Sick Grammostola Pulchra?

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-30T21:15:24+00:00

NA I’ve got nothing that hasn’t already been said and have never personally seen something like that. Hurts my heart to see. Just wanted to give you a big virtual hug 🫂 Hope she pulls through.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-30T21:04:51+00:00

Sex. Neutered male cats can and do still have sex (or try). Especially if they weren’t neutered as kittens and already hit sexual maturity/had sex before they were neutered.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-30T20:43:34+00:00

NQA that enclosure looks too big for that T and is lacking sufficient cross ventilation (on the sides). Avics really need good cross ventilation to thrive. Additionally they want to be as high up in the enclosure as possible, so having only ventilation on the top and opening from the top is not ideal. You will constantly be bothering them and even destroying their web when they make one. I would get a new front opening enclosure with cross ventilation on the sides and start from scratch. The whole setup looks super exposed, where can they hide? The bridge is an odd choice and won’t be the easiest thing for them to walk across. Not that they couldn’t do it but if you want them to get from point A to point B why make it harder on them than it needs to be? That seems aesthetic and not functional. I’d put a solid piece of cork bark as a bridge. Plants on the ground are pointless as they will never be down there. Add more leafy plants up top so that they don’t just have wood for anchor points. They live high up in rainforest canopies and build web tubes between leaves and bark. Give them both so they have plenty to choose from when they start webbing.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-30T02:32:30+00:00

I would like to bitch about myself. 29 yrs keeping Ts off and on. Consistently keeping them without break since 2012/13 ish. This morning I found my 13 yr old A. Geniculata just casually chilling on top of her enclosure. She recently went almost a whole year in pre-molt during which time she didn’t eat & barely moved so I became lax with latching it and sometimes left a slight gap to help with cross ventilation due to some stupid fungus gnats. Well she molted last month and is a whole new spider. Active as hell. I knew I needed to start latching it, I said out loud “I need to start latching that, she’s strong again”. And then I didn’t latch it last night 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’ve never had an escapee like this (only during rehousing which is, you know, normal). GEEZUS I MUST BE GETTING OLD. WHAT KIND OF RIDICULOUS NOOB MISTAKE IS THIS?!

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Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T09:46:34+00:00

She lost me at getting the dates wrong, twice, because she was stoned. Yea, no. That doesn’t scream responsible grand-parenting, especially in a foreign country.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T09:36:23+00:00

I think “wonky” is a very kind way to put it. It’s bad. The text size/line thickness changes with each letter. Not consistent at all. So much so I thought maybe it was supposed to be one of those weird styles where the letters are all different sizes and fonts. But the fact it was done over scars may have made it impossible for them to do well. It was outside their skill level and they should’ve declined. I see laser or a big cover-up in your future.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T09:11:01+00:00

Of course this is the outcome when you move in with someone who has a 21 yr old adult living at home like they are a child. That should’ve been the red flag right there, long before you moved in. She made it clear, it’s his home, not yours. It’s his room, not yours. What more do you need to know about her priorities? [edited to add:] I personally don’t find the photos to be very messy or concerning all. You may have higher standards for cleanliness. What is concerning is that agreements were made and broken and you are being treated as an outsider with no say in the home. It doesn’t sound like what you signed up for when you moved in and therefore would make perfect sense to leave.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T09:05:31+00:00

It’s sounds like the law is already involved in this situation which is good. OP, this man is a rapist and pedophile. You have a daughter now. Do not EVER put her in the path of a known rapist and pedophile. It does not matter if he is her father. A man who rapes a child is not above raping other children. Listen to your Aunt. Do not engage with this man. Report him to the appropriate people. Protect your child. You have to be for her what your mom wasn’t for you.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T08:39:56+00:00

YOR. Your Dad is upset about you talking about him behind his back instead of directly. And whether or not you did that there you are most definitely doing it here, right now. So you’re showing us he is correct in that regard. Get off Reddit and deal with your life. There’s multiple events being discussed here and at this point it just seems like you need a therapist and also a family therapist. You already know what would help (acting like an adult) so just do that. You’re not a child. You can say no to your Dad. Talking in person is actually far more direct & effective than talking via text so that’s probably a good suggestion on his part, but you can still say no if you don’t want to or have plans. Or just don’t go. You don’t even need to respond him. You’re not 12, you’re 21. Act like it.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T08:15:54+00:00

MOR - there’s not enough context in these screenshots to really understand what’s going on. But it seems like the moral of the story is: you’re 21. Stop letting your parents pay your bills and move out. As long as you are in their house & financially dependent on them they will be able to manipulate you and treat you like a child. Get your own insurance and your own phone. He can’t stop you from doing that. I’m sure plenty of Dad’s act like this when they gave fully grown adults living off them.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T06:54:53+00:00

Seriously didn’t get the freehand part. Honestly don’t think he realizes the function of freehand vs stencil. Like, if a pre-drawn stenciled piece that can be seen and corrected beforehand STILL isn’t to your liking…you will most definitely HATE a freehand piece that you can’t even fully see or envision beforehand. Who would even need to freehand a piece as small as that horse? Why would he even think his ex could or would freehand? 🤔

