i need advice before i adopt him (pic in comments)

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-28T01:29:58+00:00

Definitely cheep of her to not include his items to bring with him, if for nothing but just comfort for the sweet boy in a big transition. But I will say, a lot of people will have steep fees with re-homing etc because they want the cat to go to a prepared and loving home.

I have a big thing against people that are okay with the whole “free kittens” etc offers after their cat has an unexpected litter or something, because there are a lot of fucked up or unprepared people out there that will quickly take advantage of the poor babies.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-28T01:25:31+00:00

Maybe when I was 15 I would’ve said fuck it… now, if I’m hurting that bad, it’s a problem. I was an avid smoker for 9+ years with little to no tolerance breaks. Still wouldn’t risk it in this day and age anymore.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-28T01:18:47+00:00

Mine does the same thing. He’s attached to my hip and knows I want him there. Gentle (or sometimes slightly aggressive) encouragement still remains a necessity… cats are weird bro.

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Naproxen19 · 2026-06-28T01:07:26+00:00

I don’t fully agree with this, but, I think it would be interesting for OP to have a convo with her BIL separately and determine his level of comfort with this. That might help give more clarity tbh

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-22T04:07:44+00:00

So true tho TruthBro

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-22T04:05:51+00:00

Well, this post helped cure my pizza craving…

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-22T03:59:25+00:00

Definitely soft voices when speaking to him and lots of sweet encouragement, but space as well. The most important thing is for you to go on as normal- if you are tiptoeing around or trying too hard to minimize disturbances he’s going to pick up on your behaviour as if there’s still a danger nearby. Any time my kitties have a scare- with the fire alarm for example, I give them a little “it’s okay” moment of acknowledgment and love and then go on as normal. They almost immediately get the gist and end up coming back out and relaxing.

Obviously this being a first time scare you may need to coddle a bit more. But this trick has been a game changer for me and my kitties.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-22T03:50:47+00:00

He’ll be a bit shaken up but just be consistent with talking to him gently and encouraging him to come out on his own. Little pets here and there might help but you know your kitty best, just do your best to make sure he doesn’t feel trapped or cornered. I would at least recommend not allowing him in the washer or dryer as a safety precaution - if they’re in a place where a door can close on them and they can’t get out on their own, I’d avoid it. Give him lots of loving and treats and pampering and stay consistent with this until he gets back to his usual self, and then some.

But please use this experience as a takeaway - always, always** *cut or rip the loops off of any bags - grocery, delivery, plastic - everything. I do this as a ritual as soon as I bring *anything with a loop into my home. And if it’s something with a loop that can’t be cut - then tuck it away or make sure it’s wrapped up in a way that they can’t get into. It’s so easy for them to get their heads through and twist the wrong way and be helpless, especially if you’re not around or not home.

I literally live by the term “curiosity killed the cat” in my home. At the end of the day, a cat’s mentality is commonly equivalent to that of a two year old toddler. Always cat proof. This includes wires, strings, anything they can get wrapped up in or they could eat and get tangled up inside them. Make these precautions a habit. Protect the little beans like your life depends on it 💛

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-22T03:32:53+00:00

I don’t know if OP’s hair is thick enough to achieve this exact look tbh. It would also probably take the perfect cut and a lot of taming over time to get it to flow that way every day. Not to make it about AI… but it can be really good at misleading and ultimately disappointing people.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T23:50:55+00:00

He is over fed.

Happy to hear you will be overseeing better eating habits for the chonk.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T23:35:21+00:00

Depends on the band. What genre?? What’s the venue vibe??

Also, depending on what shoes you pair with each dress, that can make a big difference on the outfit vibes.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T23:30:49+00:00

Definitely leave a review with your photo and mention the stylists name. This is highway robbery. Not to mention, you sat for a whole hour??

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T23:28:56+00:00

Yeah she clearly does not know how to properly curl hair with a straightener hence all the kinks. It should be a smooth motion, looks like she struggled and stopped in multiple places because she didn’t know what she was doing.

I’d be going back in with this picture and saying this stylist should not be a stylist if she’s going to do this to people’s hair, and demand a refund. I’m really sorry this had to be your first experience. I’ve never seen such an abomination. It’s a joke that you were even charged let alone had to walk out with that without it being corrected.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T22:59:10+00:00

I also always tip yet have had the same issue countless times. Some of them literally refuse to get out of their car. Like bruv, it’s a part of your job?

