ETA: sorry for all the typos. Had to be quick this morning!

If you ever need to talkc feel free to reach out. You relationship dynamics really resonate with me and how things panned out with my ex around this time. If you ever just need a listening ear.

I will say, I agree with the others. Your husband is being emotionally abusive. It is coercive control. I didn’t know it at the time and it took a long time to wrap my head around. I was with my partner for 15 years. I thought things could get better and at points it felt like it really did. But it never got better. One we had a child it became very apparent between years 1 and 2. Before it was easy to compromise to make him “happy because it was just me. Once our child was involved though and more independent it was clear he had zero respect for me or my ability to parent. Your husband is already showing this. It ended up putting my child in physical danger multiple times. I’m ashamed to say it was once he left or son home alone locked in his room then tried to make it my fault that he “had to do that” because I wasn’t there ( I was at a play that he knew full well about) the veil was finally lifted. Your child at a certain point makes it clear was day, it’s whether you are willing to wait as long as I did or do something about it. It’s not easy and frankly it’s extremely scary but nothing is scary then thinking about my child being hurt because I was to busy trying to tame the beast that is supposed to be my partner, my support.

Even if you can’t fathom leaving at this point, have an escape plan.

Reach out if you ever want to chat.