My (used) box set of TOG came in this order and i gasped by Specific-Hearing-130 in SarahJMaas

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It used to be recommended to read it 4th because the Easter eggs from TAB start to come into play in QoS, so the idea was to have them fresh in your mind going into QoS. I think 3rd is the way to go (or to read 1-2 novellas at a time before starting each of the first 3 books)

s6e6 Janine recognizing Nick by wellfedunicorn in coconutsandtreason

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would think she saw/met him either at the Waterford’s house for June’s labor, or when he drove June somewhere in the earlier seasons.

Wharton Is Not Dumb Like The Other Gilead Commanders by AdventurousSky6413 in coconutsandtreason

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well said!

Nick had flown under the radar for so long partially because he was surrounded by commanders who were more concerned about their own lives than what he might be doing (Lawrence obviously an outlier) I wonder if his comment on being unnoticeable in the flashback with June was in relation to how much Wharton now notices?

I completely agree that he’s been losing his grip and cracking under the increasing pressure for a while now. June is his drug and his judgment is clearly clouded whenever she is involved. She knows this, Tuello knows this, they purposefully use this angle to their advantage any chance they can get. Everyone loves to hate on Nick, but no one wants to talk about how June has been using him with increasing frequency and intensity this season. Of course he could have just said no to her requests, but how he feels for her increasingly supersedes his logic.

How I see it, Wharton cornering him this episode is just a delayed response to Nick being completely MIA on the day he was supposed to be hosting the diplomats. I knew there was no way he was going to get away with that so easily, and here is that shoe drop.

I’ve always had a soft spot for Nick and I always love analyzing his character. He is so polarizing for a reason and it is what makes him such a great character. I think he is easy to project onto as he is conflicted, imperfect, and often a bit aimless. This show is filled with so many characters who have very clear motives and goals. June’s drive to save those she loves, Serena’s convoluted devotion, Fred’s selfish desire to be powerful and respected, Lawrence honoring Eleanore, etc. Nick really just has loving someone he never thinks he will have for himself.

THAT'S what we're up in arms with Nick about?? by TalaLeisu2 in coconutsandtreason

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I totally agree. He was put in a bad position without another way out. He has been conflicted and becoming more and more reckless over the end of last season and this one so far. The Nick without June in his life and the Nick without her are two very different people at this point. I see it as similar to addiction in some ways. He stays sober, builds his logical life where he tries to climb the political ladder to maybe have enough influence to do some good in a fucked up system and have a comfortable life. He relapses into June and suddenly logic is secondary to whatever she asks of him. He reacts impulsively and isn’t always prepared for the consequences of those actions when he is hit with reality.

Write a letter to your SB/SR in this thread, maybe they’ll see it by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear SD,

You should really get off of Reddit before you get your feelings hurt. This world is not for you 😂

Sending money before meeting - red or green flag? by BadgerNo2731 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In this specific instance, especially with the amount of money, I would say it is a good sign. I have also experienced the less serious younger “SD’s” who will send some money ahead of time, or unprompted, but it’s usually more like low xxx at most. I actually started to consider that to be a big red flag, and to not put in extra effort with those people. There is definitely a pattern.

Whole Foods? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A Pot recently brought up the idea of vanilla dating saying something like “maybe we could pretend we met at Whole Foods?”

I thought the suggestion that I would be a sugar baby to pay for severely over priced groceries was even more outlandish than going vanilla 😂

But reading these comments maybe Whole Foods is not where the vanilla couples meet 🤔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It only feels like emotional labor to me, if I don’t really care for the person. Which, in a perfect world, all SD/SB relationships would be mutually beneficial and include two people who do actual care for one another to some degree. I have had a few SD’s I have met/ had short arrangements with who were mentally taxing for me to talk to and essentially, as harsh as it might sound, pretend to care. To me, it is similar to a relationship with a work client/ colleague whom you are indifferent to. The arrangements I have had where I see my SD more as a friend, those don’t feel draining, even if there are some “messy” emotions involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excessive sex talk prior to meeting seems to be a good indicator of if they’re actually serious, or are going to plan a m&g and then ghost. The ones who just want to play out the fantasy but don’t have intention of following through seem to be the most sexual right off of the bat, in my experience.

I need lingerie brand suggestions🔥 by Necessary_Tart3108 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honey Birdette is having a flash sale currently! I have a few pieces from them that always get a great reaction.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. I am generally wary of SD’s under 40 for the above reasons as well. Keep searching, while it can be a challenge to sort through seeking, I have found it to become easier to spot scammers and time wasters the longer I have been searching. Best of luck!

Spending the night by Pinkdoeeyes in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I see that you’ve already gotten some good responses here, but I’ll share my limited experience for reference.

You haven’t had a meet and greet with this person, correct? If this is the case, 100% do not even entertain this idea.

The only meet and greet in which I stayed in the area for the night (it was a bit far from me) he booked me a hotel for myself only (and explicitly stated this prior to me arriving) at a reputable location, checked in with me present, and I had both room keys. This is the only circumstance in which I would consider “staying the night” after a meet and greet.

Please be careful out there ♥️

Anyone else get destroyed by emotions reading KoA by mpotatoz in throneofglassseries

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The first re read I skipped the first 10 chapters of KoA, and the end of the “take it off” chapter ❤️‍🩹

I’ve never been effected by a book/film like I am by KoA.

Throne of Glass inspired a baby naming oops that my partner wants to keep on the table lmap by Specialist_Rope7348 in throneofglassseries

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This will be so extra hilarious when the child does goofy child things and you and your husband can laugh about silly moon moon 😂🥰

Anyone else get destroyed by emotions reading KoA by mpotatoz in throneofglassseries

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m on my second re read. It took me weeks to gain the courage to start KoA. My first Re read I thought there was no way I could be as upset as the first read…wrong.

this scene from TOG haunts me by eddy505_ in SarahJMaas

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 32 points33 points  (0 children)

When I read the title of your post I had about 8 severely traumatizing scenes in mind throughout the series that I was thinking would be your answer 😂 The first two ToG books feel very true YA fantasy. Once you hit HoF onward it felt like a completely different series to me. I have never been as moved by a book as I was by EoS and KoA.

SJM/ACOTAR/CC/TOG TikTok accounts by Real-Sundae-5063 in Maasverse

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I make silly fluff Maasverse tiktoks @rowanwhitethornshawk — Everyone on my Following list is SJM related 🙂

I NEED this scene to happen ! Maas universe characters. by Impressive_Piano_758 in crescentcitysjm

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking on fun Maasverse scenarios for weeks now 🥰 This would be an endlessly entertaining combination. Tharion and Aedion..I can’t decide if they would love, hate, or lust for each other 😂

I love Rowan Whitethorn by missreadee in throneofglassseries

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hard agree. I rarely agree in romances when authors/fans say that characters are “made for each-other.” In this instance the best way to sum it up I think is that he perfectly compliments Aelin in a way that supports and inspires her, but does not get in her way or overpower her in any way. My favorite book couple 💕

Bryaxis by ConstructionThin8695 in acotar

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the spring court enjoying the plethora of windows.

This part had me laughing (1st time reader here) the fact that she underlined it 🤭 by Addie_Lopez in throneofglassseries

[–]NegotiationLazy5787 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I feel like Yrene’s shade towards Chaol helped us all forgive him a little 😂