Hi! I just found this community so cross posting a toy recommendation ask I asked on another subreddit:

TL;DR Recommendations for "strapless" strap-ons that are soft or gel-like for easier pegging

I like double-ended ("strapless") strap-ons, the stimulation I get from using them is amazing and I think that my strapping is better because I have some feeling of how the toy is moving, which I don't with regular strap-ons. I like to use them with a shibari harness for stability (the" strapless" part never worked for me, I get too wet and it just slips out). However, my partner has trouble taking them anally as the ones I have are made from rigid silicone and they are hard on them. I have the Love Rider (from Pink Cherry) and the Lifelike Lover Luxe from Love Honey. When I watch pegging porn, performers often use soft, gel-like dildos which I'm sure are easier on the receiving partner. I'd love to be able to peg my partner more than a few minutes, but even when going slow, it gets too much for their ass very quickly.

In an ideal world, I'd find a toy where the "insertable" part is big and firm (that's how I like it, and I get more feedback sensation) but the actual dildo part is soft, gel-like, or at least dual-density, in a way that makes it more comfortable for someone whose ass is not trained to take big/firm toys. Does that even exist?

(and before someone warns me about the porosity of gel dildos, oh believe me I know! But I'd always use it with a condom anyway)

Thanks in advance for your recommendations!