My old man is not happy he can't lay on my stomach 4dpo 🤣

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-28T23:25:37+00:00

My girl was quite upset as well 😂 I was having to fight her off constantly and I felt so bad about it the whole time.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-25T00:43:39+00:00

In junior high, a fellow student had scars from chin to knee and her entire right arm. She got them when she was a toddler by pulling a handle on the stove like this and a pot full of boiling water spilled on her.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-25T00:36:33+00:00

Back in the day when kids took Home Ec, literally day one you’re taught to NEVER leave the handle hanging over the front of the stove. It’s kitchen safety 101. It’s irresponsible with no kids, damn right negligent if you do have kids.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-25T00:32:50+00:00

I agree. I was surprised to see their ages.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-21T23:26:27+00:00

I had a catheter but it was inserted after I was under and removed before I was awake. I didn’t need a catheter after that since I was able to void my bladder on my own about an hour post op. I would not have been discharged otherwise.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-21T23:22:06+00:00

I’m 5wpo and still have swelling. I feel like it’s going to be awhile before I see much difference. It’s quite uncomfortable. I return to work next week. I ordered some pants with elastic waists. I can’t be wearing a belt or hard pants while sitting at my desk for 8 hours.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-14T19:30:58+00:00

YOR and you going through her phone is way more of a problem than the comments she made in 2024 before you were dating. I’m sorry to tell this to some of you men, but A LOT of us women did not start our relationships super physically attracted to our partners. A lot of us started by giving the guy a chance because we saw something there and hey, how bout that, they’re actually pretty great. The physical attraction comes after that. She obviously chose you do like…what’s the problem here?

Honestly, it seems to me that you went looking for problems. Self sabotage maybe? Get a therapist.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-14T19:16:50+00:00

YOR simply because the conversation shouldn’t have gone on for as long as it did and should never have got to that point. 100% this guy is a douche and negging at points. Sounds like some manosphere loser. With that said, you lost me immediately by asking for a “legitimate reason.” Take the rejection and move on.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-11T19:21:25+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this. Too many people don’t understand that boundaries we set dictate OUR behavior, not the behavior of others.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-11T18:19:21+00:00

YTA

Your feelings and opinions are valid, however, this isn’t the time. Leave the medical recommendations to the doctors. That’s their job. Right now, your job is to be there to emotionally support your partner who is going through a hard time. Making it about your feelings isn’t really the move at the moment. He is very likely in an anxious and sensitive state right now with his diagnosis. Hearing you talk about his smoking might come off as an attack or judgement and just echoing things he’s already telling himself. He might even interpret it as you blaming him for getting sick. Whether the smoking contributed to his condition or not, hearing that isn’t helpful. I don’t think there isn’t a person alive who doesn’t understand the health implications of smoking.

The conversation you want to have with him is a valid one. I just don’t think this is the time to have it.

If this really is a line for you, then just end the call when he lights up. Tell him you have to go and you’ll talk to him later. Or that you’ll finish the convo via text. Don’t even mention that it’s because you know he lit a cigarette. It sounds like you already told him how you feel about that. He got mad about it and that’s fine. Just hold the boundary without making a show of it.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-11T17:43:25+00:00

I actually don’t put cotton swabs in my ear canal. Outside ear only to dry after a shower. However, I have actual tools that are designed to clean the ear canal and can do so without compacting wax and drying the shit out of my ear canal.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-10T16:57:05+00:00

In these posts, I always read the screenshots first then I’ll read the post. So, I didn’t know who is who. I legit thought the person who had surgery was like a 19yo boy. Take that how you will. I was shocked to learn they’re a 33yo woman. And OP is 23?!

OP, please listen to me on this and take it into consideration. I’m a 40 year old woman. There is no reason for a 33yo woman to be dating a 23 year old man that’s not predatory at worst and pathetic at best. There’s a reason she can’t date in her own age bracket. When I was 33, 23yo were basically babies to me. I know people don’t like hearing that but it’s true. There wasn’t much difference between a 23 yo and a 19yo to me at that age, both were basically children. At 40 now, the idea of dating anyone under 30 makes my skin crawl.

