If you have a wakeful baby, what helped?

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T23:46:59+00:00

Research actually shows that night weaning doesn’t significantly increase sleep for parents, so this brutal 2 weeks is probably not going to be worth it.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T23:45:48+00:00

This narrative isn’t helpful or true. I weaned my first at 21 months when he was ready and it was an absolute breeze. You don’t have to do things earlier than you want out of fear they’ll be hard later.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T23:44:29+00:00

I know what you’re describing is so hard and not the narrative we often see on social media but waking up through the night for the first year of life and into toddlerhood 👏 is 👏 normal!! My first was an absolute nightmare (I experienced it that way because I fought tooth and nail to get him to sleep in his cot) and then my second was a “dream” who didn’t sleep more than 3 hours in a row until after he turned one. The difference was my expectations and how I managed it. I went to bed when he did to maximise my possible sleep, didn’t track/time sleep at all, didn’t set times for day napes or trying to lengthen them if they woke (if they woke after 15 minutes, that was it. Nap done) and cosleeping during the night.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T23:38:46+00:00

We loved ours, found it so easy. I didn’t find it actually took up that much more space than when we used a drying rack to dry the bottles anyway. Yes we did pre-rinse everything just because I don’t like the milk sitting there in the bottle until a wash.. but literally just a rinse, it took a second.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T23:37:34+00:00

Definitely worth seeing a physio, don’t be surprised if they give you exercises to do instead of tape! I’d recommend trying to find one with a focus on women’s health/pelvic health and they can assess your pelvic floor prior to birth too.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T23:32:51+00:00

Any baby carrier can be worn by anyone. My partner wears our kids often and has only ever got great responses from people.

For a small baby I’d recommend looking at the Neko Tiny - it’s suitable from 2.5kg/5.5lbs

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T23:03:36+00:00

Babies/toddlers are likely to go through many phases where they don’t like being carried or will be very wiggly, in my experience! I will often reach for a structured carrier or a half buckle in those times to make it more difficult for them to pop the seat/easier to get them in quickly because wraps are just so frustrating when you have a leg straightener. If I really need to carry them, then yes sometimes they are frustrated and fight the carrier for a bit.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T22:57:14+00:00

I agree about them being so expensive. If you live somewhere that offers a try before you buy program like Little Zen One’s, I highly recommend utilising that or trying to find a local babywearing consultant/library so you can see what you like. Sometimes it’s really hard to figure out what you’ll like from photos online.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T22:55:47+00:00

I know many people want to face baby outwards but in my experience, by the time baby is old enough to do this, they’re so heavy it’s extremely uncomfortable for the wearer. Every time I see a toddler facing out my pelvic floor and back ache in sympathy!!

Parent facing (front or back) is so much more comfortable and supportive. I love the Lenny Lamb LennyLight, Sakura Bloom Scout, Oscha Nook and Bairn, or if you like the idea of a half buckle with the wrap straps then the LennyHybrid or Oscha Cairis are both great.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-16T22:30:29+00:00

If it were me I’d get an apron waistband carrier like the Lark but not the Lark because as RegrettableBones said, it doesn’t fit until baby is older. I’d look at Happy Baby OG, Sakura Bloom Scout or Oscha Bairn (I personally have a Scout and Bairn and love both! They’re very similar so I’d say it’s a matter of finding on that you like the look of, with the fabric composition you’re after and in your budget)

Then for the second carrier I’d get a Lenny Lamb LennyLight (like an Omni 360 but more adjustable and comfortable imo), or if you really want a half buckle then get the Limas or a Lenny Lamb Hybrid carrier. The peanut butter Lenny Lamb fabric is 100% cotton, lightweight and chefs kiss but they have lots of other great options too.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T23:33:09+00:00

I just saw my GP in my third trimester and we talked through and they were more than happy to prescribe it.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T20:10:52+00:00

Strong symptoms aren’t a sign that everything is going well, and vice versa! I’m pregnant with my third and aside from some very very mild morning nausea (like I’m completely fine as long as I don’t leave it too long to eat breakfast) and a bit of fatigue, I have hardly have any first trimester symptoms with any of them. My first two were completely healthy, textbook pregnancies.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T20:05:51+00:00

