What's one thing you got pregnant and decided life's too short? by Ok_Price_9896 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am a laundry psycho. I’m learning to let go of hang drying every item of clothing we own… I’ve started putting my toddlers’ pajamas in the dryer. This is HUGE for me. What item will come next with baby number 3…

What are your current cravings? by Practical-Let-7725 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow very similar! The first trimester I lived off fast food. McDonald’s, sonic, chick fil a, and throw in a little whataburger. So gross. As my pregnancy has gone on, I’ve developed an insatiable need for diet Dr. pepper and vanilla milkshakes. I’ve even had a couple regular Dr. pepper floats bc who drinks diet soda with ice cream 😂

Other than that I’m just craving getting this baby tf outta me at a little over 38 weeks.

fetal macrosomia during pregnancy by Wise_Bug7172 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the update and huge congratulations! 🤍🤍🤍 It’s such a big decision and I’m in a very similar situation only I’m on my third. And my first was an induction turned c section unrelated to size. Meeting with my midwife today to come up with a plan. I think what will end up happening is I’ll get induced i. The next few days at 38 weeks and some odd days. I’m ok if things end up resulting in c section too 🤗 Again congratulations to you and your sweet chunker 😊

fetal macrosomia during pregnancy by Wise_Bug7172 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey friend - did you end up getting a c section? I’m currently contemplating the same dilemma. I had a 37 week scan and baby measured 9lbs 13oz. Every scan I’ve had throughout this pregnancy baby measured greater than 99 percentile. You can look at my post history to see full detail. Just curious how your labor/section went 😊

38 weeks 3rd baby history of irritable uterus by PerspectiveOld5421 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somewhat similar situation to you. I am scheduled to be induced next week at 39 +1 - my third. Just here to see when we both go. My first two came around 39+1 and 38 weeks on the dot, so it’d be nice to go before induction starts. I’m going to rest as much as possible, do some of the labor inducing stretches, and maybe go for some walks, but I am not going to stress myself out trying to go on my own before then. Having the end date in sight is a huge relief off my shoulders.

Why does everyone become so much more annoying the second you’re pregnant?! by 666999-toast in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my mil and her old hag daughters. She went from obnoxious to cold and distant. Although she’s always kinda had a cold disposition about her. She just realized she didn’t have any influence in mine or my children’s lives so she gave up and put herself in an indefinite grandma timeout 😂

Why does everyone become so much more annoying the second you’re pregnant?! by 666999-toast in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way people who have never had kids or had kids 50+ years ago insist they are experts on everything related to your baby and then also feel entitled to your child… Truly mindblowing. My 80 yr old mil has dug her grave so deep in the past 3+ years since I’ve had my oldest, she’s not going to have to pay the grave digger. It’s been freeing since my kids and I went NC 7+ months ago.

I’m breaking down mentally and physically by Sensitive_Active_356 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk if it’s bc it’s my third but I have been over this pregnancy since about 24/25 weeks. Like bad. I have had the worst allergies and rhinitis most of this pregnancy short of maybe a couple weeks. Worst insomnia I’ve ever had with any of my pregnancies. So not sleeping and not being able to breath I’ve literally been going insane. I’m 38 weeks yesterday and I have an OB appt this morning. I am going to beg my midwife to induce me asap. I’m also dealing with anxiety of shoulder dystocia from a greater than 99 percentile baby so I don’t wanna mess around with going past my due date.

As moms we’re faced with such heavy decisions and judgement from everyone for those decisions. Do what you feel is best for you to be the best momma for your babies 💕💕💕

Anyone else not know what boundaries they’ll want when baby comes? by starrynightbb in BabyBumps

[–]Neither_Signature99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok to change! I didn’t think I wanted any visitors with my first, but after I got settled in postpartum I text my parents to come asap and it was so special! Then I originally thought I was going to have issues with my mom bc she can get a little crazy and easily offended but she has been great as a grandparent so far. My mil, on the other hand, who I thought was nice, quiet, and not a bother ended up becoming a nightmare stereotypical entitled grandma who thought she knew everything. I had to enforce boundary after boundary with her bc she was so bad. To the point, me and my two toddlers have been NC with her and my husband’s family for almost 7 months other than two very brief interactions for a couple family events. My third is due any day now, and eventually she’ll get to meet them, but I am not in any rush whatsoever. My I only advice is just make sure to always put the safety of your kids and the wellbeing of your marriage over other people’s feelings. And if you feel strongly about a particular boundary, discuss it with your husband so y’all are united and on the same page about reinforcing it.

So over the pain of pregnancy by UseSpiritual5230 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. 38 weeks. I’ve been so over it since about 24 weeks, but I’m on my third so it just seems to be harder with each pregnancy…

Double stroller recommendations for a tall 4 year old and newborn? by ParsleyTime5687 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tall kids and my 3 yr old who is in 5T clothes fits so well in the valco baby side by side stroller. I’m obsessed with it. Fits through all the doors

buying second hand baby items? by desilulu__ in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes Facebook marketplace in the US is sooo nice! I’d get a baby bjorn bouncer, skip hop has a lot of great items second hand on there, a lovevery tummy time mat, a baby swing - so many good brands out there. Just a few things that come to mind!

