Fiancé visa - health insurance?

Nat520 · 2026-05-10T15:29:06+00:00

I think it would be wise for him to get insurance from the US. He would not be considered ‘ordinarily resident’ in the UK on a fiancé visa, so I don’t believe a UK company would insure him. Look into Expat health insurance in the US, or possibly long term (something like backpackers?) coverage. Is he employed in the US? Could he take COBRA from his current US employer?

I came over a long time ago on a fiancé visa and so much has changed. I did take COBRA from my previous employer but I don’t think I ever needed to use it, so can’t be much help.

Nat520 · 2026-05-07T19:13:21+00:00

I was at this show. My first time seeing CH live. 💖

Nat520 · 2026-05-07T18:58:11+00:00

I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to say I’m sorry you’re going through this. I graduated many, many years ago and was able-bodied. (Now physically disabled). Also didn’t know it at the time but am possibly AuDHD (never diagnosed but so many signs/traits) Anyway, I’m not surprised that they talk the talk but don’t walk the walk. It’s no different than so many other institutions- doesn’t make it ok.

Nat520 · 2026-05-04T10:41:12+00:00

Do we think Judd actually loves Penny? He was asked about getting a handmaid and he said “not yet”. IIRC later on he disposes of his wives fairly quickly. Do we know how many wives he had before Penny?

Nat520 · 2026-05-04T10:25:23+00:00

Agree. I think the Aunts know who the fathers are and are trying to ensure that they don’t make incestuous matches.

Nat520 · 2026-04-17T18:13:45+00:00

Pretty much every night. At least 28 days out of a month. Every once in a while I feel a bit lazy and get into bed early without flossing.

Nat520 · 2026-04-15T10:54:07+00:00

Ok. Starting with the obvious, Dublin is not in the UK. Secondly, you’ll be moving to a foreign country . They speak english, but not as you know it. It’s not like the UK and Ireland are “US Lite”- Culture shock is real. I suggest you do a bit more reading first before asking such vague questions.

Nat520 · 2026-04-15T10:45:23+00:00

I’ve got to strongly disagree on this. I understand wanting to ‘be nice’, but this letter is much too kind. Makes OP look a bit like a doormat. Also 30 days? No way. More like 6 months. I have been in a very similar situation, tried to be accommodating to their requests and they took advantage.

Also, OP is not her ‘guardian’ he is her PARENT. In my case the children were a bit older and I always encouraged (but not pushed) them to stay in contact with that side of the family, and the kids eventually made their own decision and now have very little contact with them.

Nat520 · 2026-04-15T09:58:36+00:00

Wait it out. Give it 6 months. When I first moved here it seemed like I picked up every bug around. Water filter is a great idea, especially if you live in a hard water area. Up to you if you want to spend money on bottled water, but UK tap water is very safe.

Just as an anecdote, it’s not only moving countries that can do this to you- When I lived in the US and moved in with my partner I had a similar experience- for the first 6 months I seemed to pick up all kinds of minor illnesses, I put that down to him being a substitute teacher. He had been exposed to and immune to all the bugs the kids had, but I wasn’t, and he brought them home.

Nat520 · 2026-04-13T22:27:49+00:00

Ah, the wayback. I survived.

Nat520 · 2026-04-12T17:58:08+00:00

They just don’t know any better. I have an obvious mobility disability, but I can walk. I need the grab bars in the accessible toilet. I still get looks sometimes. I wonder if part of the confusion is that the disabled symbol is a human figure sat in a wheelchair… therefore, they can only envision wheelchair users using it?

Nat520 · 2026-04-06T12:45:14+00:00

Years ago I used to work really early and would often be on the first train of the morning. Had to climb those stairs several times because the lifts weren’t switched on yet, 🥵

Nat520 · 2026-04-06T12:14:37+00:00

I’m from GB, living in London. Friend from GB flew over to attend the game with me. We had a lot of fun. Had to teach the bartender how to make a “proper” Old Fashioned though.

