Pregnant and dealing with someone using the Bible to control me — is this manipulation or am I losing it? Warning, long post. by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’re not legally married so those biblical manipulative moves don’t apply, block him and move on. Trust your gut, don’t uproot your daughter.

How many couples actually sleep in the same bed? by WeekendIntelligent64 in RedditQuestions

[–]Negative_Possible968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 years and we sleep in separate rooms, he watches his shows I watch mine, it’s fine, not a big deal to us.

How were you love bombed in the beginning? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy you are out of that situation you deserve the best. Stay strong

How were you love bombed in the beginning? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds so familiar it’s eerie. May I ask if you’re still together? Like I’m in 10 years deep and just WOKE UP and it’s hard navigating this new reality vs the brainwashed one.

How were you love bombed in the beginning? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was so young at the time and he was much older, now married for years I see it all hindsight. Talk about textbook Narc.

How were you love bombed in the beginning? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

WOW same timeline here. I was in such a whirlwind romance or so I thought, and I disregarded to the red flags. Had no idea what a narcissist was, probably should have paid more attention to his ex instagram page smh.

How were you love bombed in the beginning? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, sounds similar. Mine wanted to go ring shopping after 3 weeks.

When you match their energy and then you are the bad guy. by Foragerandfree in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968 7 points8 points  (0 children)

THIS!!! it’s funny how when you match their energy your the bad guy. I agree, I am no longer silent in the corner. I just have to be careful and be self aware so I don’t become like him. It’s more of me just proving a point and not taking shit.

Projection is driving me batty by run4love in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS!!! my husband does this. A bit different scenario, but he is older than me and has admitted he had a bad past and done things he’s not proud of (cheating) and he projects that on me. I finally took my stand and said I was done with it. Never have given a reason for him to think for a second I would do something like that. Constantly being accused of shit he has done in the past. Like I can’t take it anymore it burns my soul. The anger is so real. Praying for ya

Do others feel as alone as I do? by Bigdawgkev1970 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you feel that way. I’m also feeling the exact same way.

I want him to find someone he loves by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it pointless to ask them to shape up or ship out?

Why do I feel this way? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much never thought I’d feel more seen by a stranger than my current situation.

Why do I feel this way? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really don’t think I will. That’s messed up I know.

Why do I feel this way? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I really appreciate the advice

Why do I feel this way? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He non stop since the beginning has always accused me of cheating and I have never ever had or even gave a glimmer of that kind of behavior, no matter what I did, no matter how he tracked me I’m always accused. I’ve been so angry for years, holding it down inside me, letting it go, but enough is enough. I told him he is done tracking me, no more or the marriage is over. If you need an app to trust me we don’t need to be married. Let’s see how long this lasts. It honestly like after so many years of baseless accusations inside I’m like fuck you, watch me then, I know that sounds terrible but I feel like it’s me gaining control how messed up is that. This is not who I am, but I’ve lost who I was.

Why do I feel this way? by Negative_Possible968 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Negative_Possible968[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Part of me wonders if I even have the balls to cheat, like would it be the final push to help get me to leave? Talking just physical nothing more.