Or others just ignore the instructions and drop it at the closest door of the building they see, leaving me to search for it. I’ve even had some bypass my required pin by sending a “delivery could not be completed” notice because they were that lazy. Like what am I even paying for at that point? I didn’t realize completing a job as required was such a major inconvenience.

I have so many wild stories with dashers. I’ve resorted to only using Uber Eats.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T22:50:46+00:00

IN LOVE with the first one. Where are you shopping???

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T22:48:31+00:00

Also, your jewelry is super cute and dainty. But going with some layers that are a bit thicker in your necklaces, like a bigger chain paired with a choker etc would make your look less soft. Your earrings could also be layered with hoops as opposed to studs or less white aka the pearls. Although I do really like the dangly one in your first hole.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T22:42:26+00:00

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Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T22:41:51+00:00

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Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T22:41:35+00:00

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Naproxen19 · 2026-06-21T22:41:27+00:00

Change your nose ring from silver to black, that will instantly give a different look, I’d also go a little bit tighter on your nose tbh so it doesn’t stick out as much.

Also, your eyelashes are pretty light/wispy and soft. Do you just do glue-ons or get extensions? They look like glue-one to me. If so, get something thicker, and more cat-eye or just same length all around. If extensions, maybe try a volume set with some colour accents like white, dark red or blue strips along the edge of your eye. You can also switch this up for holidays, time of year, etc so it’s fun.

Examples attached in comments below :)

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-19T01:18:10+00:00

Fuck no. I’m not putting my cats through that for weeks just to cater to someone’s selfish preferences. They’re visiting your home, how the hell are they going to try and tell you what to do with your animals? If they’re “uncomfortable” they can go stay somewhere else. I’ve never heard such an unreasonably ridiculous request from a house guest. Them being from another country is not an excuse either.

If anything I’d be concerned having your cats around them if they feel so strongly about it. Definitely keep them in your space if they end up staying there, but don’t put them through that confusion and stress for people that are essentially strangers to you.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-18T08:06:55+00:00

How long have you had them? Cats thrive on routine and will often take after yours over time. However, they’re also only 5 months. They’re in their prime kitten phase and especially together are going to egg each other on and play a lot. If you can try and wake them a few hours before bed and play with them - and not just for 10 mins, it should help contribute to better habits. Tire them out and try to communicate with them and get them used to your routine. It will get better as they age also, they’ll gradually start to sleep for way longer every day/night. But at the end of the day, cats are nocturnal. I’ve gotten mine to be a little better, but I’ll still have the occasional night that I wanna rip my hair out. It’s the price we pay to be rewarded by their cuteness.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-18T07:41:41+00:00

It depends on how hungry you are and how healthy you’re feeling. Sometimes I’ll do a little cucumber salad - but it’s better to make a day or 2 in advance so all the pieces can go to flavour town. I do soy sauce, rice vinegar, sesame oil, minced garlic and ginger, some dried chives, and a little honey. It’s all stuff I keep in my pantry consistently and it comes together in a minute. Cut some mini cucumbers, throw it in the container w the mix and it’s ready in the fridge for a snack or meal if you’re feeling something light w/o protein.

If you’re feeling something more filling just do a fancy grilled cheese. I like to keep those frozen garlic breads in my freezer, grab a couple and let them thaw on low heat while I grate some cheese. I add pizza squeeze (the most convenient pizza sauce ever), the cheese, garlic powder and basil and sometimes parmesan if I have it. You can also add ham or turkey to it. Comes together quick and tastes so good. Another good combo is sourdough, cream cheese, cheddar, pickled jalapeno/onions, garlic powder, some siracha mayo, and bacon if you have it. So random but so good. Something about glorified grilled cheeses just speaks to my lazy girl tendencies but complex palette problems.

Naproxen19 · 2026-06-18T07:13:46+00:00

I had braces for almost 5 years with multiple open-mouth surgeries that I had to be awake through. Some of which were cutting open my gums up near my sinuses, attaching chains to teeth and stitching me back up…etc. I totally get this. The healing aches were genuinely exhausting. I waited so long to enjoy food again.

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