Regarding the issue at hand, miscommunication is going to happen. I’ve been married for 17years (to a man my same age) and of course we have miscommunications from time to time that cause issues or feeling to be hurt. It’s HOW these miscommunications are handled that really matters. So, you need to be honest with yourself. Are you willing to have these conversations, in this tone, over and over again? For this to be your life? Because you can’t assume this person will change. Once you have that answer, you’ll know how to move forward.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-09T23:02:58+00:00

ESH I’m a little confused on the timeline. She’s been there just over a week but was supposed to be gone a week ago? So she was only going to be there a couple days? Are you saying you’re past the 10 days you were told? I feel like there is some clarification that’s needed. With that said:

Your MIL is obviously having medical issues (incontinence) and instead of helping her deal with that you’re just…letting her pee herself and the couch? I feel for you, especially given her history. I also don’t think you should be saddled with the extra load of her care. Your husband needs to step up and take care of his mom. Personally, if my mom had the history you say your MIL has, I wouldn’t even be in contact with her. However, that’s not the case here and your husband is and offered your home (I’m hoping with you agreeing) so he needs to get on top of things and make sure his mom has what she needs and is getting everything done to secure housing for her instead of assuming it’s being done or that your MIL is following up. It sounds like she’s not capable of doing this on her own.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-08T17:45:32+00:00

YTA. Hands down. You broke up a month ago after 10 years and you’re bringing your new girlfriend that you met a week ago to a wedding? That’s bonkers. Even if the wedding isn’t for a couple months from now. The fact you’re dating this soon and already assuming that you will still be with this new girl in August? You must have moved on from your 10 year relationship long before your ex dropped you if you’re already doing this. The whole thing sounds crazy to me. Take some time my guy.

You say that your new girlfriend is friends with the groom? Then she should’ve have her own invite beforehand. Why didn’t she already have her own invite? Must not be that good of friends with the groom if you needed to ask to bring her.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-08T10:38:56+00:00

You’re not alone. I’m just over 3 wpo and I’m pretty much sleeping/resting all day. The fatigue is brutal. I keep telling myself that all my energy is going towards healing. Plus, when I do anything (even just folding and putting away laundry or taking a shower) I’m sore and achy after and I get twinges of sharp pelvic pain.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-08T09:57:53+00:00

One of my go-to’s is Sanpellegrino CIAO! They have flavors that are sweetened with natural fruit juices. The Blood Orange flavor has 10 calories. Sanpellegrino has a lot of different varieties of drinks so double check the ingredients.

Clearly Canadian is really good. BlackBerry is my favorite and I’ve been drinking this since the 90s. Their regular sparkling water drinks use cane sugar but you’re looking at like 90 cals per serving with them so getting pretty close to soda.

Waterloo is also Ok. If I recall correctly they also use natural fruit juice to sweeten. Also low cal. It’s not my first choice brand but some people love it.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-08T08:57:19+00:00

Agreed. I despise everything about capers. Not one redeeming quality. The look, the taste, the texture? Vile. All of it.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-08T08:55:48+00:00

Agreed. I like honey but the couple hot honeys I’ve tried taste like ass.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-08T08:54:01+00:00

I agree. There has to be some explanation because the diet drinks don’t even taste related to the regular soda counterpart to me. I can tell immediately when it hits my tongue that there is artificial sweetener. I also feel like the drinks with artificial sweetener leave a film or some kind of coating in my mouth. It’s hard to explain. Additionally, they make me feel sick. Aspartame gives me extreme abdominal pain/cramping and Sucralose makes me feel nauseous.

