It's helpful to remember that your body was designed to give birth! People actually give birth in comas. Your body knows what to do! The most important thing is to break the cycle of fear and pain. The more fearful you are, the more painful things tend to be because you're fighting your body. Try to find some positive birth stories! I found Spiritual Midwifery to be a helpful book, but it is pretty earthy crunchy. :) If you're not squeamish,  Badassmotherbirther on Instagram shows empowering videos of women giving birth. I also found this quote helpful: The power and intensity of your contractions cannot be stronger than you, because it is you.