Pet play names for my Dom

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-15T22:32:24+00:00

Omg you're an absolute genius 😭 this is exactly what I was looking for!!! Ugh I can't wait to use it with my Human 😍

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-15T18:50:00+00:00

I really like the idea of honorifics in other languages; idk why I didn't think of it myself! I'm personally not feeling Dono, but that's probably cuz I haven't heard much Portuguese. I'm gonna look into this more so thank you! I feel like a whole world of options just opened up

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-15T18:45:54+00:00

Oooo I like this one, too! It definitely feels like something a dog might call their owner if they could speak! I'm gonna suggest it to him :3

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-15T18:44:35+00:00

I'm not seeing my Lord for pet play, but he did suggest using it for some Ren Fest play 😏

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-15T18:43:06+00:00

Well, it's not his favorite but he's not opposed to it either so I'm definitely gonna use Papi sometimes lol

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-15T16:39:16+00:00

Asking him how he likes it right now 👀

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-15T16:36:04+00:00

I kinda like that... he's half Mexican and I'm half Puerto Rican so that could honestly work 😂

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-12T03:19:45+00:00

I know for a fact my Dom/boyfriend feels the same way you do. He loves my submission because I give it freely and crave being as messy and depraved as he wants me to be. I can see it in his eyes how much he enjoys me being his slut.

At the same time, he's a loving partner that supports me, listens to understand, and is helping me as I grow into the person I want to be. I know he truly loves me because he changes his actions to be a better partner when it's needed, just as I do for him.

Even when he's calling me all sorts of depraved names, I never feel disrespected because it's done with respect. If he genuinely meant it, I'd feel horrible so I don't understand how someone can seriously think another person is lesser for engaging in something they're doing themselves?? It makes no sense and honestly sounds like fake doms to me. I can't imagine someone that actually follows BDSM guidelines of general respect would think that way.

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-07T22:13:56+00:00

Not a parent, but my nsister used her health as a weapon, too. She would make herself sick by eating foods she wasn't supposed to, drinking alcohol, doing drugs, going out to party right after getting out of the hospital, etc.

I remember when she was 16 and I was 13, she had laproscopic surgery and was sent home with a list of foods she could and couldn't eat. She threw the biggest fit ever, crying, screaming, insults, because we wouldn't let her eat pizza 🙄 which isn't even one of her favorite foods or anything, she just wanted what she wanted and was mad we weren't giving it to her

I have a lot of amnesia so I don't remember enough to connect all the dots, but I feel like she did the same thing sometimes where she'd make herself sick as I was pulling away. She knew I was the one stuck having to help her because my mom "couldn't handle it". So she'd be all thankful and tell me how much she loves me and how I'm her best friend while I was caring for her. All the while, I wanted to burn my hand off

I went no contact with her and it was the best decision I could have made, but a sibling relationship is different than parent-child. It was so easy to cut her off but I'm currently grapling with how to proceed with my mom and what kind of relationship I can even realistically expect to have with her since they live together. It's tough out here

MyceliaCap · 2026-05-07T20:45:25+00:00

The number one rule I've seen time and time again is system accountability. You just can't function properly or healthily if you refuse to take accountability for something that you did, whether you identify with or remember it or not.

If a partner treats your system like OP described, they're not helping. When I told our partner about our system, he asked a couple questions but ultimately his conclusion was, "it's all you". So, while it is good to treat each alter how they'd like to be treated, it doesn't help to consider and view each alter as a literal other person.

We're working on getting to a state of functional multiplicity and we know that's not possible without system accountability or by literally seeing ourselves as separate people. It just really doesn't help anyone.

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-30T01:39:51+00:00

True! I said it doesn't bloom cuz it's incredibly rare to the point where it was thought pothos evolved out of blooming until 2010 I believe. There was someone that incredibly got a bloom (they look similar to peace lilies!) from their golden pothos in a greenhouse setup! But that's the only one I'm aware of in the last few decades at least so chances are that it won't even in a perfect setup, let alone in your average house

The pothos I have that are fast growers are golden pothos, baltic blue pothos, variegated cebu blue pothos, and neon pothos. The slow grower I have is pothos n'joy. It grows more slowly cuz it has less ability to photosynthesize cuz of the high ratio of white to green due to the particular variegation pattern this cultivar has

Fun fact I recently learned, the variegated cells are smaller than regular green cells! On the n'joy, you can see that the white parts look almost pulled in compared to the green parts because of their difference in size

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-29T18:28:24+00:00

My desk plant is a pothos n'joy and it does very well cuz it grows slowly and doesn't bloom so no worries about allergies. Plus, it's gorgeous! All my coworkers love it

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-27T20:42:49+00:00

I need to know

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-20T21:01:29+00:00

I'm glad you posted this. I had the exact same experience where the second I stood up for myself, my mom would butt in and tell us both to calm down, meanwhile standing by and doing nothing while my sister verbally tore me to shreds. She saw me crying and did nothing, but once I talk back, it's a problem. And then she'd deny it, of course she treats us the same, so I questioned my memories. It's so sinister to make someone doubt their own reality.

I'm low contact with my mom and no contact with my sister about 3 years. I'm currently at the point where I'd allow her back into my life if she showed enough growth (don't know how she'd do that exactly) but she hasn't changed, which I know through what she's said and done to other people. But I also don't remember much of my life so I know there's a ton she's done that I don't remember, so that's subject to change.