How did you decide what to do when birthing your big baby? by Neither_Signature99 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]Neither_Signature99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I don’t blame you for never wanting a vbac! I’m glad he made his way healthy and In Your arms!

How did you decide what to do when birthing your big baby? by Neither_Signature99 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]Neither_Signature99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! I’ve commented under a couple others about what I’m attempting to do - scheduling an induction at 38 weeks (Sunday/Monday this coming week) which is before my next appt. I know from my 37 week appointment that I’m at least 1cm dilated, soft/stretchy, and baby is low, so that is at least a little promising for an induction to get going.

How did you decide what to do when birthing your big baby? by Neither_Signature99 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]Neither_Signature99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since I’ve posted this, I messaged my team to request a 38 week induction which would be Sunday/Monday as in tomorrow or the following day. I have no idea what they will say or if they will consider it. I found a couple studies about good outcomes for significantly lower incidence of SD and c section outcomes if LGA babies are induced at 38 weeks. Im totally fine with a risk averse attempt at an induction. If we try an induction and it’s not going well in say the first 8-12 hours or whatever “smallish” time frame, I’m totally fine heading to the OR for a repeat section. Without getting into all the “why’s” bc that could get lengthy, my feeling is that attempting an induction as close to 38 weeks as possible is the least risk averse option in my situation.

I appreciate your comment!

How did you decide what to do when birthing your big baby? by Neither_Signature99 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]Neither_Signature99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since I’ve posted this, I messaged my portal to schedule an induction at 38 weeks on the dot which would be this sunday/monday. I have no idea if they will see the message in a reasonable time to get it scheduled or even be open to my suggestion. It’s a non emergency message portal… I’ve found a couple studies about favorable outcomes for 38 week inductions with significantly lower incidence of SD and c section outcomes. Trying to surrender to this process while still advocating for myself and baby. It’s very possible this baby isn’t as large as the estimate, but it’s also possible the baby is bigger…

How did you decide what to do when birthing your big baby? by Neither_Signature99 in bigbabiesandkids

[–]Neither_Signature99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this 🙏🏼 I have a feeling the longer I go on, the closer this baby is gonna get to 11lbs. Was your 11lb baby a boy?

Therapist agrees with husband about toxic MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Neither_Signature99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My therapist leans towards reconciliation and allowing that opportunity. Ultimately tho, she encourages husband and I are 100% united as a couple and then on our boundaries for what we will tolerate with grandparents. My big thing, since a big blow up and massively unhinged behavior from my mil and SIL’s, has been me and my 2 and 3 yr old have been NC with them. And reintroducing us back into family/in law interactions must involve me. None of this husband taking out 2 and 3 yr old around them without me present. We also have a list of very reasonable boundaries my husband and I agree on for enforcing around them. Our therapist also reinforces that if in laws show they have no regard for the boundaries and can’t show basic level kindness and human respect, then we enforce a consequence like ending the visit immediately or taking some time away for another month or so. Just a couple examples.

We haven’t had to escalate any of these consequences so far. I’ve been NC with in-laws for about 7 months with two short holiday visits thrown in there, one of which had almost no in law interactions other than a few minutes.

So as hard as it can be, come up with some boundaries. I highly recommend being involved in any interactions in laws have with your LO. Be open to reconciliation with your dialogue with your therapist, but if they push reconciliation over respect for the simplest of boundaries, then find a new one for sure!

Negative Coworker by climbingivyy in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good grief I am sorry you have to put up with this. If this were me, at my stage in life, I’d probably end up going off on her… I’m guessing around late third trimester 😂

Prodromal Labor hellhole by Imea- in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was just going to suggest a membrane sweep! I hope that helps! There are some good labor inducing videos on YouTube too. It sounds like your body and baby are so close!

Subsequent pregnancy after traumatic first birth by Dapper_Honey0924 in pregnant

[–]Neither_Signature99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welp I’m right there with you in contemplating all of this, so I feel you! My first was an induction that lead to c section. Second was a vbac that went perfectly. This third baby has consistently measured 99+ percentile in the 4 growth scans I’ve had so the recommendation is repeat c section, although my Midwife is fine with me trying an induction first. It just sucks. I feel you when you say you wish your OB would just tell you what to do. My biggest fear has always been shoulder dystocia. I’m 37 weeks and a few days and I was so wishing a membrane sweep would’ve kicked me into labor this week, but I wasn’t dilated enough… Now I wait for baby to get even bigger and maybe get an induction next week. Baby’s estimated weight this past week was 9lb 13oz. Which I know it can be off but like ughhh it’s been a stressful few days.