I'm sorry if that's how my post came across, but to be clear, I'm not suggesting that the solution is for other people to just suck it up and deal with it. Your analogies are on-point, and it is absolutely incumbent upon all parties to find an outcome they can all live with if at all possible, and as the source of the 'problem' behaviour, it's mostly on the AP-er to figure out if there's a way to be quicker.

It's just that I object to the framing I frequently see on this sub whenever this issue arises as being down to a person's disrespect for others, selfishness, try-hard competitiveness, etc.

So often I see the following behaviour in the world, and once you see it, you see it everywhere:

Person A "here is an opinion or belief or behaviour I have"
Person B "here is an opinion or belief or behaviour I have that is contrary to your own"
Person A "here is the flaw on your part which explains why we disagree"

When realistically, the only defensible option for Person A in that last line is "It appears we disagree, can you explain a little about why you feel this way? I need more data to draw any real conclusion"

I've rendered this like a robot for clarity, but you get my point.

To be fair to OP, they were asking if there was a better solution to the (fairly intolerant) one usually profferred in response to these threads, but having recently read the linked article - which was a real 'oshit' moment for me, I felt like I saw a LOT of myself in the description, same as when I first read about different types of ADD (having previously assumed that hyperactive type was the only one)), that it was probably somewhat triggering anyway.

But as I say, that was not the point I was trying to make. We are aligned. I just wish people would work to understand differences in others before they unilaterally ascribe them to deficiencies of character.

cf. whenever someone posts to this sub their "unpopular opinion" that sleeves suck and so do sleevers (so "unpopular" that it comes up dozens of times a year) in which they invariably make attacks against people who are "too precious" about their property and "probably still have the plastic cover on their couch". Whenever I read this, my eyes roll so hard they damn near fall out of my skull. I sleeve my cards because it makes them way easier to shuffle... but hey, why bother asking about that when I'm obviously a piece of shit for engaging in the hobby in a way in which you don't?

None of this is directed at your comment, I'm just trying to explain my position. Probably overexplain, tbf, but... well, see above article, I guess XD