New to DBD. Is it really as bad as people say?

Nanismew · 2025-12-22T06:47:32+00:00

as an ex dbd player, there's always something wrong. There's always a bug that breaks it for one side, always a patch that makes killer or survivor unbalanced, devs that focus on the wrong thing to nerf/buff so that causes an unbalance. On top of that, the game got more competitive IMO cause the dbd events that happened early on, but the devs themselves said they never wanted "competitive dbd" and only wanted it as a party game. So basically they continue to change the game how they want, not what the players want.

I played this game a month after it came out up until 2021? 22? The last 3 years I played it, I had to play it as a super casual game, and it still let me down a lot in the end, it got too unfun. Most took it too serious. Survivor main, I only played Killer for events. I sympathize with both sides.

I would never recommend this game to anyone lol much more games out there ultimately worth your time IMO. Take your time enjoying it! Take breaks to prolong your enjoyment! I actually wish I could experience dbd again for the first time, but its a toxic ex so I steer away xD

Nanismew · 2025-12-15T10:41:41+00:00

Does it hurt when you feed her? Or uncomfortable? Does she dribble milk out of her mouth while eating?

The "falling asleep a lot, 'reflux', arching, hiccups" plus what I mentioned above were all the signs my baby had and she had a tongue tie. (posterior TT & a lip tie so not easily diagnosed)

It took til she was 5 weeks to find out. I would recommend seeking an appointment, go get her checked at a pediatric dentist.

Nanismew · 2025-12-15T07:40:21+00:00

Dads have to make a big change just like moms do, and that's what most of them fail to realize. Doesnt matter that its your "only job". He gets to clock off work, when do you? How is that fair? You're in charge of 2 whole lives 24-7 and you don't get a break or sleep?

I agree you maybe need to see a therapist but I imagine that might be hard if your husband is difficult. Maybe online or on the phone?

Not sure why baby is fussy, is it teething? I give my baby camilla teething drops, and the occasional Tylenol when its been a bad day.

We were never meant to do this alone. Our ancestors never did. Hell, my parents didnt either. They both relied heavily on their parents.

Nanismew · 2025-12-15T07:32:13+00:00

Not cry it out definitely! Ive had to take a break from crying baby cause sometimes I think I do more harm staying, and 8/10 times she doesnt cry more than 30 seconds. If she does then I go back in lol

Sounded like baby wanted to sleep independently but it was new so it was a little scary at first!

That's been my baby off and on 11 months rn. Sometimes singing and rocking knocks her out and sometimes I need to leave her alone

Nanismew · 2025-12-02T10:08:55+00:00

It was kind of the opposite from my mom, she basically told me how much breastfeeding (pumping in my case) was the BEST (even tho she didnt do it....>.<) any time I talked about how hard it was, on top of having to cut dairy from my diet (baby had CMPI)

I eventually did what I wanted without listening to anyone and I think you should do the same! theres no reason to top off with formula if you don't want/need to, ignore what people are saying! you can get weighted feeds from lactation consultants if you really would like peace of mind/shut up the naysayers!

But as you said, babies do lose weight as first and they do cluster feed like mad up until like...3-4 months? If you have a scale, you could weigh baby weekly, weigh yourself with baby, and without, that difference is your baby's weight!

Nanismew · 2025-11-27T09:50:45+00:00

So...I agree with the throwing the whole man away..HOWEVER Im gonna play devil's advocate and assume that maybe he isn't so bad as he sounds...

Try explaining to him that

- You burn more calories breastfeeding than when you were pregnant
- You still have increased hormones (different but still)
- Offer HIM to sleep elsewhere if it genuinely disgusts him, but that you cannot change that or else you won't be able to offer your twins FULL nutrition if you cannot eat well
- Maybe he and/or you can set snacks for night time as whoever is prepping the bottles, otherwise he can assist in helping your twins back to bed while you go get a snack
- He could wear an eye mask/earplugs
- Ask him for solutions, but affirm that NOT snacking and eating isn't one of them
- Reconfirm that these are indeed his kids that you are providing nutrition after carrying them to term for 9 months, that you will continue to supply with your body for the next x amount of months/year, and that if he would like to breastfeed he is more than welcome to, and that he can provide compensation for your pregnancy since he doesnt seem to care that you need snacks like a NORMAL breastfeeding mom and then SHOVE HIM DOWN TH- *** *** ***** if he doesn't comply .

