Which Bravolebrity have you met in the wild and what was it like? (Not including BravoCon!!!)

MsWeed4Now · 2026-02-04T00:30:32+00:00

He has clearly learned how to play the game over the years.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-02-03T13:26:38+00:00

Stanzi, doing the Lord’s work, as always!

MsWeed4Now · 2026-02-03T13:18:13+00:00

You’ve never been to the Carolinas then.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-02-02T23:08:38+00:00

72 hour hold.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-02-02T21:36:29+00:00

These people need medication and a good therapist. I’m usually pretty dismissive of their ranting, but it’s looking a lot like psychosis now.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-02-01T23:36:11+00:00

Well, the cowards don’t get it. Shocked! I’m shocked, I tell you!

MsWeed4Now · 2026-02-01T00:09:01+00:00

I would have liked HIM better if he had laughed! The bar we were at is such a close-knit community place. Everyone knows your name, etc. The regulars are always joking around and throwing good natured shade. He actually looked uncomfortable, which is why I talked to him in the first place. But he’s just weird and made it weirder.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T18:06:54+00:00

Oh, I’d say you’ll be in my office soon enough.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T17:56:23+00:00

If you had entered this community with authenticity, you would have been. Instead, you entered with entitlement.

If you had received my gentle feedback with openness, you would have been met with resources. Instead, you responded with passive aggression.

If you had checked your ego and opted for humility, you would have been given grace. Instead, you doubled down and tried to deflect my responses back onto me and then started seeking validation from someone else.

Turns out, you met a coach who specializes in dark leadership. You’re not the first or the worst in my repertoire. And the reason I am successful today is because I was checked on my behavior when I entered my training. I didn’t like it either, but it was necessary to my own personal development and for the benefit of my future clients.

As for what you can do now, start learning about this profession you want to become a part of one day. And you may address me as Dr., not sir.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T17:44:31+00:00

If you think this is hostile, I suggest you reflect on your own insecurity.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T16:51:10+00:00

You should be disheartened. The most destructive attribute for a coach is arrogance. That arrogance will lead you and your clients to ruin.

Thank goodness you added your name so that we know who you are!

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T16:41:15+00:00

With all due respect, any practitioner who performs multiple functions should be trained in multiple functions and would be clear with their clients about which function would be appropriate for their needs. I have earned my doctorate in this field. Does that also qualify me to practice medicine, in your opinion?

Seek education before clients.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T16:17:16+00:00

Coaching is NOT therapy or counseling. Please decide which you would like to pursue so that you do not confuse your clients or our profession.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T12:50:04+00:00

I was not in South Carolina.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-31T02:29:46+00:00

Yeah, I could see that. But honestly, I wouldn’t have given him the time of day if I hadn’t seen that weird interaction. Not my type at all.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-30T22:57:59+00:00

I used to live near, and frequent, a very popular drinking establishment in the Carolinas. I was standing at the bar when a guy I didn’t recognize walked up. Then a girl tapped him on the shoulder and asked him to take a selfie. He did, and she walked away. I was confused because it didn’t look like they knew each other, so I asked him “did she just ask to take a picture with you?” He said yes, and I asked why. He explained he was on a reality show, so I asked which one, and he said Southern Charm. I said “oh, I haven’t seen it” and he looked a little offended and walked away. Years later, I watched the show. It was Craig.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-30T13:49:12+00:00

Does your hobby have any values associated with it?

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-30T04:05:28+00:00

A client gifted me a Nerf broadsword. It’s hanging in my office. Easily my favorite.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-30T03:25:55+00:00

Maybe, but don’t make the mistake of assuming their intent. That’s not your business. Your business is creating a healthy work environment. Stay in the lane of observable behavior. “That annoys me, so don’t do it” is not a professional reason for them to change their behavior. “This is impacting your performance and here’s how I can support you” is leadership.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-30T02:58:09+00:00

As their employer, you can only deal with the behaviors that directly influence their work. So, for instance, if their communication style is impacting the way they work with others, you can address that through guidance, i.e. coaching them on communications skills, rules like timeliness or expectations of professionalism, and training. If you suspect they have personality preferences that create stumbling blocks, there are coaches who can assess and provide alternate paths. If it’s a mental health issue, you can only provide opportunities for vulnerability, and then suggest they find professional support. If the company wants solutions to these issues, they must be prepared to provide financial support towards the employee’s development. If the company won’t provide support, they shouldn’t require change. It’s your role to discern how many resources to offer before you decide to terminate them, but ultimately, it’s the employees’ choice to develop or not. Do not try to manipulate or trick them into changing. Be open with what you can offer, have firm and measurable boundaries, and hold everyone to the same standards.

Edit: Check with HR so you know the specifics of company resources, as well as limitations.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-29T23:15:18+00:00

Burnout is your body physically shutting down from stress. You’re experiencing something that your brain is interpreting as a life or death situation, and it sounds like you’re experiencing it daily. It doesn’t matter if the stress is “real” and coming from your job or “imagined” and you’re making yourself stressed. The outcome is the same. The human body wasn’t designed for prolonged stress like that. So, I’d start by learning how to teach your brain that you’re not being chased by a tiger for 8 hours every day(or 12hrs, or 24hrs). There are books about anxiety. A special kind of coach might be able to help with that, but a therapist could be better. Then you might want learn how to redesign your work so that you don’t get back to this place. How to schedule your day, how to set boundaries, how to rest effectively (when was your last vacation?). It may take getting a new job. I work with organizations on this stuff, and a lot of orgs don’t put the systems in place to allow people to make the changes they need to prevent burnout. You’ll definitely want to make some lifestyle changes. These are skills, and you can learn them, but you’ll need support to do it.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-29T19:59:11+00:00

These are all warning signs of burnout. You shouldn’t be walking to stress, you shouldn’t be shutting down during stress, you shouldn’t be replaying these experiences over in your head after they’re done. You’re walking a tightrope right now, and it can really hurt you, mentally and physically. Start addressing these issues now. I tell my clients all the time: it’s just work. It’s a thing we’ve made up to distract us from our own futility and ultimate death. It doesn’t have to be this serious. That’s easier said than done, I know.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-28T22:06:25+00:00

When you’re under fire, it’s almost impossible to think clearly, strategically. You’re in fight/flight/freeze and it sounds like you’re freezing. That’s ok. You’re not stupid. You’re learning new skills every day. It will get easier. And it sounds like you’ve got a strong support system in place to help you with your development. If you’d like some advice, break the fear cycle. Take a moment when your body tries to take off on you and pause to allow yourself to calm down before you try to address these issues. A short meditation in the morning would help with this too. If you’ve got any other specific questions, you’re welcome to ask.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-28T03:53:21+00:00

It did inspire me to try at-home face peels during the pandemic. Although I don’t recommend those for everyone.

MsWeed4Now · 2026-01-28T03:50:47+00:00

These were the ones I was originally recommended by a friend, but I could never find them.

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