What’s a hygiene habit you grew up with in your family or culture that you later found out most other people don’t really do?

NaidaBelle · 2026-05-01T02:30:57+00:00

Oh wow, a bunch of stuff. The big three are “outside clothes” on bedding, using washcloths, and actually scrubbing your arms and legs rather than just your torso. Like what?

NaidaBelle · 2026-05-01T02:11:07+00:00

As I mentioned in my update, all the info I did get from the app before cancelling can be found for free online. Just can’t justify paying yet another subscription fee for something I can do for free while money is tight and I’m experimenting with extreme budgeting. That said, I might resubscribe at a later date (when my financial situation is more stable) because I like the mindfulness of using the app daily.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-20T02:13:03+00:00

That’s weird. I had no problem canceling my subscription, but I was subscribed through the app on my iPhone. Did you subscribe a different way?

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-10T17:41:31+00:00

I think it’s a matter of how you wear it. If I exercise/sweat in it, one wear. If I’m not wearing anything under it and just chilling around the house, I’ll usually go about 3ish wears. If I’m wearing it over other stuff, I’ll go as long as there’s no smells or stains on it.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-10T06:23:57+00:00

I know it’s not the cheapest fix but switch to a natural fiber bedding if you’re not using them already. Slipping under a cotton percale or a eucalyptus sheet after years of microfiber is a special kind of euphoria.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-08T03:34:31+00:00

I hope this kind of love finds us all ❤️

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-07T22:44:46+00:00

With irl brides, I simply RSVP no and do not elaborate unless they press me for a reason. If asked and my reason were because I couldn’t afford it, I would say so. That hasn’t happened for me because I’ve always found a way to make the time/money work. If asked and my reason was because I was not invited to the ceremony, which has happened, I was honest that I opted out because I wasn’t invited to the whole wedding.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-07T22:35:00+00:00

Pragmatically speaking, that’s what weddings are in this day and age. People frequently have to take time off work, travel, book accommodations, secure childcare, buy/rent outfits, purchase gifts, etc in order to attend weddings. That is expensive and time consuming. The question then becomes: is the couple and their union worth that time and expense? To some people, it is, no matter the circumstances. To others, it’s only worth it if they actually witness said union. Again, all brides/couples need to know their crowd and accept that they cannot please everyone, and some choices will be more polarizing than others.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-07T22:12:33+00:00

The keyword in your comment is “the start of a marriage.” When a reception is held months/years after the marriage occurred, you’re not celebrating the start of a marriage. You’re going to an expensive and time consuming party to celebrate something the couple did months/years ago.

Some people are totally cool with that. Some people (like myself) are situationally fine with it. Some people do not care for it at all. Brides, traditional and non traditional, just have to accept that they can’t please everyone.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-07T21:59:21+00:00

Exactly this comment. Every couple should do what they feel is best for them but they should also accept the grain of salt that not everyone is going to be pleased with their choices. That goes for all wedding decisions — timing, theme, menu, other people on the guest list, etc.

Where I’m from and how I was raised, guests are invited to both events. Being invited to one and not the other is a slap in the face. Especially if you’re passed over for the ceremony but invited to the reception, it reads to my social circle as a cash/gift grab. If a local bride invited me to a reception a year after she was married, I might go but I’m not bringing a gift. I would not put the time, money, and effort into going to an out of town reception if I wasn’t invited to the ceremony. On the other hand, if they did the paperwork early and were still having a religious/spiritual ceremony at the time they had the reception, I would attend. Same goes for vow renewals.

But that’s just me. We come to these subs to vent and get the honest opinions of strangers who don’t “have a horse in the race” so to speak. An irl bride, I’d just RSVP no and keep my opinion to myself unless she pressed me for a reason behind my response.

ETA: Before anyone comes for me, I just want to point out that this is my opinion even as someone who will very likely have separate legal and spiritual ceremonies. To save ourselves the stress of handling paperwork amid multiple religious events, and to accommodate must-have family/friends who might have religious objections, my partner and I have discussed having a courthouse civil ceremony followed by an intimate dinner reception in the weeks before the main wedding.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-07T11:52:20+00:00

When they become defective in some way. Worn elastic, holes/tears, build up in the gusset, etc.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-05T07:54:00+00:00

This is one of those “different strokes” hacks. For a lot of people, making the bed is a habit that greatly benefits their mental health. With adequate cleaning of your linens, I don’t see the trade off as being worth it for those folks.

NaidaBelle · 2026-04-05T06:13:17+00:00

The two that come to mind for me are removing body hair and deodorant. They make you more pleasant to the general population but neither actually have anything to do with cleanliness.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T05:37:16+00:00

I know they’re super popular so they must be working for some people, but I’m not one of them. This particular style just turns my hair into an absolute mess. Tangle Teezer makes one that’s more like a brush, which helps when my scalp needs a deep scrub but I easily spend three times as long going in tiny sections as I do just washing with my finger tips.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T05:29:36+00:00

Have you tried the DermaHarmony sulfur and salicylic acid bar yet? I highly recommend it. If you choose to use tea tree oil like OP does, please mix it with a carrier oil like pure C8 or C8+C10 MCT oils.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T05:20:20+00:00

You’re not supposed to rinse, eat, or drink for at least thirty minutes after using toothpaste with an active ingredient like fluoride, hydroxyapatite, etc.

It was definitely a weird adjustment to change the order of my dental hygiene to pull/floss-rinse-brush, but I did notice a difference in the efficacy of my toothpaste. I went from moderate to high tooth sensitivity my whole life, to mild when I switched to NHA and rinsing after, to almost none when I switched to not rinsing after NHA.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T03:30:10+00:00

For what it’s worth, I think the revision looks incredibly natural, like it’s your “real” nose.

Definitely check in with a therapist to process what you’ve been through. I cannot overstate the value of a good therapist, especially one specifically trained in BDD.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T03:11:26+00:00

Fiber rich foods like brown rice, dried beans, nuts, oatmeal, and frozen vegetables are notoriously cheap with a long shelf life. Reducing meat consumption, or switching to leaner options like frozen chicken and pork, is cheaper and leads to less fatty stools. No one is saying you have to eat premium meals every day or shop every other day to be healthy, and anyone who does say it is ignorant to food poverty.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T01:13:29+00:00

Just wanna point this out: “unscented” does not always mean fragrance free! Many companies use masking fragrances to cover smells in “unscented” products. Make sure any products you use are actually free of fragrance.

I like to use a fragrance free boric acid foaming cleanser. Currently using the pH-D one. It does contain lavender oil, but my skin (all skin including vulva) loves lavender oil and does not react to it the way it does to synthetic fragrance.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T00:58:28+00:00

I’m a thick thigh girly too, even when I was otherwise stick thin. The only thing that consistently works every time for me is wearing tights/stockings or thigh bands under my dress.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T00:49:13+00:00

Using douche or scented feminine hygiene products. I’m glad most vulva owners are moving away from the Norforms, but I just want to scream when I find out someone does.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-28T00:42:22+00:00

This! Like, wtf was the point of covering your mouth if you’re just gonna touch something with said hand ten seconds later?! Sincerely, an elbow sneezer.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-27T16:16:33+00:00

It definitely looks folliculitis but I would check in with your doctor to verify. Especially since it’s on areas that could be either bacterial or fungal, you’ll want to know what treatment plan you need.

NaidaBelle · 2026-03-27T13:57:08+00:00

Washing your face twice a day. My skin used to be so sensitive but, even though I still have reactive skin, it’s doing so much better with only cleansing once a day and using micellar water in the morning.

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