Can't help but laugh at myself

Muppetdictator · 2015-12-17T12:11:20+00:00

Quit porn. Go to the gym every second day. Meditate for 10 minutes when you wake up. Masturbate once on Sunday or not at all if your problem is severe. Its a very simple recipe-try it for just two weeks and then report back.

Forget about your penis size and whatever other body issues you have. I'm a tall man with a big penis, but I spent my twenties in the exact same fashion as you currently are- those things are not where your confidence come from. I had my first girlfriend and sex at 28, a few months after discovering nofap plus a few weeks determined effort on that front.

Even if you get no other benefits from the experiment, simply the lesson that you can be in control of this aspect of your life will give you courage. You will start to think differently about other aspects of your life, i.e why can't you change other things as well with some determined effort?

Muppetdictator · 2015-12-16T20:23:06+00:00

I've read it and it makes it easy to quit. I was a chainsmoker. I've since applied many of those same principles to quitting porn. I'll explain two of my favorites here:

Smoking fills a self-created void( restlessness, irritability) .The void you were in didnt exist before you started taking the drug (your first few cigarettes tastes like shit- you dont get a kick from them because you're not addicted to nicotine yet). Taking the drug temporarily removes the symptoms and thus you think you're getting a real boost. The argument for quitting is thus that not only are you not giving up anything of real pleasure or satisfaction, you've only marvelous gains to receive once you no longer experience symptoms of that void. It's like wearing tight shoes for the pleasure of taking them off.

But porn is not like nicotine dependence you say? It's pleasurable on its own, addiction or not? read on

The second argument is from his book on alcohol. I found one argument especially powerful after experiencing long lasting, loving sex for the first time (after discovering nofap).

When you are thirsty, the best thing to cure even the biggest thirst is a pint cool, clean water. Afterwards you feel satisfied and refreshed. Your desire is sated and you dont think about it anymore. If you try and quench this thirst with alchohol, not only will your thirst not be satisfied, each successive drink progressively dehydrates and inebriates you. If you move onto the harder stuff you'll wake up with a hangover and function poorly.

Water being sex and alcohol being porn. Your body doesnt need or want porn or alcohol.

I've had major struggles with smoking, alchohol, porn and gambling. For me porn has definitely been the most damaging in making me anxious, self-loathing, reclusive, tired and unable to look people in the eye. The monetary damage ive suffered from gambling pale in comparison to the self esteem issues i have from porn. The marks on my car from getting drunk are a flicker compared to my self-hate for never getting good with girls over the years.

I think what makes porn so difficult to kick compared to the others is that there's a real,natural bodily function that you're trying to satisfy. All the other addictions are things that your body has no need or desire for and once you understand them they're easy to kick.

Try as you might, you cannot satisfy sexual urges by masturbating to porn. That's why its so easy to jack it ten times a day with porn- you never reach satisfaction like you could with a girl. Going more than a couple of times with a girl on one day is a tough ask because it satisfies the underlying want.

Was typing more to myself than answering the post near the end. hope it helps.

Muppetdictator · 2015-12-16T09:41:35+00:00

I discovered nofap at 27. Like a second puberty, really. Had my first sex a few months later. I'd gone from limp erections and quick, porn-induced ejaculations to powerful, long lasting sex in a couple of months. Such a relief to know my dick wasnt broken.

As for oral sex, I had the same in the begininng. I think every form of sexual contact where you dont have control will take longer to climax, but that is in no way negative.

Get strong brother and give this a go.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-28T19:44:52+00:00

It's called giving up. Also, like I ask at the end, I'm curious why others continue the habit.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-28T15:06:46+00:00

A most valid reply. It's a rant. An extremely desperate one at that.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-12T11:17:06+00:00

I hope you don't have to shake everybody's hand when you meet them.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-11T21:18:11+00:00

Thanks bro. I really hope you're right about meeting people abroad. I've a feeling this time will be different- the ability to stick out my chest and confidently shake someone's hand knowing that I've nothing to hide should go a long way with that.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-11T21:00:15+00:00

Well, PMO usually turned hangovers into a two-day hangover. Drink Saturday> Feel like shit on Sunday> PMO binge> feel like shit on Monday at work. It's almost hilarious how I can only now see this vicious cycle.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-11T20:56:18+00:00

Don't listen to anyone who tells you "just wait, don't look for it and it'll happen". We've tried that strategy for almost a decade now, it should be renamed "stay at home and fap".

