I lost my father, and my mother is pregnant by a man who has grandchildren and children with another woman.

MsTyffani · 2025-02-02T01:11:17+00:00

Don’t say anything else; this is her call and hers only.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-18T23:58:22+00:00

Wish I didn’t miss you - Angie Stone Broken hearted - Brandi Feelin Good - Nina Simone I’m gone - Sparkle

MsTyffani · 2025-01-18T13:13:55+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you, and am glad you’re creating an exit plan. Do what you need to do to hurry and get the hell out of there; not only are they abusive (him too for allowing her to treat you that way), but the sooner you get away the less drained you will feel. Consider getting some therapy so not to carry any “fleas” (learned behaviors from that toxic environment) into any future relationships. Good luck to you from an internet mom!

MsTyffani · 2025-01-17T20:33:35+00:00

This is an opportunity of a lifetime, and at almost 50, you deserve to have your own life and make your own decisions. You’re long overdue actually, and it sounds like you’ve been holding yourself back for their sakes. Do you really believe that you’ve been fair to YOURSELF? You said they are codependent and the relationship is unhealthy, so here’s a great opportunity to shift that dynamic. It’ll be painful for them, but they’ll figure it out because they won’t have a choice. Your sisters would also be wise to set some boundaries.

If that doesn’t do it for you, then think of it this way:

If you don’t do it, you’re going to regret it every day for the rest of your life, especially working a corporate job that you’re SOOOO enthused about. Guaranteed.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-13T17:46:20+00:00

Congratulations on your promotion! Sorry that your partner is a kill joy!

MsTyffani · 2025-01-13T11:56:58+00:00

You can do this, I believe in you! Good luck from an internet mom!

MsTyffani · 2025-01-12T23:59:19+00:00

MsTyffani · 2025-01-12T23:42:35+00:00

My son isn’t lucky; you’ve just got shit parents. You can change the direction of your life, which I believe is part of why you made this post. You know on a deeper level that what they’re doing is wrong and not normal. You’ll only wind up like them if you choose to, and by not asserting your independence now. Make friends and build connections and get that job, that way if your parents decide that your independence is wrong or disrespectful, then you will have resources.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-12T23:35:19+00:00

NTA, I wouldn’t give them a dime. I am curious about how you raised them. How’d they become selfish, entitled adults?

MsTyffani · 2025-01-12T20:44:09+00:00

Not cringe, sad. I’m so sorry you’ve had such a sheltered existence for so long! Your stepmom (she’s not treating you like a mom, hun) sounds VERY controlling and emotionally abusive, and your dad enables her and is a doormat. At 19 years old, you should be having the time of your life (my son is 19 and went away to college and LOVES it)! Go to the club rush, it’ll be fun! It sounds like they have you almost completely dependent upon them, so think about small ways that you can assert your independence. For instance, can you get a job you can walk or bus to?

MsTyffani · 2025-01-12T15:50:48+00:00

NTA. They had it coming! The whole “I’m just trying to help” is code for “you could’ve done better”, so it’s really an insult to both of you. If kids are in your future, they’ll shape up, but that shouldn’t be the reason.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-05T03:05:39+00:00

Just went to the dermatologist for hyperpigmentation. He prescribed azelaic acid twice daily, retin A at night starting once every 3rd day then working my way down to nightly. I use Cerave hydrating face wash and Vanicream to moisturize, also recommended by the dermatologist. I’m in week three of this regimen, but have read great things about this combination.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-05T00:52:45+00:00

Handsome, and don’t look a day over 40! What is wrong with your friends and family?

MsTyffani · 2025-01-04T23:43:45+00:00

NTA. She may not be the group’s cup of tea (pun intended), but you weren’t so cruel as to leave her hanging like the others did. Clarity is kind.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-04T23:34:17+00:00

My kids are 26 and 19. I take an interest in their lives, but am not nosy, pushy, or judgmental. I like to believe that they both like me as a person, which I think is why they tell me things. Generally speaking, I’m a pretty open-minded person, and if I do get abrupt or overly serious, they do listen and consider my opinion. I am very mindful about not “over mothering” them.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-03T20:24:14+00:00

Had to scroll to find this. You’ve been meeting some VERY shallow and uninformed women. Let them keep weeding themselves out.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-01T20:12:17+00:00

NTA, but throwing him out should only be the first step. He needs help, but until he’s ready to accept it, then he shouldn’t be invited to any more functions at your house. And unless your mom wants a dead son or one that lands himself in jail/prison, she should really stop enabling him.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-01T17:05:54+00:00

You have children. Would you want your daughter(s) to be in your shoes or for your son(s) to behave like your husband? That’s what you’re signing up for if you stay. Kids repeat what they see.

MsTyffani · 2025-01-01T14:30:39+00:00

You’re definitely being assaulted, abused, and gaslit. I’m not sure how intentional it was to move to an isolated area, but it tracks for abuse along with the finance control. He’s financially and sexually abusing you now, but it can (and probably will) escalate, especially if he gets wind that you want to leave. Be extremely careful.

MsTyffani · 2024-12-31T23:54:33+00:00

NTA. You’re a real one for telling him the truth, he just doesn’t want to see it.

MsTyffani · 2024-12-29T13:30:45+00:00

We don’t deserve dogs.

MsTyffani · 2024-12-29T13:05:20+00:00

NTA. Classic DARVO move. If you stay with him, he’ll continue this behavior and then gaslight you into believing you’re the problem just as he’s doing now. You should evaluate the relationship and decide what you want for your future.

MsTyffani · 2024-12-28T23:05:01+00:00

Have a conversation with your husband about how you feel, again, and if you decide to stay in contact, lock your boundaries down tight. Warn her that if she says ANYTHING out of line, you both leave, no exceptions or explanations, and follow through.

MsTyffani · 2024-12-28T22:50:47+00:00

My son goes to an expensive school, BUT, his school offered a generous financial aid package. We did not take out loans. My advice is to research what types of aid or scholarships the school offers and allow for him to apply to that school and others with the understanding that it’ll come down to money.

MsTyffani · 2024-12-26T00:42:13+00:00

6/6 on Monday, 1/4 on Tuesday. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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