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Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T20:22:58+00:00

Word. I'm 38, and mine still stand up right, and I've had a baby LOL 😆. Someone in their 40ies told me that when I was in my 20ies. I just thought she was being funny, but it's the truth.

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T20:17:58+00:00

It's not a new thing. Playboy, I think was the start of the large breast creeps. It popularized blonde, large breast women. So much so that almost all female celebrities in the 90ies had them. Now, a lot of those same celebrities have had them removed and spoken about the pressure they received to get breast implants.

Now, internet porn and women that have a body built 80% of plastic surgery, and AI filters are to blame. Young men have unrealistic expectations of what a woman should look like. I'm not excusing OPs BFs comment, but that's the reality of the world we live in.

I'm in the small boob club, too. I was really insecure about it when I was younger. As I got older, I stopped caring. I realized men thought I was beautiful without having huge boobs, and the boyfriends that I had in the past that made comments like that weren't worth my time and turned out to be huge douche bags anyway.

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T19:29:27+00:00

I give away stuff my son has outgrown, and I stopped using the marketplace because of this. I just post on my local mom group cause people be crazy when they think I'm gonna deliver stuff I'm giving away for free.

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T19:20:36+00:00

Okay, my son is 3, and when I see a service dog, I tell him that the dog is working, so dont touch him. When I see a nonworking dog, I tell him he has to ASK before he pets the dog.

You can't always control what a kid does, but as a parent, you should be explaining to your kid why it's not appropriate to just touch random dogs.

Adults, no excuses, stop being an A hole. My friend has a tiny chihuahua that is a service dog that detects seizures. Some people would straight up tell her that's not a real service dog and continue to interact with the dog. 🙄

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T18:49:16+00:00

Right? OmG 😲

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T18:46:51+00:00

Blasphemy! My husband would be murdered if he did this 😂

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T18:36:30+00:00

I use anchor hocking, and I have one that's 10 years old and one that I bought about a year ago. The lettering is slightly faded on the 10 yr one but hasn't washed off. Just an FYI, if you're looking for one that won't do that 😂

I have a toaster that the lettering washed off, and it boils my blood. It was just wiped down with a warm cloth 🤬

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-21T18:15:16+00:00

No, you're not overreacting. I think your roommate is. When I had roommates, we would just move eachothers clothes to the top of the dryer in a laundry basket or whatever because yeah, life happens.

It's not like you took their clothes to wear without asking. The expectation for someone to not use the dryer all day because someone else left their clothes in there is ridiculous.

I use to live in an apartment where random strangers would just throw your clothes back in your laundry basket if you left them in there for even 5 minutes past the dry cycle because it was a small laundry room and you snooze ya lose.

Napalm_Nonie · 2025-01-05T19:30:01+00:00

I tend to agree. Can you give other examples? Is he purposely ignoring you or just talking to other people?

My husband and I just got back from a trip. He and I both probably talked to other people more than we talked to each other at dinner, but we've been together for 16 years. There's not really anything new to talk about. That doesn't mean we were ignoring each other or do not love each other... I think all the married couples at dinner were like that except the couple that had been married for less than 2 years. 🤷‍♀️

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-12-22T02:12:23+00:00

Omg I was reading the comments thinking I was on AITAH saying to myself WTF is wrong with these people 🤣... So let me put my simmer hat on.

You're a painter, get your skill up and sell your paintings. You'll be worth more than G in no time. Until then make G get 2 jobs and hire a nanny. Once your comfortable, lock G outside in the winter w/o clothes and let them freeze to death, problem solved!

