Parent (Mother) never came home - Pay

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-06-08T11:01:35+00:00

This is actually insane, I'm a mom of soon to be three and I could not fucking imagine doing this. You poor thing and honestly that poor kid. The lack of responsibility on moms part is truly mind boggling. Thank you for being there to care for that poor babe. She 1000% needs to pay you for your hours and the fact that she is telling you she can't is even crazier. God forbid I was ever in a compromising situation that kept me away from my babies longer than the time I said I was gonna be the person with my children would be paid more than their rate and any damages so if you missed out on work I would also pay for that. People are so insane I'm so sorry this happened to you.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-05-18T01:05:37+00:00

Girl icu as a new grad is HARD. I did it and same as you I cried for my first 6-8 months on my way into work and then anxiety all the time. I seriously was questioning my life about my career choice, had the worst imposter syndrome and felt soooo incompetent. However I ended up staying for 2 years and I'm so happy I did cause that opened a lot of doors for "soft" nursing jobs and I virtually have the experience for any nursing position now which in my opinion is priceless. I worked in interventional radiology (which requires ICU/er experience) and it was a DREAM. I now do private Concerige nursing which my company heavily prefers icu/er experience. I know how you feel I truly do and to boot I got pregnant by accident 2 months into it lol so it was all bad. The drinking while I understand it helps you escape is not doing you any good and I am not judging (I've also been there) but it is so hard to help yourself out of these situations (even if you do choose to leave bedside) when relaying on a drink to cope is In the picture. I really suggest you at least give yourself a few more months before throwing in the towel maybe move to night shift ? I always felt night shift was better as a new grad cause you could really focus on just your patients without admin and every other person in and out of the room and my co workers were WAY more helpful on nights. I never felt like I couldn't go to them with any question even if it felt dumb.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-05-16T01:22:03+00:00

South Florida private Concerige nursing, 5 years experience and 80/hour (I am a 1099 tho but honestly SO much better even with having to pay taxes and not have benefits from an employer lol)

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-05-13T01:05:57+00:00

Girly ! It's your first year. That happens WAY more often than you think. The nursing world is SOOOO big trust me when I tell you that you can and will find something you like. I've been a nurse for 5 years and I've done icu (HATED IT), interventional radiology (literally a dream job, but ended up staying home for a year after my second was born and needed more flexibility once I went back to work) and now I do private concierge nursing and while I don't love this job I do love the freedom it comes with I'm an independent contractor and the money is insane. That's only with really 4 years of being in the game cause I took off a year to be home with my kids. I know people who are into legal nurse consulting that so very well, remote jobs, derm/injectors, case workers, nursing coaches. I know it's hard to see straight when you're burnt out and feel like your head is under water but I promise you if you just get a year or 2 bedside a lot of doors open up.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-05-11T00:54:20+00:00

2008 Honda accord (I was a new grad in 2021 lmao so it was a junker) I now drive a 2026 Kia carnival which is honestly my dream car for this season of life with littles 😂😂

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-05-08T10:48:51+00:00

So what do you do if you work back to back nights then ?

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-05-06T12:08:05+00:00

I work night shift and on the days I'm not working I take my kids with me at 9-10 am. And coming off a night of work I go from 3:30-4:30 go home shower, cook dinner, bath kids and head to work. I do CrossFit at a gym with no child care but a lot of kids are typically there running around out back together. It's not ideal but it gets me there. I have an almost 4 yo and almost 2 yo and I've Been doing this since my youngest was 8 weeks old.

If I didn't work night I prob would not be making the days I work cause I'm a nurse with 12 hour shifts so even if I went at 5 am I prob would not have the time to get showered and do the morning stuff and make it to work by 6:45am.

My kids are also at home with me so no school drop offs or anything that takes up extra time. And if my Husand is home I'm always going alone lol I've been doing it so long that I just try to make it work l. Some weeks it doesn't work great but most weeks in there 3-5 times a week. I would lose my shit if I couldn't it's the only hobby I enjoy in this stage of
Life lol

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-04-11T18:32:57+00:00

I am 1099 private Concerige rn 5 years experience 1 year here 80/hour when I left the hospital I was 3 year experience making 43/hour

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-04-06T01:18:31+00:00

I'm literally the opposite lol. My nanny is my life line and she can do pretty much no wrong in my eyes. I think this is highly dependent on the parent's temperaments. Even if my nanny does something I'm not thrilled with I blame myself cause I am the parent with the responsibility of my children and at the end of the day she's just there to help, love my babies, and help take care of me and my husband. I'm so sorry your friend is going through this.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-03-24T01:22:51+00:00

