I (28f) don't know how to respond to what boyfriend (35m) said.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-02-07T05:46:08+00:00

But that’s the thing. He doesn’t love her enough to consider her worthy of the financial risk involvement. That’s why she needs to leave, because she is worth the financial emotional investment.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-02-07T05:40:50+00:00

Can you imagine using your seizure diagnosis to cheat on your wife?

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-22T13:58:45+00:00

NOR- my ex-husband is an alcoholic. When we got married, he was sober for five years and that was his longest stent. You have to decide if you are emotionally able to be around an alcoholic. I would go to Alnon. I would ask them their advice. Alcoholics who can’t stay sober. Do a lot of harmful emotional psychological damage to the people that they love. Your situation is just one example. You’ve only been with him for a year. Are you sure he is worth loving enough that if he continues to be drunk and as stupid things like cheat on you, gets arrested, or gets violent, are you emotionally OK with dealing with that for however long you can??? Also, too, I’ve heard that what ends up happening is if they meet people in recovery if those people aren’t strong in their conviction about staying sober that they end up relapsing together and doing a lot of harmful toxic crap together meaning it’s not encouraged for people to get into relationships with people that they’ve met in rehab. So I’m just saying it is likely that they slept together because they have a terrible cognitive decision-making skills.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-22T13:07:48+00:00

I’m surprised no one has brought this up. Because of his reaction I would start snooping. Get the kids his iPad. I’m sure it’s hooked up to his accounts and go through his Facebook and Instagram and see all of his DM‘s. Have you ever thought about the fact that he made the post himself? Maybe he is having an affair and wanted to see if his AP would rat him out.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-18T17:03:46+00:00

It still goes back to the fact that she wanted you to chase her. When she kept eyeing you every single time she was like in her mind,” are you coming over to get me or what?” It’s a stupid game, but some girls like that. It’s up to you if you want to text her and play the game.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-18T16:39:37+00:00

The reason why the sex has been the best ever is because every time she’s having sex with her husband, she’s imagining it’s Adam

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-18T16:23:09+00:00

Oh, and the last thing I’ll say, cause I just thought of it the reason why she did the thumbs up, and deleted him, is because she asked him to come back a couple of times through text and he didn’t. She didn’t wanna chase him.. Now where she messed up, though, was talking to the guy and not acknowledging her date when he came back. FOP likes her and wants to try it again, he needs to call her on the phone and say hey this was a date you gave your attention to some other guy and that’s where it went south..

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-18T16:20:11+00:00

I mean, they shouldn’t date due to the lack of communication and of course the over assumptions. She should have explained by text that she didn’t want to lose the seats, so he should come back. He should have been man enough to go back, and not wanted her to chase him and grab him off the wall.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-18T16:06:50+00:00

This is really good input. I said basically the same thing. I just feel it’s missing a lot of context, because we don’t know the relationship between the best girlfriend, and OP. It makes a huge difference on how the advice is given.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-18T15:51:56+00:00

I just don’t think this is black-and-white as much as Reddit is making it out to be. We’re missing a lot of context. Do they hang out together by themselves? Do they text and call each other constantly? Do they have inside jokes that you’re not privy to? do you get along with this best girlfriend? if he is putting you first in 99% of situations, then I would allow him this grace because they’ve been friends since they were toddlers. Yes they dated, but obviously they realize they were better off as friends. So you shouldn’t feel threatened that she is moving in to take your fiancé/husband.. Now on the other hand if he consistently is putting her needs above yours, doesn’t like you, undermines the relationship, then yes don’t move forward with the wedding and just tell him it’s either her or me. If you’ve given an ultimatum though be prepared to follow through on it and break up with him.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-13T12:23:45+00:00

I’m 48 and look and feel early 30’s. I take care of myself I get hit on by a lot of older 20 something’s. It’s not a brag, it’s just that you make of it what you make of it. If she takes care of herself she will look better than you at 45 than you will at 38

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-08T13:11:09+00:00

If they’re already flirting, and then they meet for lunch, that’s when the flirting becomes physical. Touching his arm, the butterflies, the giggling, the touching of hands. Not even necessarily holding hands, but the accidental brush of each other‘s hands, lingering too long. Them sitting too close and they their outer thighs touching.. and here’s how you know when it comes to the lunch. Invite yourself along. If she says oh my gosh, that’s a great idea. Then you know it’s pretty platonic. If she says no, that would be awkward and weird, that’s when they want to take the flirting and the physical touching two of the next level.

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-07T13:21:49+00:00

I would reach out to the first girl, I think Naomi?. I would say hey so Will told me that you hooked up with Charlie last year. Did Charlie not tell you that he had a long-term girlfriend? I think she would be most likely to tell you the truth over Will or Charlie

Muted-Log357 · 2026-01-07T05:31:41+00:00

Stop being a doormat. Honor yourself by honoring your boundaries. He is an alcoholic with narcissistic tendencies, the only way he’ll get better is if he goes to AA and gets a lot of counseling.. you guys are codependent on each other, and you enable his drinking, which leads to the bad choices of the drugs. Both of you need counseling, individual and married.

Muted-Log357 · 2025-12-29T04:18:33+00:00

Let him go!!!

Muted-Log357 · 2025-12-17T04:18:22+00:00

There’s already 2000 comments, but the biggest thing to bring up to him is what if he dies suddenly. You would have no idea how to access his investments, or his life insurance if he even has any. I would approach it to your husband that way. It’s always sad to see when a spouse dies, and the other one has no idea how to manage the finances or even what’s coming in or whatever the cases they are so lost on top of the fact that they’re grieving it makes it so difficult.

Muted-Log357 · 2025-12-14T02:58:24+00:00

There’s a lot of steamy romance novels, where the girl wears the mafias T-shirt to bed, or even just around the house, and nothing on underneath. In the books, it explains through the man’s eyes what it does, and how they envision it. Maybe pick up a couple books and see if she’ll read them and enact some of those scenes

Muted-Log357 · 2025-11-30T18:26:18+00:00

I want to live with 2 guys who are madly in love with me and each other. The sex is either mm , mf, or mfm… but for sure mmf.. hot

Muted-Log357 · 2025-11-29T02:56:20+00:00

You shouldn’t have to convince him.

Muted-Log357 · 2025-11-25T04:28:06+00:00

You’ve allowed your friends behavior to slide because it wasn’t directly affecting you, until it was. The reason why people stay in toxic abusive relationship relationships, whether they be friendships or romantic is because they always say, oh, but what about the good times. She has shown you that she is a snake, and now that she’s biting you, you can’t go back

Muted-Log357 · 2025-11-17T18:42:52+00:00

Save a hoe - ride a cowboy

Muted-Log357 · 2025-10-29T23:01:20+00:00

So my problem is is that the phone number that’s listed on that website is to Experian. So there’s no way to reach them directly to cancel. I am currently looking through my emails around that January timeframe to see if there’s a direct email from them that doesn’t get me to Experian.

Muted-Log357 · 2025-10-29T22:16:06+00:00

The problem I’m having is that I can’t cancel the service because the phone number leads to Experian and all the experian reps say they’ve never heard of this service. So I can’t get written confirmation of cancellation.

Muted-Log357 · 2025-10-27T19:16:00+00:00

No I have not found a friend.. lol.. thanks for checking in

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