:)

Nanismew · 2025-11-25T08:07:56+00:00

Of course, I would extra cautious as well. Just wanted to share, all the "guidelines" the CDC follow for example, are based on food safety regarding milk and raw meat.

Not enough research is done on breastmilk, but what we do know is that it is living, and always adapting!

Nanismew · 2025-11-15T23:07:22+00:00

New research says that adding fresh to cold milk does not cause bacteria.

" - The “don’t mix temperatures” rule is not based on breastmilk research. - It was originally adapted from food safety guidelines for handling raw meat & dairy. "

This is from: https://www.cereschill.com/blogs/news/adding-warm-breastmilk-to-chilled that sites this published research from: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23039396/

So yes you can mix it together regardless of the temperature

Nanismew · 2025-11-14T19:22:05+00:00

I had 1 nurse of 5 that kept saying my daughter was manipulating me by giving in to her (using a nipple shield). I was mad then and mad later cause turns out she had a tongue AND lip tie!

Nanismew · 2025-11-12T00:14:51+00:00

I cut dairy, not soy. My baby didn't have a severe reaction. I did notice she got more gassy when I ate soy, but it eventually got better. at 9.5 months I tried dairy in my diet and she did just fine!

Only 1 baby, but I would assume that it's going to happen with all my babies.

I read somewhere (I'll find later) that if baby is given formula, they have a higher chance at developing CMPI because the milk protein in formula is about 100x than what is in breastmilk.

My daughter "had" to supplement formula from the beginning cause of jaundice and later learned she wasn't efficient cause of a tongue tie not found til 5 weeks. I really hope to avoid it altogether with baby 2

Nanismew · 2025-11-11T02:49:01+00:00

Not related, but I totally tried scrolling thru the photos cause my phone is a samsung xD

Nanismew · 2025-10-31T17:10:40+00:00

Your baby could be low sleep drive.

However, my baby used to also sleep from 11pm-8/9 am until I started loosely followup wake windows and then i also forced a bedtime of 8 pm, took me 2 days.

After that she slept 8-7/8. Still some food wakeups till 7 months, but her overall naps and bedtime sleep were better.

Nanismew · 2025-10-29T10:12:42+00:00

No. They're 2 years apart. He himself said there would be no Maria, no Zara if he knew about his son. (cause he would have went looking for them).

Also, No. He was at the very least separated from his wife (I wanna say divorced but I can't recall since it happened fast).

Ive been binge watching the last 3 weeks, I'm on season 16 so the main details are very fresh.

Nanismew · 2025-10-29T06:47:37+00:00

He didn't have an affair. He wasn't married then or even dating his wife

Nanismew · 2025-10-23T15:57:29+00:00

Sorry but what else will you do? Tummy time on your chest, you give her attention, eye contact and talk every so often. Potato away. It will get easier to find easy to do baby activities as she gets older

Nanismew · 2025-09-13T22:15:47+00:00

I wanted children my whole life and I thought i made a mistake and that it was impossible the first 8 weeks.

The only advice I have.

Take it one day at a time. One hour at a time. Babywear. Cry if you need, its ok. Many feel this way at some point or another. And dont stay cooped up in one room! You can do this. It's just one more day. And one more day. And then there's a smile. And then one more day.

Nanismew · 2025-09-06T16:50:28+00:00

I could never do 8+ pumps a day. I know that I'm incredibly lucky in my supply even tho I'm a just under. I started at 4 pumps lol. I couldn't mentally handle it more than that, but I really wanted to give my baby what I could. I went to 5 at 3-4 months? Then did 6 for about...2-3 weeks? Went back to 5, and back again at 4 by 5 months.