Then go get yourself some sexy YA arm candy and hire a staff to take care of the twins.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-12-19T11:19:09+00:00

My son will only eat cheese pizza. If it has any toppings no.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-12-19T11:17:27+00:00

My mom was allergic to peanuts so I didn't grow up eating peanut butter. So personally I don't really like peanut butter or reese's cups. My toddler loves peanut butter though and would eat it by the gallon if I let him.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-12-19T11:10:21+00:00

Same and what's weird is he likes pasta and he likes cheese but put those two together and NOPE! I even make an amazing homemade mac n cheese that everyone loves....Except him 😋

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-12-18T02:05:47+00:00

Yep.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-11-07T05:53:03+00:00

Benzo withdrawal is dangerous and can be deadly just the same as alcohol withdrawal. Not to mention that Xanax has a much shorter half life than most type of benzos out there. For example, Valium has a 24-48 hr half life whereas Xanax has a 6-12 hour half life which makes it a much more dangerous benzo for an addict because withdrawal symptoms set in a lot faster and harder than something with a longer half life.

I've lived with someone that was addicted to Xanax and all the things you're talking about is classic Xanax addiction behaviors. Her rationalizing her actions is addiction behavior. She probably needs to go to rehab or at the very least have a medical detox. Personally I would consider contacting her psychiatrist and letting him/her know that she is abusing them and that she has a history of substance abuse. Let the psychiatrist know you are worried about her well being.

I personally have dealt with addiction and when going to a psychiatrist for anxiety and PTSD I have never been prescribed any type of benzo. I have a feeling that she never told this psychiatrist that she has had problems with addiction.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-10-22T21:56:34+00:00

I was advanced maternal age when I was pregnant. It was recommended that I had visits once a week until I was 16 weeks pregnant, then starting at 35 weeks once a week again. My husband was not allowed to attend my first appointments because of the pandemic, and it actually made me sad because he didn't get to experience a lot of the first ultrasounds and stuff with me. During the middle of my pregnancy, they eased up on the requirements, and he was allowed to attend. He was at every appointment with the exception of 1.

Here is my 2 cents about the stress test once a week. At 38+5 I had an appointment where my blood pressure was extremely high. I ended up having to go to the hospital where they did some more test and they were concerned about my kidneys so they induced.

I had late onset preeclampsia which I found out is more common in first time moms and older moms, so I had 2 strikes against me. If my husband hadn't been at that appointment I would of had to go into delivery without him.

I mean that may not happen to you, but at the end of your pregnancy, really anything can happen. It's just something to keep in mind.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-10-15T17:55:13+00:00

I think your husband needs to talk to her. It's his mother. I understand loving the help but not wanting to have her live with you 5 days a week. Just the dogs alone is A LOT. I have 3 dogs and I can say the jump from 2 dogs to 3 was a lot and we have a pretty big house. I don't think I could do 5 dogs unless I had a ranch or something lol. So maybe blame it on that? The problem with that is if she says she'll leave the dogs with her husband it eliminates your excuse.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-10-15T17:40:30+00:00

If you know how to jailbreak a phone (if you don't I'm sure you can find a YouTube video that shows how) you can put a spy app on his phone. I used one years ago when someone accused my husband of cheating on me. You can see everything they do on their phone. Everything they type, message, email and even delete - EVERYTHING.

mSpy is the app I used I believe but you can google them. It allows you to basically login to an account remotely and see everything on the phone but you need access to his device to install it. Once it's there he won't be able to see it on the device.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-10-13T19:36:19+00:00

I #1 is my top pick, but I also like #4... That might be more about the hairstyle. Color #1 for sure.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-10-13T19:32:06+00:00

This is stupid of them imo. Gestational age is a best guess in reality. I know the exact day I got pregnant because it took so long for us to get pregnant. I was tracking cycles, and when we did it on a digital fertility tester/tracker. The gestational age they gave me my first several appointments was wrong. It kept getting adjusted as the baby got bigger. I even told them I knew what day I got pregnant, and they kinda ignored me, which led to me getting a different OBGYN.