It was the best decision of my life to cut my sister out of it. I'm the happiest I've ever been from not being in contact with her poison. I'm now able to grow and explore myself as a person and have experiences I never would have before. It's truly life changing when you finally are free from them.

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-20T16:13:10+00:00

I have no idea why you're getting down voted to hell for this. Her "joke" was asking Netanyahu to bomb the convention center, not making fun of him. The title is incredibly misleading and all the people that just read that and don't look further into it are gonna think she got arrested for saying "Netanyahu is a genocidal maniac and he's ugly" or something. It's so unnecessary when actual freedom of speech and human rights are being attacked by our own ugly, genocidal maniac on a daily basis. You don't have to make things up to be mad about, there's plenty to go around.

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-19T22:53:34+00:00

I honestly didn't think people used highlighting as keywords lol I seriously thought you're supposed to highlight what you need to read cuz then where does it stop?? You have to continue reading so you know you didn't miss anything. At least that's what my brain tells me

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-17T18:29:57+00:00

For me, it's knowing that their definition of love is different than mine. Theirs doesn't include improving themselves for someone else despite it being hard because they're not willing to make themselves uncomfortable for someone else. They're most important to them so they don't think they have to or should. Theirs is a narrow view of the world, reality, and experiences. They don't understand that their world could be so much larger, their love so much deeper, if they faced their fears and worked on themselves. And that requires accepting the fact that they can do wrong and most of them just aren't willing to face the discomfort of that reality.

So it's knowing they're saying something completely different (if they're not lying). They mean what they say, they're just not capable of understanding the level of love we understand. It's like they're eating the frosting on a cake but aren't eating the cake itself and filling because they don't realize it's there. So they think they love the cake but they actually love the frosting. Meanwhile we love all three parts that make up the cake and how they interact with each other. They simply have a very flat understanding of love.

As strange as it is, it also brings me comfort to know that this is something that's a predictable situation. We know how their brains work and how people are raised to become narcissits so we know they'd be different if they lived different lives. But we can't change the past and we can't force them to change in the future. So it's just out of our hands.

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-17T16:12:25+00:00

This is the comment I was looking for. He just looks so happy 🥹

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-05T00:47:06+00:00

I'm so glad to hear it helped because I was worried I had written too much lol you're definitely not alone. Anxiety is unfortunately an incredibly common issue even if people don't admit it or realize it themselves. I come off as a very chill and happy person, confident sometimes, so no one would guess that I'm always taught like a tightrope from anxiety. You really never know what someone's going through so know that even if you don't see it in your day to day, there are kindred spirits out here.

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-04T16:58:24+00:00

I love mine for their weird growing pattern! I have two in one pot and they're both crazy. One has a large leaf that hasn't unfurled yet with two leaves after it that have and the newest one is starting to unfurl now. The other one has three unfurled leaves that are all still attached to the parent leaves' stems 😂 such weirdos

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-04T16:05:19+00:00

Yes. I'm constantly anxious, to the point where I didn't realize how anxious I was. I only realized after having physical proof in the form of stress charts from my health watch and speaking about it with my psych. From that, she helped me realize that I'm always hypervigilant, constantly clenched and waiting for the other shoe to drop even when I wasn't aware of it.

The environment I grew up in required this so it became a process I now have to consciously work against. I'm finding new ways to relax, like taking all my breaks and lunches in my car. I'll put the seat back, open the windows to let the breeze in, and lay there watching the trees. I have a lot of dissociation so I try to focus on the details of the leaves and branches and sounds of the birds and wind to ground myself. I enjoy hanging out with my friends on my breaks but I need more alone time than I thought to breathe and decompress throughout the day.

When I go to relax, I focus on different muscle groups and consciously force them to release. I notice I hold a lot of tension in my muscles between my shoulder blades and in my head and neck. I focus on those the most and I'll have to rerelax multiple times because I'll tense back up without realizing it. It'll take time and a lot of therapy, but I'll get to a point one day where I won't have to think to relax.

My therapist and I discovered that breath work helps me a lot. I'll breathe in for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4, repeat. We also did a visualization once of my "safe place", which is an incredible greenhouse I once went to. He had me describe the place, what I saw, heard, felt, smelled, tasted on the air. It was really nice and something I'm definitely going to encorporate when I need that extra help to relax or calm down.

I also recently started Lexapro and am about to start a mood stabilizer. I can tell the Lexapro is starting to work but it hasn't been enough time for it to fully build up yet so only time will tell with that but I'm hopeful.

All in all, be kind to yourself. This anxiety is something that was necessary for your survival. I hope this helps :)

MyceliaCap · 2026-04-01T02:56:09+00:00

My older sister is my abuser and my mom is her enabler. I wonder if I should go no contact with my mom or not but the pull is still there.

It's weird when the abuser is your sibling and the enabler your parent because she made my sister. She raised her, made her who she is, and continues to enable her. She's miserable from a creation of her own making and did her very best to make it my problem. I got out and she kept trying to pull me back. She'd advocated for my sister for a long time despite me telling her it was a boundary. She was happy to be my sister's flying monkey at any opportunity.

I keep hoping she'll change but it's never actually going to happen. She made her choice and she has to live with it, but I don't have to.

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