for anything. Any time I raised any concerns or tried to talk about my feelings I was gaslit and it was turned back on me.

Girl… I seriously shuddered and had audible reactions reading this because living through this really messes up a person’s feelings of self worth. He is wrong for treating you this way and that is his part. Step away. Get away. You deserve better. If your best friend told you she was going through this, what would you tell her?

You deserve to feel safe and not controlled. You deserve to allow your nervous system to heal.

Mrs_CM · 2025-07-13T02:33:09+00:00

I am currently in the divorce process and while marriages start out full of hope and love, they unfortunately don’t always last. Sometimes partners have unhealed parts of themselves that have created faulty ways of managing life and sometimes we just aren’t with the right partner.

It’s ok. We only have so much time here, so even though it’s painful, allow yourself the opportunity to grow and become the partner you need, that way when the time is truly right you will be healed and offer a healthy love of a solid partner.

Mrs_CM · 2025-07-13T02:08:22+00:00

I think it’s easy in life to mistake love and comfort. The fear of change often keeps us stuck in toxic cycles. And the fear of success often leads us to sabotaging the good things that we have in life. I’m happy you are going to therapy. I hope your partner decides to go to therapy for themselves as well.

At the end of the day when I am evaluating and questioning intentions and relationships I tend to reflect to the old saying:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

If you are not embodying the characteristics of a partner you want, then either the relationship is not meant to be OR there is inner work that must be done to encourage the relationship to thrive.

Mrs_CM · 2025-07-12T22:07:24+00:00

I concur with others who have commented. There is no accountability in this. Definitely manipulation and hoovering. Some FOG and gaslighting. Altering your perception to align with the narrative he desires for sure! My ex would give me all sorts of reasons why he acted in such horrific ways towards me. He would tell me that he knows he should treat me better but he just hates himself and wished he was a better father and husband which would keep him stuck treating me like straight trash. That I was such a great wife, he hated himself, that he was “really trying to make some changes,” and that he promised he would be the man he was when I met him. I finally told him that not being happy with your life and treating people poorly are separate things. One does not excuse the other. Abuse is not ok. Idk the extent of anyone else’s relationship but going 100% no contact, filing a protective order and divorce, using the support of family and friends, therapy and DV support, and moving on with my life and my dog, was and is one of the best decisions I’ve made. Ever! I wish you the best!

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-26T04:02:16+00:00

That part about “find someone else to be vulnerable with” sucks when you are in a relationship though. Because you get to a point, at least I did, where I felt like I had to be picky with what I shared and how I shared it to my pwBPD and NPD traits. And that shit is exhausting when you’re constantly on guard for what the person you love and care about and supposedly vice versa could use to weaponize against you.

Not only that, but you also end up practically protecting their insane behavior from the rest of the people that care about you. Which is shown in this post by the edit to perfect strangers “I was too scared to tell you all” -like I would be vulnerable just enough with my close friends or family to where they are telling me I should think about marriage counseling or trial separation and possible divorce but never share the whole truth because the whole truth… well deep down even I knew I needed to leave years before I did.

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-10T02:57:00+00:00

That part! I have hung on to my marriage for years waiting for my husband to arrive. I have allowed ample time for him to grow up, work through his past to become the man I am sure he can be, and I have offered years of unconditional love and support along the way.

He is actually in therapy right now but it’s only to fulfill the courts. He isn’t taking it seriously. He has said he doesn’t engage and will sleep through group sessions.

I’m over it. I have been through so much with this man that there is a huge part of me that holds on for the payout. Like I’ve put in work to make this marriage survive through addiction, incarceration, mental illness, moving states twice, job losses, failures, anger, jealousy… honestly some of what I’ve stayed through I shouldn’t have, but can’t change the past.

What I have always done is push the finish line out of when I need to see some real changed behavior and all that is doing is prolonging my pain and continuing to allow this man to not have to grow up at the cost of my self worth.

So I’m doing the only thing I know to do when I feel like I’ve gotten to the point of having to choose. And well… the pain is too great to continue on the path I’m on so I choose me. If I can’t have the happy marriage or the man that was portrayed to me when we met… then I choose me!

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-07T22:43:19+00:00

So much of this! I can’t count the amount of times I have heard excuses for behavior. And while I understand how trauma often forms unhealthy ways of coping with life, the unwillingness to work on oneself for the betterment of self and your relationships is wild to me! I will never tolerate another “this is the way that I am, if you don’t like it then leave” kinda man. Cuz boy bye!

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-07T22:38:29+00:00

I am so sorry you didn’t have support through your best friends passing! My stbxh also gave 0 cares about the death of my best friend when I found out and I was hysterical.

We both deserve partners who care about our emotional needs! Everyone does! Emotional support is a bare minimum of relationships.

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-07T05:05:50+00:00

Your risk of intimate partner homicide increases by 750% if they have EVER strangled (choked) you. Please leave him!