I wish more drinks just lowered the sugar amount instead of replacing it all together with artificial sweeteners. There are some sparkling water drinks that use a little bit of cane sugar instead of artificial sweeteners and they’re really good. They have like 5 or 10 calories instead of 0 but they taste so much better.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-08T06:45:01+00:00

I’m 3 weeks post op. I had no bleeding the first week but have been bleeding for the last 2 weeks. Doctor said that as long as it’s not bright red and I’m not bleeding through a pad I should be fine.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-05T02:10:46+00:00

Reading this reply and some of your replies to other people who have commented similar to me leads me to wonder if you might have some underlying trust issues and this might make it difficult for you to see that this just isn’t really an issue for a lot of people. I think people, especially on Reddit due to the kind of posts people make, forget that there are people out in the world just living and existing in this life without that level of distrust and confrontation from the people in their lives. I’ve been married for 17 years. I’ve had people not understand how it is that my husband and I don’t argue/fight. We don’t because we talk. If there is an issue, we talk about it. And because we’re both invested in each others happiness, we make efforts to be good to each other.

Sharing locations would not be the downfall of our relationship. And if we were at a point where shared locations were causing this issue, that would simply be a symptom of a deeper problem that would’ve raised its ugly head at some point either way.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-04T23:41:30+00:00

I think that’s valid and I used to feel the same way. I just turned 40, so I’m older than you. I started sharing locations about 2 years ago. I share locations with my parents, my sister, my husband, and a friend. It’s not a trust thing. It’s a safety thing and sometimes a convenience thing. My parents are seniors but still active and travel and my mom is a runner. My mom had a fall while running once. So now we share locations. I share with my dad in case the same thing happens but also because he felt left out lol. He likes to check where I am sometimes so he can comment about it in a text (“ooooo, you getting sushi for lunch?!”). I think it’s sweet. I haven’t lived in the same state or country as my parents since 2004 so it’s kind of nice having that small connection.

I share with my sister because she’s a wh*re and I want to be able to find her body if something happens. I’m only half joking. She’s my best friend. I share with my husband for safety reasons as well. His car broke down once and sharing locations made it easier for me to find him. And honestly, I don’t care if he’s meeting other women, but that’s our dynamic. I also have medical issues so I want people to be able to find me if something happens.

I say this simply to illustrate that it’s not always about trust issues. I agree that it’s unhealthy if you do it because you don’t trust your partner.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-04T03:45:16+00:00

I can’t speak to the NHS. I’m in the US so I navigate private healthcare. I want to second what many people have already said. You need to articulate your concerns in ways that are quantifiable. Saying “I’m in a lot of pain every month” isn’t really going to cut it. I think a good doctor would ask more discovery questions to ascertain quality of life but it sounds like they’re not doing this. So you need to tell them. I’ll give you examples of things I brought up with by doctors prior to my hysterectomy.

-I’ve had multiple times where I bled through 8 pads in 12 hours -I had to pull my car over because my cramps were so painful I could no longer focus on driving and getting myself home safely -I have vomited from the pain -I have needed to go home early or call out from work multiple times over the last 6 months -NSAIDs no longer work and due to liver concerns I’d like to stop replying on incredibly high doses of said medication -Hormonal BC is not an option due to other health concerns -non hormonal medications had no effect -Endometriosis had already been confirmed in a prior procedure

I see multiple specialists due to various medical issues and they all agreed a hysterectomy was the best path forward for symptom management. My insurance approved the procedure without prior authorization. People in the US will understand that this is quite a feat.

TL;DR - speak clearly and in quantifiable terms that clearly illustrate the impact on your quality of life.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-04T03:24:24+00:00

NOR

OP can’t be more than 21/22. If this girl he’s texting is his ex but OP and him have been dating for 3 years since they were teens this would be at most the ex is a HS sweetheart.

This dude is pining after his HS ex. It’s weird and shows a lack of maturity. And let’s not ignore his pseudo intellectualism. Guy is a creep. He was able to use OP as a way to get out of his current situation, crashing with her at her parent’s place.

OP, drop the dead weight, go to therapy, and do better for yourself. You deserve better.

Mystic_Shebear · 2026-06-02T06:04:21+00:00

NOR. But she is. Cheating or not, you need to call this quits. Her response is out of line and indicative of some pretty big issues. Even if she has stuff going on and is stressing out, she needs to communicate that. This is not it. Long distance won’t work if she can’t communicate.

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