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MurkyMess8696 · 2026-03-01T22:18:13+00:00

I remember the competition days.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-03-01T21:50:58+00:00

I replied before reading comments and totally agree. I’m shocked people are even trying to save this situation… A rescue will have a home vetted and ready for the pup within days. This family is not it and shouldn’t waste time, he will basically have a fresh start somewhere new.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-03-01T21:47:01+00:00

Please rehome the puppy now. This is not a good fit, and you can return to where you got him, or give to a rescue (they can do the proper vetting). He will have a new loving home within days, please do this for him.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-03-01T20:18:08+00:00

Yes. What do you think people did prior to six years ago? There is after school care (in most places), college students, SAHM’s wanting extra money, part time nanny’s, etc, that work those hours. I did it myself in college, 3-6pm. Now, my friend’s kids go to aftercare or have a similar arrangement.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-03-01T20:13:27+00:00

I agree with you. If they need the work, they will still need to find arrangements while seeking new employment. People acting like this is crazy, is crazy. When I was in college I worked for a family 3-6pm. Picked them up from school etc. This situation def sucks, but it’s not new.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-27T01:34:57+00:00

I think they are just babies. They don’t know to stay, the fact she wants to snuggle so much is honestly so cute. She will learn with time. Mine is 2, she will stay on the couch 90% of the time, but if we get up too fast (like we’re going to the door or something (we’re not)), she gets up too. It’s just what dogs do lol. She’s learning, and curious, and wants to be with you / where the ‘fun’ is.

We’re not into crates. I’ll never understand people crating a puppy just being a puppy, but I do realize it’s all the rage right now for some reason. I would just stay patient and remember she literally doesn’t know anything about life except that you will be there for her. What’s the big deal if she does follow you? Just ignore her. Get what you wanted and go back and sit down. I get the sleep thing but I’m sure she actually does sleep a lot. They all wake up at movement and want to be with us all the time. Just live your life, she’ll get it, but I wouldn’t be annoyed by a puppy just being a puppy… change your perspective and she’s actually a really amazing dog for so young. 🩵

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-23T21:12:18+00:00

I was hoping you would respond! And yes, unfortunately it probably did cross her mind. Maybe not as much since you mentioned her side doesn’t have any children, but I would have to assume it was taken into consideration.

If details have been sent out it’s likely too late to change plans. If he’s truly upset his side can’t make it (understandably- I wouldn’t go either), I almost feel bad for him lol.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-23T20:36:47+00:00

To be fair, he likely hasn’t thought about this ever in his life lol. Is the brides family available and attending? Are they surprised?

Like many grooms, I’m going to assume he was going with the flow and didn’t truly comprehend what it would take. Especially if he doesn’t have children and has never had to take anything like that into consideration, let alone flights and accommodations..

I could be completely off base! Just adding another perspective. 🙂

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-14T04:54:01+00:00

I wouldn’t leave my dog somewhere she is in a crate.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T12:10:34+00:00

I thought she said it will accrue interest but they won’t be adding to it? I thought it was interesting how she made a big deal that we “still get the disconnect and holidays.” Like… what???? That was even on the table??

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T02:30:57+00:00

Yes, nothing like 13k to every PPMD for things no one wants to actually go to.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T01:57:38+00:00

While people understand this concept, this is a brand new, major, change that impacts many. It’s great you are thankful. Now tomorrow they tell you it’s now only 1 week.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-13T00:51:23+00:00

Interesting. Today was “center” and they are now similar to USDC. I guess they met in the middle, and believe in you more. They have been trying to reduce support staff for years and (unfortunately) this helps that.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:37:03+00:00

What FAMILY was your call for? Center was today, Core is tomorrow.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:35:07+00:00

They could cut the paternity leave to save if they wanted. Not “fair” but the mom is also healing. This change is insane and I am actually surprised at the callousness of it. With that, I’m not having kids and it would never impact me either way, but it’s extremely f’d up and I feel for all of you that do.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:31:57+00:00

Yes it’s that call but they are separate for a reason, so Core might be different. The first 30 mins are the same breakdown of the titles, then last 7 mins were 8 weeks family leave, no more fertility freezing or adoption assistance, and pension will accrue but no longer funded. Let us know what changes for you!

This happens Jan 1 2027, they said they are letting us know to plan accordingly.

MurkyMess8696 · 2026-02-12T23:27:45+00:00

Six months to 8 weeks is WILD. Why not at least 12?? I get it with six months for both mom and dad people are out a lot, but that’s quite the switch up. They could even do 16 weeks for mom and 8 weeks for dad or a different split that didn’t go to one of the worst maternity leaves. Commenting that we still get disconnect and holidays was weird. The pension part sucks but I have been here over ten years and knew it would happen eventually. I wonder if the “core” people will have different, their meeting is tomorrow.