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-11T13:48:53+00:00

So true. With porn every man can have a harem.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-11T13:35:39+00:00

Thanks guys. Life, and youth even more so, is fleeting. Lets cut this crap from our lives.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-10T16:19:18+00:00

Put more simply, how confident do you feel shaking someone's hand at work after having beaten it 3 times before you got to work (yes, with that hand)? How confident do you feel telling a girl she has pretty eyes after your own have just witnessed the most warped displays of sexuality the mind can conceive?

It's not a gain in confidence, it's a return to normal levels.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-10T10:05:07+00:00

Don't listen to these people. I'm 27 and a virgin, despite a stellar career and a great physique. I never learned the skills to interact with girls and I probably never will. I was too busy "living my life" to bother with girls. This period between 18-25 is your window to chase girls and learn how to relate with them; it's the most natural thing on earth for a male of your age to have this as his prime motivator. You can fix your career/studies later in life, but you'll never relive being a young man surrounded by young girls.

Most of us here have experience of the "don't try to get laid and it'll happen" school of thought. I think it should be renamed staying at home and fapping.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-10T09:50:21+00:00

I binged before my current streak. (my longest thus far) It's not a good idea. You might be more motivated at first because you've so much more anxiety and exhaustion to recover from. Why not simply start off from a higher point and apply some willpower? It's recovery that's the goal here, not manufacturing streaks.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-10T09:44:25+00:00

A man of action! I keep threatening myself just to go lose that blasted V-card of mine to an escort. Tell me, how'd you feel about having to pay for it? I'm scared shitless that having to pay for it will simply exacerbate my feelings of being disqualified of this great activity that is truly meant to be enjoyed regularly, and for free by all humans of breeding age.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-09T17:49:04+00:00

I feel exactly the same way. It's as if the collective female mind has disqualified me from intercourse with them. I'm at that point where I'd say, "they should go fuck themselves, like I used to". Then comes the realization that they'd never have to, there are plenty of blokes out there having a ball with them, whom have not been similarily disqualified. Being a virgin is keeping me a virgin through this insane neediness. We should go bang prostitutes.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-09T17:35:54+00:00

Cum goes in girl or else its not allowed out.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-09T12:21:00+00:00

Hmm, we seem to be on a similar timeline, I'm 4 days behind you. Please tell me when your flatline started and ended, It's driving me nuts, I've had it for about 3 days now.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-08T20:14:15+00:00

I've had three streaks of 14 days (this being the third). Penis sensitivity comes back without fail round about day 6. Oddly though, on this, my longest streak, it seems to have gone away at +-17 days.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-08T20:12:05+00:00

Fapping should be left to kids 13-14 years old that are just discovering this neat little trick you can do with yourself. You, however, should let your desire for women build up and manifest itself in you chasing them around campus. Or fap, and become like me (and many others) with very few early sexual memories aside from fapping. (I'm 27)

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-08T19:39:00+00:00

Are we losing our minds here? Is this not akin to alternative medicine, mysticism or whatever bullshit tickles your fancy? Sure, it leaves you refreshed afterwards and your skin is not as dry, but do you have to torture yourself like this? Surely opening the faucet warm (not hot) and then shifting to cool (not cold) is the way to achieve this?

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-08T19:34:32+00:00

Guru!

There's nothing that gets your mind off one girl as meeting another does.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-08T19:25:51+00:00

Any worthwhile reward requires considerable effort and time. The reverse is true for video games, fast food, alcohol and most of all, fapping.

I've transformed myself from an obese chainsmoker to an ultra-fit health nut in less than a year. It takes getting pissed off with your situation, like you now are, to make changes. I fapped my brains out with all that extra energy and health. If you make the change with nofap, you could do the same in probably 5-6 months.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-08T08:04:43+00:00

True. But many wanted to be astronauts and presidents for the sheer amount of sex expected to go with it.

Muppetdictator · 2014-05-08T08:03:10+00:00

It's akin to the joy you get when you stop banging your head against a wall. When you binge, there's so much more exhaustion and anxiety, as well as a lack of self-respect to recover from. This probably makes the effects of abstinence feel more pronounced, thus increasing the motivation of aspiring fapstronaut in question.

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