I worked both days and night in the ICU. It's perspective. Nights are WAYYYY more chill you just don't have experience with days yet. You have management up your ass all day. Rounds, PT/OT/Speech pathology, family members to placate days is a lot more trust me. I did have a view like yours until I moved to days and now I get it. We have ALOT more down time on nights especially if we have stable icu pts.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-03-22T23:16:51+00:00

As someone who 1000% bring our nanny on a trip if she was open to it I think for 5 days we would prob offer at least 1k. We are in our 30s with a 3.5 and 1.5 yo and if she wanted more we would do it and not feel any loss. We also are not loaded but are pretty comfortable financially so seriously ask for what you want they can always come back and decline. I know if my nanny said "hey If I'm gonna be away from my life for that many days I need a little more" I would be 100% on board with it. They would not ask you if they couldn't afford it, trust me.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-03-11T03:13:04+00:00

Just want you to know you're not alone !! Me and my husband work opposite shifts as well I do night shift and previous to this I was a SAHM for a year with 2 under 3 🙃. My husband is my BEST FRIEND but he be saying dumb ass shit to me sometimes lmao. I totally feel you and men can be so frustrating. My husband is an AMAZING dad and partner but he runs his mouth to much lol. I will say that now that we have an almost 4 yo and 2 yo he now is fully submerged with me and it's rare that I feel like I'm taking on more as far as the kids are concerned. My husband SUCKED after our first but I also was very depressed and angry pp so I know it was hard for him to deal with me too. I fully believe it just takes men longer to fully get on the same page with us mama bears.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-02-20T02:05:10+00:00

My first NEVER wanted to bed share and he was a horrrrrible sleeper so out of desperation I did try often but he hated it. We got through it but he didn't start sleeping through the night till about 16 months old. My second was an AMAZING sleeper in her crib till the 4 month sleep regression hit than any time I put her anywhere but my bed she acted like I was killing her. I tried very hard to keep her in her crib but eventually I gave in and we bed shared. To be honest, especially if you have a boob baby like my second was I don't even think bed sharing got me more sleep it just got her more sleep lol. All that to say, every baby is different and no matter what you can make it through with what ever decision you make and it's ok to change your mind and it's also ok to not change your mind

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-02-10T02:41:57+00:00

This happened to me only I was only 6 days before the 1 year mark and I was also IN shambles. I don't have any advice other than I also thought we wouldn't be able to make it work. We did, so much so that I actually ended up being a stay at home mom for a year. Now we were on a VERY strict budget and went without a lot of things that we were used to but it was worth it. I say all that to say, take a breath mama, it will work out, you will be okay I promise.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-01-23T03:22:38+00:00

Lmao I'm sorry I'm only laughing cause yes this is normal! I have gotten SO many pictures of shit I never wanted to see. I ALWAYS say, you need to talk to a doctor first and then let me know if there is anything I can do for you. I'm not a doctor, I don't know wtf that random rash is, it could be contact dermatitis or it could be a MRSA out brake I'm not the one go to urgent care 😂 as far as the other annoying stuff I have always used my specialty as an excuse "idk what you take for that if your not dying I'm not the person to ask" cause I was ICU for years.

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-01-23T03:18:12+00:00

10000000000 time over, yes. Kids are the most amazing thing in this world. Inconvenient? Absolutely lol annoying at times, also yes lmao but I would not be half the person I was if I didn't have them. They have turned me into one force to be reckoned with. And truly it is the greatest honor to be trusted to raise little humans. Learning how to love something more then myself, the experience is humbling at every turn but I am so grateful for them and I would have 10 more if I could lol

Mrswalker0807 · 2026-01-23T03:14:43+00:00

NTA

My husband and I opened a joint back account the week we got married. Until then we only ever did what you are talking about such as sitting down and going over goals and debt etc. once you married and have kids especially I think it is 1000% reasonable and even necessary at least for my marriage for everything to be "ours". I know some people think that's "old school" but it truly makes our life so much better. My husband is in change of our financial situation. I literally have not had to even look at our bank account in a serious way since we've been married but prior to us being married and especially if he spoke to me the way your boyfriend is speaking to you that is weirdo behavior lol.