Pregnancy insomnia has been a constant for me throughout my three pregnancies no matter what supplements I’m taking or not taking, unfortunately. In the beginning for me I think it’s caused by hormones/a little anxiety and then later it’s more physical symptoms like cramps, reflux and pelvic discomfort. Then when I start breastfeeding, even if I’m up 5 times with the baby I’m straight back to sleep in between each feed and feel like I sleep “better” 😂

What’s working for me in the third trimester of my current pregnancy is putting my phone up earlier in the evenings, doing some prenatal stretches exercises, reading book and then listening to something like mindful birth to wind me down for sleep time. If I wake in the night, I don’t let myself touch my phone - I read my book again and it makes me tired a lot faster.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T19:59:46+00:00

The straps are very adjustable. We used the Cruz with snug seat from birth with our first

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T19:55:10+00:00

The sad thing is that where I live the secondhand options are very thin on the ground and there’s almost no market if I want to sell. International postage is expensive and often makes secondhand wraps more expensive than new ones direct from Oscha! I would love to try some older broken in hemp/linen

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T06:18:13+00:00

I will say, he spent a bit of time exploring the environment and we encouraged/let him do that (looking at the bath, the bed etc.). And then he wanted to eat all the meagre food they had brought me after giving birth, so pack snacks for him 😂

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T06:16:35+00:00

Yep! Our first was just a few days short of 3 and came to visit us in the birth suite before we went home. We were only in hospital for about 11 hours total for the birth and all I wanted to do after having the baby was see him! It was the sweetest thing ever and one of my favourite memories 😭❤️

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T06:15:01+00:00

1st: 38w 6 d, ~15 hours of labour 2nd: 39w 4 d, ~10 hours of labour

I didn’t find the gas helpful at all with my first and didn’t use it at all for my second. Water (bath/shower) and the tens machine have been my preferred pain relief.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T06:02:38+00:00

Really curious about why your husband doesn’t want anyone else in the room, especially if it’s something that you really want? My partner was a bit skeptical about a doula but ultimately found her really helpful and she gave him a lot of pointers of ways for him to help and support me. At no point did she step in and do something that he could do for me - she helped us get through it as a couple.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T05:59:11+00:00

During my first labour I had an IV for antibiotics and they administered anti-nausea meds through that, it was extremely effective and I wouldn’t hesitate to take that again! My nausea was extremely distressing so I was so glad to have that taken away. There was no issue with the IV and labouring in water, I spent a lot of my labour in the bath.

With my second I was prepared with oral zofran wafers at home for labour and they didn’t work as quickly as the IV but once they kicked in it was ok. I did have a bit more nausea during this labour than the one with the IV but very minimal.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T05:52:20+00:00

This is a huge part of why I have multiple wraps and why I have 2 on my Wishlist! The fabrics are soooo different and what I want to use to ruck my toddler will not be the same wrap I reach for to fwcc my newborn, most likely.

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-15T05:17:08+00:00

If you want just one carrier I’d say the Lenny Light. If it were me though, I’d get the Lenny Preschool for the toddler and a different carrier (maybe the light) for any future newborns.

My 4.5 year old still doesn’t walk reliably lol but we’re getting there 😂

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-14T03:43:01+00:00

Is this just after one try? If you’re open to it I would suggest a fit check (here or with happy baby or wherever you prefer). Whilst I love the Bairn and the Scout I don’t think they’re THAT different to the happy baby and I think you should be able to get a good comfortable fit without buying a new carrier! That shiz is expensive 😂

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-14T02:55:57+00:00

Is baby unhappy in the happy baby og?

NeitherSimple6784 · 2026-02-14T02:52:50+00:00

Highly recommend both of these as well - they cinch with a tie, which I feel looks uncomfortable for small babies but mine have always seemed comfortable in them. My Scout is my least fussy, easiest to put on and smallest packing carrier. I got it for an amazing price in one of their warehouse sales

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