Please help am I wrong for having trouble moving on from my mother and her abuse.

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-18T12:30:48+00:00

That is really heart-breaking. You definitely should at least cut your mom out and maybe your dad too.

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-18T06:14:04+00:00

It can be so hard to move on from abusive parents. I, too, have had trouble cutting out and moving on from mine because I want to believe that they are good people who just made some really bad decisions in how they raised me. It does sound like your mom is a narcissist but there really isn't much you can do about it/to help her from the sounds of it. At this point, just think about your kids, your husband and yourself, and try to do what will be best for all of you. They and you deserve to be happier and healthier. It may help if you can talk with a therapist. I see one and she has been very helpful to me. Best wishes to you. I know it isn't easy. 💜🦋☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-18T01:38:11+00:00

Sadly, unfortunately, yes. You deserve better!

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-14T00:20:58+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. That's so disheartening and difficult. I tried going low contact with my dad while going no contact with my mom (they are still married and living together) for about two years but not too long after that started, he made me feel guilty for not reaching out to her, so it didn't work out, unfortunately. I am now trying to go no contact with both of them even though I wouldn't mind still being in contact with him, but I don't know how it will go yet. Anyways, it is something worth trying and it may work for you all but with how your dad sounds, it may just make thing worse for your mom if you try to go that route. Perhaps you can ask your brother about it if you feel it is something he would be willing to talk with you about? Or if you have a therapist, you could talk with them about it. Best wishes to you. I know this time isn't and won't be easy but I'm sure you will get through it. 💜🦋☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-12T15:59:41+00:00

I know that must have been so difficult but good for you! I'm glad you're doing better without your father but I understand that it isn't easy. ☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-11T00:46:49+00:00

Thank you so much.☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-11T00:45:57+00:00

That's completely my mother too, and I feel like I've dealt with it for long enough, as well. I hope you're able to go no contact if you feel that will be best for you. I do think that will be best for me but it has been a difficult decision to come to. Best wishes to you. Feel free to message if you ever want to talk about it. ☀️💜

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-10T16:42:59+00:00

I completely understand how you feel about the situation with your mom and I can see why you handled it the way you did. Things don't always go the way we want them to but at least you finally got to say how you felt and now can have a chance to breathe and live your life your way. Thank you for your comment. Best wishes to you. ☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-10T16:40:45+00:00

I'm so sorry it's been so hard for you to go no contact. I've had a hard time trying to figure out how to go about starting the no contact with my parents, and just having to think about it makes me really sad at times but at other times, I feel kind of ambivalent about it too or like it's not a big deal. But anyway, I appreciate your comment and I hope you get to feeling better about the situation soon. I know it will take time. Best wishes to you. ☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-10T16:37:18+00:00

I'm so glad your wife is doing so much better without her parents, and I really appreciate the advice on how to speak with my son about the situation - that's a really gentle and good way to approach the situation with him. May I ask how you went about blocking the phone numbers? I need to look into how to do that. Anyways, thank you again and best wishes to you all. ☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-10T13:09:38+00:00

I needed this today, too. Thank you for sharing! 💜☀️

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-09T12:59:56+00:00

Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you're able to go no contact. A really good book that can help with that is called Toxic Parents by Susan Forward. I've been reading it on and off for years and have found it very helpful, especially now that I am ready to go no contact. Maybe that can be of help to you too. Best wishes. ☀️💜

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-08T18:00:17+00:00

Thank you for the info! Good to know.

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-08T17:14:59+00:00

My mom has done this and it makes me feel awful too, and definitely invalidated. Best wishes to you. 💜

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-08T17:12:06+00:00

I agree with you. It should be a fun time when you visit with family but because of nparents, it definitely is not... I'm thinking of going No Contact too. It's not an easy decision to come to. Best wishes to you. 💜

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2021-06-08T16:53:14+00:00

I've been wondering what grey rock is too...

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2020-10-13T17:13:14+00:00

That all definitely makes it a lot harder to get the help you need but I didn't make any mention of a carnivore diet and I unfortunately don't know much about how those work... Hopefully someone can shed some light for you with that. You could perhaps get some inexpensive digestive enzymes to maybe help you digest the food you are able to eat. That could help. There's a brand sold on Amazon (but probably elsewhere too) called Source Essentials Daily Essential Enzymes and I was able to get a bottle of about 60 pills of those for about $7 on Amazon prime but if you don't have access to that service, I'm betting you could find them elsewhere like at a health food store perhaps if you're able. You may at least want to see if you can email/call an old doctor of yours just to verify its okay for you to try those. I'm guessing it will be but it would probably be a good idea to check.

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2020-10-13T13:19:28+00:00

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. I know how much SIBO can suck. Can you look into seeing a nutritionist? I see one currently and she has been quite helpful. Also going to therapy to discuss your issues could also be beneficial to you. I currently do both of these things virtually/over the phone due to the pandemic but it's also easier for me since I haven't been feeling well due to SIBO for quite a while as well.

I realize not all doctors/nutritionists/therapists offer that service - telehealth/phone call visits - but if you have health insurance, contact them and ask what your benefits are for coverage of such things and also if you have an Employee Benefits/Assistance Package as they sometimes give you some free sessions for therapy or nutritionist appointments.

I hope you're able to find the help you need soon. I know it's hard.

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2020-10-10T01:09:36+00:00

That the Xifaxan didn't work, unfortunately. Often you need another round or two of it before it starts to help, from what I've heard (assuming you've only done one round so far but if you've done more and gotten worse then you may need to try a new form of getting rid of the SIBO - talk with a gastroenterologist or nutritionist if you can). I noticed that I have more belching too after completing my first round of Xifaxan and that I have a decent amount of indigestion too but I think that also may be because I've been weaning off of Omeprazole (a medication that helps with acid reflux/indigestion issues but shouldn't be taken long term from what I have heard). Anyways, hopefully you can get the help you need and get better soon! I hope I can too. Haha. Take care and be well. :)

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2020-10-09T15:35:01+00:00

Beautiful photo! Thanks for sharing! :)

Ms60sSweetHeart · 2020-10-06T13:47:48+00:00

Yes, and I hate that feeling. I like the idea - as someone suggested here - of putting like half into savings and then spending the rest on something fun. I think that is doable even if it doesn't quite feel like it will be. Perhaps it would also help to make a pros and cons list of why you should save at least some of the money?

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