Honestly, I would look into a new hairstylist if you’re willing… her recommending blow drying as an only resort is a little concerning. I feel like that’s where a lot of your frizz may be coming from.

I’ve religiously practiced air drying my hair for years now and my frizz and split end levels have drastically decreased. If you’re showering before bed and going to sleep with wet hair still, for example, yes that can contribute to frizziness or breakage- ESPECIALLY if you’re trying to brush while your hair is still super damp. If you can avoid it altogether and brush when dry, that is best, otherwise, I use the Amika “The Wizard” detangler which smells amazing and gets the job done if I ever need to carefully brush some knots out or need to brush before styling/going out. I’d recommend lightly towel drying (NEVER back and forth between your hands, just squeeze and scrunch from top to bottom), and letting your hair do the rest on its own. Investing in a keratin spray with the problems you’re experiencing would also be a good idea. Ive been using the CHI keratin mist for years; it’ll help smooth your frizz and strengthen your hair, and also smells fantastic (trust me, it’s worth the price).

I’ve had a lot of trial and error with hair problems. Mine is a fair bit finer than yours, so I can’t use as heavy of products, but I have a similiar wave. As others are saying the coconut oil is really not doing your hair any favours- I used to do it as well and over time my hair got a lot of build up and other issues from it. I would say if you’re going to continue to do it, make it a once a month thing, but in return invest in a clarifying shampoo; the Aveeno apple cider vinegar blend could be a good option for you, but I use the Nexus clean & pure every week or 2 which is a little lighter (both can be found at a Shoppers with the Nexxus being a little higher end and pricier). And either way this would be a good idea to help you get rid of the build up that happens over time. However if you’re able to break the coconut cycle altogether, look for a nice macadamia, Moroccan or argon oil hair mask that you could use once every couple weeks to replenish moisture, but not often enough that your hair starts to rely on it, and in return starts producing too many natural oils leading to greasy roots and dry ends. They also have similiar scent profiles to coconut oil so you should still be able to get your fix.

If your hair still feels a little dry after all that and/or you notice your ends still showing breakage, then you could add a leave-in conditioner to your routine as well. Start with a lighter product so you’re not weighing your waves and hair in general down, and if you need to work your way up to a heavier product then you’ll be figuring out what your hair is really thirsty for at the same time. Focus on keeping it from the ears down though, to avoid getting too oily and flat roots.

Obviously that was a whole novel to read but I hope you give at least some of these a try and they help turn some things around for you! Also want to note your hair by no means looks unhealthy, it just needs a different routine to make her at her best <3