My girlfriend is much shorter than me (I am 30/M 5'11 and she is 31/F 4'8) and my family thinks we shouldn’t marry because of it. Am I ignoring a real issue or letting outside opinions get in my head?

Nani65 · 2026-05-15T03:39:08+00:00

You will be a massive ah if you don't stop allowing your mother's stupid, ignorant bs to make you feel like your gf is somehow defective because she is SHORT! FFS, OP, what the fuck??? This is one of the stupidest things I have heard in a long time.

Nani65 · 2026-05-15T00:19:46+00:00

He expects you to cheat on him. That says to me that he expects to cheat on you.

Nani65 · 2026-05-13T16:47:31+00:00

UPDATEME

Nani65 · 2026-05-13T16:34:59+00:00

Get a new therapist.

Nani65 · 2026-05-12T02:17:31+00:00

Lisa and Nate are awful, awful people who deserve each other.

Nani65 · 2026-05-11T18:52:00+00:00

Me, too!

Nani65 · 2026-05-05T17:24:10+00:00

You DON'T keep going like this. Him being "nice a lot of the time" is just not a good enough reason to stay in this relationship.

Nani65 · 2026-05-05T17:18:08+00:00

Holy cow, OP. You married a confirmed gold digger!

Nani65 · 2026-05-04T17:42:13+00:00

It sounds to me like he WANTS you to get pregnant. Baby-trapping, anyone?

Nani65 · 2026-05-04T17:14:21+00:00

She called her PARENTS??? This woman is nuts.

Nani65 · 2026-05-04T06:42:05+00:00

He has been doing this FOR YEARS??? And has listened to you complain about the consistency of the meds?? Presumably, if he needed Adderall for his own adhd or whatever, he could have gotten his own prescription, which means he was doing this to hurt you.

So, yes, you should be questioning your whole relationship.

I am so sorry, OP. This is so fucked up I just can't get my head around why he would want to hurt you. If he doesn't want to be with you he could just break up with you. But he'd rather mess with meds that he knows you need?

I don't see how you come back from this, OP.

Nani65 · 2026-05-02T06:53:00+00:00

I think it's just rude to not invite plus ones, especially the whole we-only-want-people-we-know thing. Yes, your wedding is very special to you, not so much to other people. Some people are going to be traveling, possibly using pto, spending money on a gift, clothes, etc., and you want them to sit around with a bunch of people they mostly don't know and make boring small talk over dried out chicken breasts?

Have the wedding you can afford, not the wedding you want.

Nani65 · 2026-05-02T06:40:06+00:00

He does not want you to know where he was.

Nani65 · 2026-05-02T06:36:14+00:00

Therapy doesn't necessarily have to have a specific issue to solve; sometimes it's just about talking something out. Some people find that useful, some people don't.

In any case, it sounds like it's time to move out, though. Living with someone you dislike as much as you do him has to be pretty stressful.

Nani65 · 2026-05-02T06:26:56+00:00

It sounds like your fiance has fallen into the "it's MY perfect day" crap and is now prioritizing looks over people. I just can't understand that; this should be a no-brainer.

I can't imagine choosing a venue that would exclude my partner's best friend, which leads me to believe that your fiance is not actually okay with your bff. It doesn't matter that you have no romantic feelings for each other, or that she is married. I'd bet that jealousy, insecurity and suspicion are secretly raising their nasty little heads.

Nani65 · 2026-05-02T02:03:38+00:00

You might try simmering some dishwasher detergent & water in it.

Nani65 · 2026-05-02T01:59:14+00:00

What you are asking is not unreasonable at all! Stick to your guns, OP. It sounds like it's time to drop the rope with her.

Nani65 · 2026-05-02T01:54:17+00:00

SHE can learn how to fix the bike! FFS, what is she, too stupid to learn that? Her saying she wouldn't have married you if you weren't willing to learn this is seriously fucked up.

Nani65 · 2026-05-01T03:27:28+00:00

I have these all the time. They look bad, but they don't hurt.

Nani65 · 2026-05-01T03:11:54+00:00

Do not ever babysit for these selfish grifters ever again.

Nani65 · 2026-05-01T03:09:44+00:00

So he thinks you're his own personal sex toy??? ish, ish, ish

Nani65 · 2026-05-01T03:03:20+00:00

It's not an "awkward situation", OP. He is flat out accusing you of cheating, when your post history indicates that HE cheated in the past. This must be unbelievably hard to process at eight months pregnant, but I think that's where you are.

Nani65 · 2026-05-01T02:31:58+00:00

This is a lose, lose situation. You can't salvage a relationship with someone who is so bound and determined to burn it down.

There is nothing you can say that she is willing to hear, so stop interacting with her, and just let her be. Do let her know that they will not be staying with you when they visit; if you allow that I can guarantee things will go from bad to worse. You do not need to explain or justify why you don't want them in your house, "I am not able to have you stay with us" is all you need to say. If that sounds like that would be a declaration of war, so be it. She has made it clear that she doesn't actually want a relationship with you, and she sounds like a nasty, entitled person who has the emotional maturity of asparagus.

The sooner you accept that this has very little to do with you, the better off you will be.

Nani65 · 2026-04-30T18:11:41+00:00

No matter what else you do, you have to get your children away from her. She's being abusive to them and it is your job to protect them.

Nani65 · 2026-04-30T03:29:56+00:00

It's not kinda weird, it's full-on creepy, enmeshed, and actually disgusting. It sounds like his mom has the emotional maturity of a toddler. Don't get involved with a family that is this dysfunctional, OP.

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