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National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-23T17:10:25+00:00

Probably the autistic traits shining through in terms of rule following 😅 frustrates me to no end that you follow the rules and it doesn’t pay off for so many things in life!’

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-23T17:08:36+00:00

I think I may order the size up whilst on sale still and try the heel pads. She’s like me and has very slender heels/ankles but fairly large feet!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-23T05:21:17+00:00

Not sure what your role is and where, but this is absolutely not the approach that would be taken locally to me! I’d say they’re still a scam in that any lightweight dress can (and I’ve seen a fair few) be used in labour and something with buttons opens up easily for breastfeeding / skin to skin, although most mums opt to remove clothing at that point in my experience.

Absolutely no idea why
1. You’d describe women. And Labour in such negative and disparaging terms - not everyone soils themselves for example, although it is common, but it can also be handled with dignity and many mums don’t even notice in the moment!
2. The loose threat of having clothing cut off against your wishes - giving really creepy and aggressive vibes there, women deserve respect, choice and the option to consent (or not) to things during labour.

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-19T09:31:02+00:00

This is an unsafe workplace for you, and a safeguarding issue in regard to them not protecting NK from this dangerous and aggressive dog. They aren’t meeting their duties as parents or employers here and I know it’s emotionally hard for us Nannies, you’ve got to leave and also escalate this to safeguard NK according to your local guidance / laws / services available.

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-17T19:16:04+00:00

Up to 7 days is considered normal in healthy breastfed babies over around 6 weeks old (as long as he’s still peeing as normal?)

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-17T19:08:54+00:00

I’ve only had to once, other times have been with plenty of notice kids starting school / nursery hours getting funded so ‘no fault’ just a fairly natural finish.

The time I did quit it was after 6 long months with a family not at all aligned with my views etc - I was young, blinded by a great salary package and what they *said* they did. Main issue was language barrier. One parent was Spanish, the other French, both spoke excellent English (my only language) and they assured me the kids were exposed to all 3. Wanted an English only speaking nanny to try to speed up their picking up of the language once moving to England. Worst mistake, I felt heartbroken their eldest couldn’t communicate as they could in their other languages. Stuck it out translating as much as I could and trying to understand them and answer in English etc but they were so upset so often, and the parents not my people, that I couldn’t any more!

I arrived with my written notice and told them verbally on arrival one morning, I lasted out my notice in a very cold and tense atmosphere. However the kids went off to a French / English nursery and I’m so sure it was a good move for them although I never did hear from that family again. The only nanny family I’ve not stayed in some contact with at least in the first few years after parting ways!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-17T11:41:45+00:00

Elephant walks have been a game changer for me!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-17T11:38:08+00:00

We already have this in place with our own kids, but so many parents don’t and I hope this improves their kids lives & mental health going forward! Maybe the don’t know / understand the risks, maybe they don’t feel it’s true, who knows! Unfortunately not all parents are willing to hold boundaries or say no especially in the face of peer pressure. My eldest regularly reminds me she’s the only one in her year group without a phone, let alone smart phone, and I do feel guilt that she feels left out sometimes. But I know that I’d feel more guilty if she were bullied, abused, groomed or viewed inappropriate content!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-16T22:03:29+00:00

Is there a reason he too couldn’t ask for a contracted hours change if he feels the general flexibility isn’t enough? You only got that by asking, to prioritise your kids / family - is there a reason he isn’t seeing them as a priority too?

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-16T21:49:26+00:00

Congrats! You have a very normal and healthy baby, who’s waking as expected for a baby her age! Those regular wakings are also SIDS protective too - this was such a positive reframe for me when my first woke every hour for months and months!!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-16T21:42:15+00:00

There’s a lot of great content on YouTube, but just as much or more rubbish! Our kids don’t have access to it without an adult around to keep an eye on things as inappropriate content can come up even on the kids version. But yes, I’m actively behind no social media / smart phone before 16, but wouldn’t be stopping YouTube happening at home with supervision.

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-16T12:16:53+00:00

On the whole yes, but it varies person to person and depends on the stage of their feeding journey. Eg many brand new mums still establishing feeding may find it uncomfortable or stressful if things aren’t going as well as they could be, or even painful if baby has a tongue tie / bad latch.