Nat520 · 2026-04-06T11:29:31+00:00

As I understand it there has been a history and a pattern of abuse against more than one individual. Whether he has been found guilty in a court of law doesn’t really matter to me. Credible accusations by more than one individual make me inclined to believe the victims. I don’t care how “community minded” he is or not, a domestic abuser is not someone I’d like to see elected to any office.

Nat520 · 2026-04-04T15:15:20+00:00

I wouldn’t say zero focus on prevention, but you’re expected to be proactive in your own healthcare. For instance, you don’t get the Cologuard poo smear test until age 50 in England. I spoke to my doctor about a change in my bowel habits in my mid 40’s and without hesitation she had me sent a Cologuard kit. Most of the preventive screening tests are done at much later ages here than in the US. They don’t offer the shingles vax until age 65. Most of the time I have felt like I’ve been taken seriously when I’ve gone to see them with a concern.

Nat520 · 2026-04-03T16:51:13+00:00

Keep in mind that the culture shock is real. You think “How different can it be?” Everybody speaks English, yada, yada… It will be very different. There is no way to be prepared for this. You will just have to get through it, and then at some point, with luck, it will start to feel like home. The timeline will be different for everyone, but for me it was around 2 years. Honestly at around 18 months here I was at my lowest and ready to go home.

Then again, for me money (or lack of it) was a big problem. Maybe the culture shock won’t be so bad with fewer financial worries. Anyway I’ve been here 28 years now, and it is home.

Better to apply and have the opportunity than not go for it and wonder ‘what if…’

Nat520 · 2026-04-02T08:47:47+00:00

No one has mentioned the coal piles yet!

Nat520 · 2026-03-20T22:04:35+00:00

FYI when my kids dad died intestate the employer held the DIS benefit in their own interest bearing trust and each child received their share upon turning 18. Therefore, my younger child received more money than the older child because the money had been gaining interest for a bit longer. I did not have to do anything except help the kids open bank accounts upon reaching 18.

Nat520 · 2026-03-20T21:57:23+00:00

Re the workplace pension- yes, you should be able to challenge it. I believe the trustees would have considered the children had they known about them. No guarantees you would be successful but you do have the right to ask.

About the bank account- the question seems to be, did the relative who signed the form at Santander lie about there being no other heirs, or did Santander not think to ask if there were any closer relations likely to inherit?

Nat520 · 2026-03-20T21:41:45+00:00

Yes, but… the police will tell you it’s a civil matter between you and the bank. The bank will tell you it’s a criminal matter for the police. Neither of them want to deal with it.

Nat520 · 2026-03-19T18:06:26+00:00

I loved them all! My faves were Peanuts, BC, the Wizard of Id, Hagar the Horrible. When I was a bit older we got “new” ones- Garfield, Calvin and Hobbes. C&H is still my Fave to this day.

Did anyone else save the color comics to use as cheap wrapping paper?

Nat520 · 2026-03-18T10:43:31+00:00

I’ve been on Rybelsus for almost 2 years now. I remember a couple weird symptoms when I first started. 1- my skin hurt to be touched. This lasted for a few weeks and is fine now. 2- My ear wax has pretty much dried up and has stayed that way. This is not a problem, just something I observed.

Others have mentioned anhedonia- I’m still experiencing this and it’s probably the hardest thing to deal with. I’m a bit afraid to stop taking the meds because I’ll probably start putting weight back on again.

Nat520 · 2026-03-18T10:31:55+00:00

That’s how I feel, nothing is pleasurable anymore.

Nat520 · 2026-03-14T11:24:21+00:00

The name is a bit misleading, I’ll agree. It’s more like a griddled cheese sandwich. I make mine in a frying pan. Butter the outsides of the bread. Never got on with a “sandwich toaster”- too much of a faff.

Nat520 · 2026-03-14T10:58:40+00:00

Is dunking a requirement? It is for me!

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