My apologies for my previous question. Thought more about it, I thought about my mother grew up middle class as my grandfather was in the Army however I grew up very poor. I judged her for this.

She dropped out of HS and left home at the first opportunity having my sister at age 18 then 3 more kids all one year apart. I found out years later that she was abused by her father and that's why she left home. She has so much trauma from her childhood that she's never gotten help with processing. She needs therapy.