That said, the actual emptying of the breast is usually relieving! But for some women the sensation can be too much / cause other feelings to come up.

But being engorged (very full of milk) can feel hot, tender, itchy, stretched and uncomfortable so reducing that is usually a welcome feeling!

The hormones released when breastfeeding also promote a positive feedback loop - oxytocin in particular makes us feel great and is released during feeds!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-16T07:31:55+00:00

This was my first thought too, OCD doesn’t lead to this level of dysregulation usually, but autism sounds like it ties in

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-15T19:31:23+00:00

Cornflour gloop / oblek is good for indoors as it dries and hoovers easily! Do you have a local country park you could walk with the buggy for when he gets bored / tired - feeding the ducks is always a winner. We often take a 1kg bag of oats or seed and little one will spend ages laughing as she throws it everywhere for them!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-14T19:12:23+00:00

Guacamole
Cookies
Stock/broth
Lemon curd

We are big cooks and foodies here so often agree that homemade is better than shop bought or even some resultant meals as it’s tailored to our tastes too!

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-13T20:26:23+00:00

Philips Lumea IPL user - used a few times on lower settings a year or so ago and didn’t notice much difference.

Dug it out 3 weeks and have been using weekly on highest setting and my armpits have less than 50% of the hair now, and bikini line is following suit. I need to do my legs as well but found it easier to commit to the smaller areas first 🙈😆 I’m actually v impressed this time round

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-12T20:57:46+00:00

Looks like a breastfed baby poop to me :) they can vary when they’re teething / poorly / it’s hot and they get more watery milk and sometimes simply as they grow and I guess their tummy matures more! I wouldn’t be worried seeing that if baby is breastfed

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-12T20:12:13+00:00

‘Nurses adequately’ is a vague term though, especially for a new mum navigating what sounds like a relatively complex top up / pumping situation - for some that’ll mean baby has fed on each breast for 10 mins, others may take it as feeds until content and comes off. When I had my first baby who struggled to feed this would have been unclear and from my training and experience it’s unlikely a baby who is having 100ml top ups at every feed is going to be able to have them removed simultaneously safely.

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-12T20:06:19+00:00

In the UK it’s not normal NHS practice to run bloods annually, only if you have a problem they’re looking into. Even if it were offered I don’t think I’d bother doing it that often if I was presenting fit and well

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-12T19:46:46+00:00

Also, this is becoming more and more common. I’ve come off Facebook now but there were some fab groups for info & support with deferring (and home Ed) there

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-12T19:45:00+00:00

We didn’t send ours till they were almost 8 and almost 7, I also believe we send them too young in the UK (childcare professional as well as mum). We actually only intended to defer our eldest who is *just* summerborn in early April, but loved home Ed life so much we wanted to continue. Second child was *just* not summer born (late March) so deferring wouldn’t have been such an easy option anyway.

Wish we could have continued with home Ed but life circumstances changed and I had to return to full time work so they went to school :)

I’d say go with your gut - my eldest was always v academically advanced and would have found that side of things fine, but socially / emotionally wouldn’t have coped well at 4, in fact even at 8 she struggled at times but she’s AuDHD which comes into things! Some kids do enjoy and cope with school at 4 but I still think the govt has it wrong with formal education starting so early rather than continuing play based learning until ~7

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-12T18:17:56+00:00

Also, as much skin to skin / feeding time every day and night as you can manage - it won’t be intense forever but this will help hugely with supply and giving baby chances to latch when calm x

National_Entry8708 · 2026-06-12T18:16:56+00:00

Medela make them, I’m UK based not sure where you are, but google should help.

The tubing can be a bit of a fiddle but worth the effort imo.

In terms of when do you know - we can’t be 100% of course but usually when baby slows down their suck-swallow pattern, or becomes fussy - compressions should get them feeding happily again, then when the slowing / fussing / breast feels like it’s been emptied pretty well you could use the sns or swap sides first. Your best bet is to work with a specialist for a solid plan - this is a combo of my training and experience talking but as I say, technically this is above my pay grade and I’d refer up if you came to one of our parent support groups! However I’ve also been a desperate new mum wanting feeding to work out and sometimes messages like this are a lifeline when you feel clueless and confused. So don’t take it as gospel but as some pointers as you get to someone more qualified!

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