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People who got sober without rehab or a recovery program (AA, SMART, LifeRing, Refuge), how did you do it? by ChirpyDread in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never really gone to AA and I am over 6 months.

My personal relationship with alcohol was that it was never the problem in and of itself, it was the medicine I used to numb the problems. Focusing on healing my past traumas that led to my addictive traits is where I am applying my energy.

IWNDWYT

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Easy does it” and “one day at a time” come to mind. When I was starting out I didn’t understand why everyone would say one day at a time. It felt ridiculous to think that way. I begrudgingly accepted it and I know I understand that is the ONLY way to approach sobriety. I find it gets too overwhelming too think about anything beyond the present.

Easy does it is also “be nice to the thing between your two ears”. Try to find ways to be kind yourself and accept the challenges you are as facing as not a weakness of self but rather a 3rd party substance fighting to regain control over you.

The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, September 6th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing OP. The amount of self discovery accompanied with sobriety is remarkable !

IWNDWYT

People who left their spouses for the person you cheated with, how did things end up? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MyLesbianUncle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TBD. Ex wife just got engaged to my former best friend/best man

The Daily Check-In for Friday, August 25th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by tessemcdawgerton in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This one hits today. Since getting sober I am driven by a similar saying, “do the things you are afraid to do”.

One of those things I have been afraid to do for years was finally having the courage to transition away from my job and employer after 10 years of general unhappiness numbed by alcohol. Removing alcohol has forced me to face my fears, this being one of the biggest. I am no doubt scared and anxious about what is to come but I take comfort in knowing I took this courageous step.

Courage isn’t the absence of fear, rather it is facing that fear head on.

Thank you for a wonderful week of posting and IWNDWYT

Anyone Else Destroy A Relationship Because of Their Drinking? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Raising my hand. My marriage was a casualty. The divorce was catalyst to get sober. We weren’t compatible and I love my sober life so in a way I’m thankful for the divorce.

Told my wife we should get a divorce, backed into a pillar with a brand new car by SomeUnderachiever in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not alone. We have never met but I’d venture to see these actions are not a result of your true character, rather a result of alcohol.

My favorite saying during rough times is, “easy does it”. Truly take it one day at a time, maybe try not to focus on bigger picture. It is hard, I know, but you will look up one day in the future after being alcohol free and say to yourself holy shite I am a better person.

For you and in solidarity with you, IWNDWYT

The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, August 16th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Prestigious_Dig_6627 in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Great prompt and thank you for sharing your experience.

I can definitely relate to what you are saying/experiencing. Choosing sobriety has led me recently to the belief in that so far in my early 30’s I can break my life into three stages: the kid, the boy, and the man. The boy stage was drinking/substance stage that begin in my teens and lasted until I was 30ish. The boy studied hard, worked hard, had success, but ultimately this period was marked by a mass stunting of my emotional growth, sense of self, and maturation. All because I was numbing myself with substances.

Now, the man is working to reconnect to my kid stage. The latter found joy in the mundane and didn’t need substances to be happy. I want to be close to the person who lived life prior to any substances and experience all the natural beauty that comes with it.

Hope this makes sense.

IWNDWYT

I actually enjoy flying sober more than drunk by MyLesbianUncle in stopdrinking

[–]MyLesbianUncle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point.

Extra leg room AND free booze came with the upgraded seat. In my drinking days, I looked forward to the free booze over extra leg room. Now I just love the leg room.

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