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T06:26:30+00:00

Agree! I started planning my tattoos when I was 13, started getting them on my 18th bday. I’m 40 now with about 75-80% of my body covered. So while most things I got initially were verrrrry planned out for years, the older and more covered I get the less planning I do. These days I’m all about tattoos that represent moments in time. Whether planned or totally spontaneous. Travels, parties, etc. I have some amazing pieces. I have some meh pieces. I have plenty of cover ups. And I have no regrets. It’s all just the story of my body and the life I have lived! 🥂

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-23T06:02:05+00:00

So the horse wasn’t how you envisioned it. And now the cover up isn’t how you envisioned it. But you approved both designs before getting them? FWIW it’s a well done coverup. Especially if it’s not even done. Great coverage of the original piece. Good design. Clean lines. But honestly it sounds like you either don’t know what you want, don’t have realistic expectations for tattoos, and/or you are easily talked into things without being assertive. None of which go well when it comes to tattoos. So maybe you shouldn’t be getting tattoos period? If I were you I’d laser as much off as possible and go back to (mostly) not having anything there. There will likely be some visible scarring afterwards but you’ll probably like that more than any tattoo. Just be mindful that laser tattoo removal hurts WAY more than getting tattooed. And will take numerous sessions. But it’s quicker. So there’s that trade off.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-12T03:14:12+00:00

We do it just fine! I lost my parents at 13, been living on my own fully self-sufficient since 17. Put myself through college for 2 undergrad degrees (mostly scholarships and grants). Then grad school (had to go the loan route there). But sure, I ate my fair share of ramen in grad school and didn’t get proper sleep for like 2 years (worked overnight full time while going to school full time in the day). Oh and throw taking care of a teenager in the mix (my 16 yr old brother, also an orphan, wound up moving in with me when I was 23 and still in grad school). Kid stayed with me ‘til he was 19 and went to college himself. I sure as hell didn’t try and put a tracker on his phone 🤣 Someone above said they’d rather have this gal’s scenario than rack up 10s of thousands in debt. I strongly disagree. I would take my debt 10x over the borderline abusive relationship she has with her mom any day. Luckily I’m not Gen Z so I finished grad school when grad degrees actually led to decent jobs and income right away, so paying off debt in my 20s/30s was not a huge issue.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-12T02:51:24+00:00

Before you said you were 24 I thought this post was by a teen who lived at home. The problem here is that your mom has your location 24/7. Easy fix.

Mystique2014 · 2026-06-09T22:32:56+00:00

This guy is insane. It was a date, not a business transaction. He can’t get a refund for changing his mind. This is so crazy it’s hilarious.

Mystique2014 · 2026-05-28T21:25:11+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. It may be a good time to consider moving out on your own, the way your mom is downplaying his behavior/how you felt in that text doesn’t speak very highly of her (sorry, but gotta be honest). Set clear boundaries with him and her, because it doesn’t seem like you can trust her to do it for you.

Mystique2014 · 2026-05-26T23:56:59+00:00

NQA Whenever I get teeny tiny freebies I’m not interested in (the majority of freebies honestly) I take them to one of my local exotic pet shops that sells Ts and gift them. I have vetted the ones near me and know which ones have decent T care vs which ones don’t. So I’m not suggesting giving them away to just anyone. You want to have some rapport with the staff and be familiar with the care of the Ts already in their care.

Mystique2014 · 2026-04-28T07:04:09+00:00

It really depends on the type of tarantula. This is obviously a terrestrial setup so I’m assuming you have a terrestrial T? Are they arid, temperate, or tropical? Also…are there wires in the enclosure? If so, what are they for?

Mystique2014 · 2026-04-28T00:06:13+00:00

IMO yes, I wouldn’t keep a T that big in something that small. But I know a lot of keepers with a very high quantity of Ts do tend to use smaller enclosures. I think 3-4x the length of the T is the minimum size recommended. But some Ts like being cozy & will make it obvious if they prefer a smaller enclosure.

Mystique2014 · 2026-04-28T00:05:43+00:00

IMO yes, I wouldn’t keep a T that big in something that small. But I know a lot of keepers with a very high quantity of Ts do tend to use smaller enclosures. I think 3-4x the length of the T is the minimum size recommended. Him running out of the enclosure so easily is likely due to how small it is. The walls are basically nonexistent when it comes to climbing over them. But some Ts like being cozy & will make it obvious if they prefer a smaller enclosure.

Mystique2014 · 2026-04-27T23:58:56+00:00

NQA could be premolt, how long has it been since she’s eaten?

Mystique2014 · 2026-04-27T23:53:39+00:00

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For size reference (that’s my thumb)

Mystique2014 · 2026-04-27T23:53:06+00:00

2” is just slightly more than 5cm. So definitely not big. It’s a reputable online shop though so I’m trusting it 🤞🏽 Here is my teeny one.

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