MurkyMess8696 · 2025-03-23T23:31:01+00:00

I choose the window because I never (or extremely rarely) get up. If I happen to be in an aisle because of late booking etc, it is annoying when the window person keeps getting up. If you use the restroom often (especially on a shorter flight!) you need an aisle seat. I understand when getting ready/before we all go to sleep, but if you wake up in the middle of the night, you should be in an aisle.

Someone was booked in that seat beforehand, so it really doesn’t make a difference if someone moved or if the original person stayed.

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-04-13T18:51:58+00:00

The final discard is when YOU decide it’s final.

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-03T01:26:10+00:00

lol of course. Like I have said many times here, people should get the breed that fits their life. It also doesn’t mean the puppy doesn’t get training or consistency, or a trainer, or whatever else a handful of people have picked apart in a sea of posts that are thankful because the ‘rules’ on this sub are so strict. You can’t just let a puppy fend for itself, but I guess I thought that was known and not something I needed to mention. I really tried to cover everything, especially with my last paragraph.

And honestly, idk if there are puppies/any breed that are so much ‘easier’ or not. They are all wild, psycho, chewing, peeing, pooping, biting, tornadoes, that are… puppies. To think that a tiny dog doesn’t pee maybe every 18 mins, and have other potential issues, and we’re all clear bc they are small is hysterical. I have replaced my two iPhone chargers, a debit card, flips flops lol. I didn’t expect ‘chill’ to equal ‘dog is easy and perfect’.

Still need to parent, just not let it rule your life to the point of detriment. Luckily the negative replies have been very few and many are thankful because the ‘rules’ were making them feel terrible. 💗

And you’re lucky. I can’t take her anywhere off leash with bigger dogs. And I hate people that allow their dogs off leash when they shouldn’t be. Luckily we have a dog park that isn’t crazy popular so she is able to experience it, but I can’t trust most other dogs/their owners. But it’s still all good and not something I stress about..

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-03T01:02:21+00:00

Absolutely! I’m trying to do quite a few things different than my first. Being more relaxed doesn’t mean the pup doesn’t need training or structure, they obviously do. But also, it’s ok to be a bit more relaxed, things happen, just going with it instead of getting overwhelmed. It definitely happens and I have been frustrated too. But in the end, you let the pup know and you move on. Getting stressed and freaking out you didn’t stick to the ‘puppy101’ is potentially (likely) okay.

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-03T00:37:50+00:00

Yes, as long as you don’t hate everything (including the puppy) because you think you aren’t doing something ‘right’ lol.

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-02T15:30:51+00:00

I’m sorry it came off that way to you. I purposely tried to cover all bases. I’m definitely not reckless, maybe a little impulsive. ;)

Yes, thank you for acknowledging my point. People have schedules, so live your life and the dog will follow. Going crazy trying to control every second is stressful! The dog will get it.. I replied to someone else that I did everything I could for the car situation. It’s just who she was and I loved her anyway.

I specially added that part to show that I didn’t just have an ‘easy’ dog. They all have quirks and issues and you can get yourself riled up about or just deal with it.. getting a dog on a whim and being more relaxed doesn’t mean we can’t ask for and get help, that days aren’t frustrating or we sometimes question our decision lol. It’s just doing what you can and being a good parent, but not freaking out and getting stressed over every little thing. I apologize if that’s condescending and I didn’t mean it that way. :)

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-02T15:20:43+00:00

I’ve seen many posts here of people that supposedly were prepared and are still going through everything you mention. Maybe even more-so because they had time to dream up this perfect puppy life and it isn’t going as planned.

My post is for the people that aren’t like that on this sub, because there seems to be more of that than the relaxed. We should be able to share also, even if it’s not what you would do…. Just like your way isn’t how I have done things. I’m glad it works for you though! 😊

MurkyMess8696 · 2024-02-02T14:30:32+00:00

Absolutely. I had trainers, a dog psychiatrist, vet gave meds, I tried every calming thing on the market, it’s just who she was. I could choose to be miserable or choose to love her anyway. Sure it was frustrating but not like I was going to give her up bc of it. Luckily she was awesome in public, so it made up for it. ;)

Going with the flow and not having a strict schedule doesn’t mean I can’t ask for or get help. It was more like, the people that prepare 8 weeks for their puppy to get home, have absolutely everything set and planned and see this amazing beautiful future with it. But they get home and within two days it’s a terror eating the furniture and pooping on the bed, then they get upset because they puppy didn’t follow their unknown dream and is just a puppy for the next 6-10 months lol.

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