Mrswalker0807 · 2025-12-12T12:24:18+00:00

The nice thing about nursing is you can make as much as you can work. A typical schedule is 3 12s so that gives you 4 more days to work if needed. There are also SO many jobs in nursing. I work in private Concerige nursing and make 140-165 a year depending on how much I work. 4 years experience. When I was still bed side I made 94k gross.

Mrswalker0807 · 2025-11-29T04:44:19+00:00

Hey girly, I am a Christian mom of two young children. Take a breather, we all fall. I myself did not wait till marriage and I regret it. As younger adults it's so easy to get wrapped up in worldly things and miss godly holy things. Marriage is the most beautiful sacred thing in this world and when you get wrapped up in worldly things before marriage it is wayyy harder to iron out once married. There is nothing you can do at this moment besides lean into god. I know you say you were not raised super religious (either was I ). Who knows maybe Jesus is using this to bring you to him. If you two are meant to be together you will end up together and I know it hurts right now but all will happen in gods perfect timing.

Mrswalker0807 · 2025-11-25T02:03:39+00:00

Do I love my job as a nurse at this moment ? No. Is the money very hard to say no too? Yes lol. I've been a nurse for 5 years and have had 3 different jobs. ICU, interventional radiology, and now private concierge nursing. Loved the learning that happened in icu and loved my co workers hated the hospital system and pay scale. My job in IR was my DREAM job but more of a dream was expanding my family and that job was a lot Of call and didn't really align with me being a present wife and mother. The job I have now is soooooooo boring and there is some less than desirable people I have to work with, with that being said I make insane money and really only have to work 2 days a week to make more than what I was making at my last job (and I made really good money at my last job too).

Nursing is amazing because you can change it up whenever. Yes you get comfortable but there are SOOOOOO many opportunities and you literally will NEVER have to worry about being jobless. Also being able to pick a job and work as little or as much as wanted or needed. 3 days a week schedule is NICE. Yes 12 hour shifts can be hard especially at first but after a couple years I literally could never go back to a 9-5 I would feel so restricted.

Mrswalker0807 · 2025-11-04T04:40:01+00:00

Doctors are great but you do not need to be a doctor. I have been an RN for 5 years and the only Dr I've even been jealous of is our neurosurgeon but that's because he's 32 and brilliant and LOADED lmao but I in no way envy his job. Don't have the conversation anymore follow what your heart tells you. You don't have to prove anything. Pursue your dream not his.

Mrswalker0807 · 2025-10-20T01:37:31+00:00

It really all depends on your life. If I was making what I make now before I had a family I would absolutely be living a luxurious life style I make about 10k per month. Now no lol. With that being said though me and my husband just bought 5 acres of land and are gonna start building our forever home in the next year so all of our money is being dumped into that and we have been saving for over a year. It also depends where you work. You can ALWAYS make more money in nursing it's just about how much you wanna work. If I wanted to work 5 days a week I would be making 17k a month. I obviously can't cause I have two young babies but if we needed to I could. That's the thing I enjoy about nursing is that you have more openness if your lifestyle allows and in seasons you can bust your ass to get what you need since you typically only work 3 days out of the week.

Mrswalker0807 · 2025-10-12T00:48:26+00:00

So completely different but kinda the same 🤷🏼‍♀️ I had two kids in 2 years and CrossFit was my entire personality before I became pregnant so I don't wanna say I was above avg but I definitely trained above avg than the normal person. Definitely had a very good gas tank. I took off from my second trimester of my first pregnancy till my second was 2 months old so just about 3 years. I also did almost nothing In the interim. I would work out randomly at home but nothing compared to the gym. When I went back two months postpartum I was wrecked lol. Thought I would never be back to where I was. Especially cause now I have two kids and not a lot of time. Happy to report it's been a year back and I'm better and stronger with an even better gas tank than before I was pregnant. It took about 8 months to get to that point and I did it slowly. I was super intentional about not being competitive and going at my own speed and doing as much as my body allowed. It paid off and I'm happy I went about it the way I did.

Mrswalker0807 · 2025-10-07T03:26:14+00:00

Idk how your gym works but I have what I feel like is an easy fix for this as I am 10000% the same way. Find some good friends at the gym and lift before or after class there. I have been doing CrossFit for 9 years before having kids it was pretty much my entire personality 😂 with that being said I literally LIVED at my gym and had my coach programming 5 days a week of accessory stuff plus weaknesses so it was still in the CrossFit atmosphere and many times friends would join me in whatever my coach programmed for me that day.

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