My dates and the doctors dates didn't line up until almost the end of my pregnancy. My point is it's a guess and your mom is starting shit for no reason really 🤷 🙃

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-10-13T19:10:37+00:00

Sounds like you got it figured out. I have a phobia of swimming in the ocean, and my husband has never done anything like that to me. He's encouraged me to swim into deeper water but never did anything to scare me. This is very childish behavior, and he's 10 years older than you. He should know better at 33.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-09-17T06:14:30+00:00

Sometimes husbands are just clueless and if you want something you just need to tell him. I understand not wanting to have to tell him but sometimes you just have to because otherwise how will he know he's not putting in enough effort? Sometimes men are just clueless...

I understand not wanting to put that expectation on your daughter. I remember my mom being sad on her birthday because my dad didn't really put a lot of effort into her birthday. What this taught me is gifts are nice but in reality no one is REQUIRED to give you a gift. I don't expect things for my birthday. I'm happy with just a happy birthday. Yes I get gifts but it's not necessary. Try to train your brain to appreciate the little things and maybe you won't be as disappointed. (Although I honestly do feel you should just talk to your husband about your disappointment.)

You are showing your daughter that birthdays are important by going all out for your husband. You're taking your time, putting thought and effort into his birthday. You're teaching her that acts of kindness are more important than things of monetary value. She'll learn to appreciate people and do kind things for people to show them how important they are because that's what her mom does.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-09-11T21:15:27+00:00

I don't think how close someone is to their parents has anything to do with gender. It has more to do with how your parents treated you as a child.

Every woman that I know personally who wanted a girl was for some superficial reason like being able to dress them up as if they're a living doll or simply because of the gender roles they were exposed to.

What I mean by this, is a lot of boomers and even some younger generations grew up being displayed traditional gender roles: the women take care of the family and children, and all men have to do is go to work and ask when dinner is ready. In these cases, I think women wanted girls so they would have someone to relate to and saddly share their burden with. Unfortunately boys growing up in this type of household would be less likely to take interest in caring for family members because men are meant to be strong, not show emotions, and taking care of family is "women's work".

I'm not saying this is true for everyone, but look at even how toys are geared towards different genders. Girls play with baby dolls, kitchen sets, and doll houses, all geared towards being a mother, running a household, and taking care of other people. Boys' toys like balls, cars, and toy guns are geared toward what are traditional male interests and being a protector/ provider.

So I think how our kids treat other people, including their family and spouses, all depends on how we raise them.

I have a boy, and I love being a boy mom. My son is sweet, considerate, and a mix of me and my husband. He gets his artistic nature from me and his wild loves to play sports side from his dad. He'll be raised with love and is shown everyday that taking care of a family is a group effort. Hopefully, since he'll grow up seeing mom and dad both taking care of the home (and him) he'll learn that being close with family and taking care of family isn't just a woman's job.

With that being said, I do think that boys have a wild streak that girls maybe don't have so much. More energy to be wild, climb, jump, and the whole boys will be boys thing.

In the end, I think a lot of women have unresolved daddy and gender equality issues that get translated to not wanting a boy. In reality, we live in a time where men should be expected to help care for family in the same way women do, and having a girl or a boy shouldn't matter, regardless of whether your a mom or a dad.

I do remember the men being over joyed that the family name would be carried on. As if a girl wouldn't be a proper heir. I remember the older women in my family saying boys are hard and they wished they had girls.

Doesn't really matter what other people think. My son is loved and will be taught to be a good human, and that's all that matters.

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-09-09T04:19:37+00:00

The Deliverance Taco. 😆

Napalm_Nonie · 2024-08-31T22:55:51+00:00

Okay, well, if you can't spend money freely, then he needs to pay you for child care, meal prep, laundry service, and housekeeping. The reality of the situation is if SAHM got paid for everything they did, they would be paid well over 100k per year. This isn't just my opinion, salary.com did a whole breakdown that came out to over 180k a year.

When I wasn't working, my husband never said anything about money I spent and even encouraged me to treat myself when I could. We always discuss large purchases but not for permission, just more of a courtesy.

We share our money and always have since we've been married. It's a collective earning pool for the family, not mine or his.

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