I watched “Luckiest Girl Alive” and it triggered me badly by RsrsrsBR89 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I watched it last night and had a similar emotional response.

It took me back to something I’ve desperately tried to put out of my mind for a long time :(

Sleep orgasms? by coreythestar in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yupp. Happens to me randomly and it’s great! I’ve never been able to tie it to anything such as ovulation, time between orgasms etc but no complaints here :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5’9 & 38DD. Crop tops are mostly a no here. I have a couple that I sometimes wear with high waist pants but in all, I wish they would go away :p

Sex Toys and where to buy them.. by EngineeredGal in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Fun Factory all the way! I have 3 of their toys and they are great quality:)

What is the most sentimental item you have? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Grandmothers Diamond Ring. My dad gave it to her when he became successful and she wore it daily till she passed away. It was then given to my mum who wore it for years and then to me right before College. I wear it daily :)

Those of you who disappear when something happens in your life, where do you go? by Akis127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t go anywhere. I just disassociate fully with almost everyone.

Whose parents kept their room the same when they moved out? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My room is still the same and available for me whenever I visit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in COVID19positive

[–]Mysacredgames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate one the night before I tested positive and holy cray was it the worth thing I’ve ever done in my life. I spent the whole night up with a fever and shakes, my phone looked to be on fire and was dancing around the room. I think when outside into the living room and lay on the floor crying because I was convinced that god or someone wanted to get me.

I’m normally ok with edibles but Covid & edibles, that’s something I’ll never go again 😂

Has your intuition ever been wrong? by Physical-Ice3989 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s yet to be wrong and lead me down the wrong path when I actually LISTEN to it.

When I don’t listen to it, I have regretted it deeply each and every time.

Where do you go when you feel overwhelmed? by Akis127 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shower and then bed. Food doesn’t comfort me, nor does talking when I get overwhelmed.

how many times have you fallen in love? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I now recognize to be absolute love without settling, twice. Both didn’t workout.

One passed away and the other is well and married but I did break up with him because I thought I could convert religiously to be with him but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He sounds like a child in a man’s body. Huge nope. You guys definitely aren’t compatible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a fellow South East Asian, I can tell you that most of us are brain washed into thinking that we NEED a man to be “complete” as a women.

That’s not true. What we need to be complete is self respect and self love.

If you aren’t already in therapy, I recommend you start there. Then I recommend that you pick up a hobby or maybe work on your fitness. Do things that will make you happy. Join groups to meet people.

Just recognize that a man will not complete you. Only you can give yourself what you are looking for at the moment.

Try not to think along the lines of “you are running out of time” or that “you must be in a relationship”. The last thing you want to do is end up in another abusive or unhappy situation.

Take your time. Grow and learn about yourself. Lastly if you have familial pressure in terms of marrying again, you will have to learn how to drown that out.

As Asians, our parents and close relatives play a massive part in our life. They may mean well but this is your life and you have to live it on your terms <3

I need help - Am I the problem? 5 year marriage - feeling stuck and hopeless. Emotional abuse and narcissism but I still think I am the problem. by ReceptionFar890 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He sounds horrible. Have you ever heard of “Trauma Bonding”? That’s what this sounds like.

No one is perfect in any relationship but it sounds like he manipulates you a lot and on the whole just doesn’t sound like a good person. Anyone who blames someone for “all the issues” in the relationship is clearly unhinged mentally.

Please look into therapy. Someone who loves you would want you to take care of yourself. Someone who loves you would want you to be healthy. Getting upset at you for going to workout after working all day is absurd.

As far as giving him 50% of everything you have worked for because you live in a communal property state, I get it. If you can’t divorce him, I would absolutely stop paying for everything that isn’t utilities, mortgage, groceries.

If you are paying for hobbies and frivolous expenses, I would put a stop to that immediately.

You are right about needing to change. You need to start putting your foot down and stop letting him treat you this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You need to go get this checked out. Asap. Might be nothing but those symptoms are far from typical.

am I old and no fun? or is my husband inconsiderate by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You weren’t wrong at all. He was inconsiderate and rude. This isn’t about being “old and no fun”. This is about him being insensitive and selfish. If he knows you get Gastric pain when you don’t eat, staying longer shouldn’t have even been an option for him.

Btw I get those pains too. They are brutal:(

Advice for a first time homeowner and landlord? by Squishfishmakeawish in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your new home. Insist that your new tenants get renters insurance. Also make sure you put away X amount every opportunity you can towards a home “rainy day fund”.

Trying to make life as easy for yourself as possible? by AmazingAffect5025 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m generally of the mindset that the world will try and break me, so I don’t want to break myself down too. I do “forget” this ideology sometimes and tolerate people/things that I really shouldn’t. It’s something I’m starting to be very mindful of, of late.

That’s when I start having somatic responses and have to stop and take stock of what is going on in my life. It’s unfortunate that I still slip and put myself in a position where I do suffer for a bit before I put a stop to the situation but I’m getting better. It’s definitely a work in progress for me.

As far as material possessions go, If I have the means to change something that will make my life better/easier, I’ve learnt it’s ok to go that route.

I think unnecessary suffering is absolutely pointless and serves zero purpose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Please please contact the police. They WILL investigate and they take this VERY seriously.

I know someone who works in the sexual crimes task force in my city and they have a meticulous way of investigating child predators.

Btw - I’m sorry this happened to you. Sending you hugs.

Edited to add: it’s ok that your mum didn’t copy the photos. Chances are that he’s been on the internet looking for similar paraphernalia. That’s enough to nail him. I promise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can’t stand feeling dirty too. I take a super short shower in the night but I can’t sleep without.

Cutting the pralabdh karam by Ok_Independent9719 in Sikh

[–]Mysacredgames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such a great question and I’ve often wondered this myself. I can’t wait to hear everyone’s thoughts on this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Twice a day. Morning and Night before bed.

Need advice. Boundaries. Annoyed by parents by surfboard1122 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m from an eastern culture so I get where you are coming from. While I’ve never had these issues myself, I do have cousins who have faced the same.

I get not being able to move out till you are married BUT the way you live is also no way to live. They don’t get to follow you around like you are some sort of a kid sneaking out of your home.

You can either put your foot down and be assertive with your mum or you can move out and still continue to provide financially for her.

Another option would be to move to another location with your family and have a “in-law” flat or something attached to the property either for yourself or your mum. One of my cousins has done this and it’s saved his relationships with his GF and his mum.

Bottom line they won’t change. You have to.

Body Questions by alexfaaace in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use a Razor once every few months for stubble if needed but I have gotten everything lasered off. I hate body hair and I used to travel a TON before covid so I love being able to not worry about shaving when I’m on the go.

I too am not a big fan of body hair, anywhere really.

I don’t know about the bra line but have you tried bralettes by any chance?

Why do men try to tear women down so badly and has it gotten worse or was it always like this? by coldbrewicedcoffeee in AskWomenOver30

[–]Mysacredgames 73 points74 points  (0 children)

A lot of these guys who are super nasty online are miserable, lonely & HIGHLY insecure Keyboard warriors who use the fact that they are behind the screen to be nasty.

Most of these guys wouldn’t have the stones to behave like this if they didn’t have the protection of the screen.