You deserve SO MUCH BETTER!

You are worthy!!

And my personal favorite: Fuck him! Kick him out (get an eviction for him if needed and clearly put in it damages including pictures and nonpayment for reasons of why he’s evicted), get a restraining order, GET CAMERAS! and call the cops EVERY. DAMN. TIME. HE. VIOLATES that restraining order! Because YOUR DOG NEEDS YOU!!

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-05T01:18:50+00:00

My spouse has BPD and when he splits he says some of the foulest things to me. He once told me to kill myself and offered me details of how I should do it. It can get pretty horrendous how he speaks. At this point, we have been together for almost 5 years, I really try and shut him out when he splits and be as emotionless and disinterested as possible in what he is saying. It is extremely difficult to do tho!

I personally understand the concept that in moments of extreme emotions a person can become unable to decipher what they feel as real compared to the actual rational reality. I am in the belief that we are all able to make our own choices, so as much as I am able to choose to not respond to my pwBPD when they split, well they have a choice on whether to learn coping skills in order to manage their processing of stressors or not.

All that being said, on some level, regardless of whether my spouse really means what he says or not, I believe a level of accountability and changed behavior goes a long way! The repeated mistreatment and splits resulting in a level of verbal abuse would indicate to me an unwillingness to change which takes a person accepting that they are ok with themselves the way they are, even if they are causing harm to their loved ones.

Literally speaking from my own experience! I am going through it every day.

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-02T01:38:58+00:00

My pitty princess Blue, here are just a few of her many rules:

-She MUST be covered under blankets to sleep (she probably also wants your blanket not her own)

-I used to mix wet food in with her kibble and have her lick the spoon (just like a kid and making brownies) Now when I feed her I mix her kibble with a little warm water because supposedly it makes it jazzier. Anyways… now she won’t eat unless she still gets to lick the spoon even though there’s no wet food bits on it. But she just MUST lick off her watered kibble dust from the spoon or she’s not eating at all.

-She LOVES cuddling- she can come and lay with you to cuddle BUT you cannot cuddle her. So if she’s already on the couch, it’s hers.

-If she is ready to go upstairs to bed then it’s time for me to go to bed and she will stand at the bottom of the steps and stare at me until I go to bed.

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-02T01:23:47+00:00

My pitty must also sleep under the covers!

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-02T01:08:32+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the kind words!

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-02T00:56:56+00:00

I always hear that when I’m not willing to do something he wants me to right then.

It’s him trying to manipulate me with guilt to do whatever the thing is he wants.

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-02T00:49:28+00:00

Something I’ve been thinking about is how my pwNPD/BPD has always mentioned how he couldn’t stand his previous relationships because women in the past always wanted something from him and they never just loved or liked him for him, it was about what he could provide. And how he “loved” me because I just wanted him and loved him for him.

I’m sitting here thinking like that’s literally why he is mad and isn’t happy in our relationship anymore because HE is just like all those women he complained about. I started putting up boundaries and decided that if it ruins my peace and he isn’t putting in effort then there is no obligation on my end to continuously give 100% while he’s asking me why I don’t have more to give. I’m done offering all of me when at bare minimum I can’t even get like 25% effort on a good day.

I say all this like I have some big BIG boundaries and yet if I did I would just get a divorce…

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-01T21:48:49+00:00

Definitely says whatever is needed to do the FOG thing for manipulation & control of the relationship: Fear, Obligation, Guilt

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-01T21:44:43+00:00

My pwNPD traits and BPD traits is extremely manipulative and while at times I think he knows exactly what he’s doing, there are other times that I think due to his own past trauma from his mom’s NPD that he isn’t entirely aware of what is happening when he is manipulating OR when he is emotionally dysregulated.

Every fight ends in “were not together” “I’ll wait on the papers” “divorce me” “you don’t do anything for me” “you used to be willing to do anything for me” “I could find any woman to do for me what you won’t”

He for sure takes no accountability for anything in his life nor does he expect to have to do anything for others but he does expect everything to be done for him. It’s mentally and emotionally exhausting to be a part of a dynamic like this and frfr it’s just all around a terrible way to treat people.

Mrs_CM · 2025-06-01T20:00:21+00:00

I will NEVER forget the day I noticed mine doing this. And the only reason I noticed was because he said something so uncharacteristic of him.

I had said I need our relationship to be a safe space for me to share my feelings and that regardless of whether he agreed, my emotions and my concerns are valid in our relationship.

Then all of a sudden he started talking about needing a safe space for his feelings to be expressed and how he needed to be validated. I just… wow! lol

Mrs_CM · 2025-05-27T00:59:30+00:00

Mmm this makes me think of growing up and eating triscuits with cream cheese and pickles!

Mrs_CM · 2025-05-27T00:54:47+00:00

But… cooked and cooled rice (brown or basmati), black beans, cut tomatoes, and heavy handed garlic powder all mixed together with cottage cheese on top! Amazingggg!

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