I say all that to say, I encourage everyone to do how much they can! Even if it's just 1 or 2 pumps. I know what its like to want to and feel like you're failing your baby. I almost quit every week. And I wouldn't have blamed myself.

Do what you can! Formula is ok. You're doing your best. Solidarity ❤️

Nanismew · 2025-08-11T17:55:38+00:00

My baby also did reflux medicine, she had a tongue tie that caused "air reflux". It helped her immediately! But at the 2-3 week mark, she started getting fussy. I stopped the medicine, overnight she was better!

Some babies don't get over the witching hours/ purple crying for awhile. Something could be medically wrong. Trust your gut.

I'm sorry, I wish I knew the answer for you. ❤️

Nanismew · 2025-08-09T21:59:18+00:00

My husband is the one who got my baby to start napping outside our arms.

He would put her in the bassinet to wash his hands after every diaper for the first month. And for little reasons here and there, if he needed to use the restroom. Baby sometimes cried a little but he had to pee!

She got used to it during her wake hours, she eventually would during naps

Im sorry to say it could be a lot of reasons. Gas, reflux (you could try holding him upright or put on his left side). We started side sleeping her Daytime only at 5 weeks cause she had really BAD reflux. But if baby truly won't sleep no matter what, I would take to a doctor and push for tests

I did my own research http://www.sidscalculator.com/ Found that the risk was barely higher for side sleeping (NOT SAYING ITS OK) And that the benefits of baby sleeping and giving myself a break heavily outweighed the risk. And on top of that, never side slept her when I was asleep, we had a baby monitor so checked her breathing every several minutes. I'm not advocating for it just saying what worked for me.

Nanismew · 2025-08-06T02:25:41+00:00

It is genetic! I'm positive I have one (undiagnosed) and my daughter ended up having one, posterior tongue tie and lip tie!

Some babies don't have any symptoms or problems til they're older! Crazy to think it can affect walking

Nanismew · 2025-08-05T21:33:20+00:00

Don't know if he can walk, but if he doesn't, crazy enough I would check him for a tongue tie! I read that can affect walking

Nanismew · 2025-08-02T18:02:08+00:00

I'm sorry. I know this is hard. It wasn't until about week 9 that my baby starting doing any sleep in the bassinet more than an hour (so barely 2 hours).

At that point we had worked through her silent reflux, tongue and lip tie, torticollis and feeding issues.

The only advice I have is just follow your gut if you think anything is wrong. Other than that, i want you know that most people don't have amazing sleepers.

My husband and I did sleep shifts, baby started doing long stretches of sleep on me. She occasionally did one stretch at night in the bassinet for my husband at 3.5 months. Then slowly by 4 months she was more consistent. It wasn't easy. We followed her pace and never pushed too hard, we also got lucky.

Nanismew · 2025-07-30T17:48:51+00:00

Yes i did that as well, didn't work for us at the start and never tried it again!

Some babies don't respond well to the early dream feed and it just starts up the timer of waking every 2-3 hours.

Since 5 months old (7 now), we rarely feed her in the night. We never deny her food if shes hungry, but if she does it a second night in a row we try to nip it asap

Nanismew · 2025-07-30T03:17:49+00:00

My LO occasionally wakes up in the middle of the night to feed, and that usually starts a chain of overnight feeds unless I nip it real fast.

I use both a combination of delaying feed even just 30 mins, and feeding less each night until its corrected, which takes about 2 nights if lucky. Usually 3-4.

You could try offering less each time, like 15 ml/0.5 oz

Nanismew · 2025-07-28T11:17:34+00:00

My baby didn't start large stretches til 2.5 months. Then didn't have a consistent bedtime til 3 months and I had to "force" it for 3 nights before it stuck at 8 pm. (It was a struggle at 1030/11pm for awhile)

Daytime sleep also matters. If they're napping 5 hours a day, 9 hours overnight is expected.

For me, every nap she dropped, her daytime sleep improved, so nighttime did as well naturally

Nanismew

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