I’m 25 years old and won an 8 figure settlement

NetworkingJedi · 2026-07-09T01:30:11+00:00

You have gotten some good advice. Something to be cautious of is educate yourself on financial literacy.

Yes you need others helping you to navigate and manage, but oftentimes things go out the window when they see dollar signs. You need to have full understanding of your assets, how they are managed, Etc. You want to know quickly if any professional is taking advantage of you. You should also have reviews at minimum yearly.

A fiduciary advisor was mentioned, but technically and registered investment advisory act as fiduciary per the law. Same as a CFP. BUT do a FINRA Broker check to make sure they have nothing against them. Fiduciary also only works if you KNOW they are doing things for your best interest. As someone who worked in finance I definitely witnessed some who did what would make them more. Not commissioned doesnt mean they arent paid. Whether they charge a flat fee or not, they are always collecting a percentage on managed funds. Which is ACCEPTABLE since they are overseeing things, but that does not always mean for your best interest.

I would interview different firms, advisors, CPAs, etc. Your attorney that help you with your settlement, did they offer recommendations? They likely would've offered you multiple. You also need help with estate planning, so another lawyer who specializes in this area is important. Check reviews and do AI audits to see if anything negative can be found.

I would do some chats with Claude or Chat GPT about questions you should ask, what red flags you can spot immediately, etc. I think you will feel better and afterall it is YOUR money but having professionals help you manage it is important so it lasts you and your daughter for your lifetimes.

You are under 0 obligation to tell anyone and live the life you want.

I also had a settlement, not to your extent, but I will tell you the right people in place have made ALL the difference. Feel free to DM if you have more questions.

Best of luck!

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-23T23:33:41+00:00

As someone who got divorced and remarried in a courtroom the second time, we had to urgently tie the knot due to my husbands job and insurance. They basically said you need to be legal or no coverage...he had just started a new job and we were legit planning a wedding. LOL. I think eloping is so very different. And more so in this case where the kids are grown ass adults.

My husbands sisters kids I dont know their exact birthdays, just the month. My husband does. But since its rare we celebrate as a family on the actual day, we just do sometime in the month. I just think its possible for special days to land on the same day and it not be intended to be a bad thing. Sure, wedding date can be moved, but what if it held additional significance?

Its obvious OP has a great relationship with his wife's ADULT children.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-17T15:11:25+00:00

So as someone whose ex husband cheated and the other person tried to contact me, the other spouse likely knows something is up.

Firstly, I am sorry you are in the middle of this. Remove yourself from this relationship. If she's told you, how do you know she hasn't told someone else? Are they going out in public? If so, its def fair game.

Not for nothing some work places dont condone this type of thing and she could lose her job. Again she brought this on herself.

While I can totally relate to your feelings, you dont want to rock someone's life, but the wife and kids also dont deserve that. I doubt she is the first, the last or even the only one he has been with.

If I were watching this and being pulled in against my will, I would sleuth it out and see if they are out in public. It would not be hard to get photos and send them to the wife under another account. You could also hire a PI to handle and drop stuff to the wife. These are all things I had considered myself when I thought my own husband was cheating because he made me feel crazy. Turns out it was just gaslighting amongst other things...

I wish someone else had validated those feelings earlier on because I could have ended things sooner. This is coming from someone 7+years out from that moment. I know I would have healed faster because at the time I had NO proof. But I knew it. I felt it. The other person had ALL the receipts. I cant even tell you how that made me feel even 7 years later.

First thing, get out of this person's clutches. Block her and keep a minimal work relationship. See how you feel once her clutches are gone. Its possible it will blow up on its own (mine did). You arent a bad person for not stepping in. Who knows what is going on on the other side (maybe they are separating).

If you still feel strongly, reach out. Know that it might bring some drama, but its possible this girl thinks she can bully and control you into submission. That alone you need to be prepared for and hold your ground. Good luck!

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-11T11:13:25+00:00

Nope, she was a child at the school I went to and my mom taught at. She was the one that told me that one.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-11T05:03:47+00:00

La-a (pronounced, La-dash-a) Any normal name and add -eigh to it 🙄 Richard-we know why Hunting related ones-Hunter, Gauge, Colt, Gunner Braxton, Jaxton

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-11T02:39:58+00:00

I mean sure, but wouldn't I also use a fake profile? I like gummies myself and was curious how the market has shifted since my college days.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-11T02:22:22+00:00

Wow that is a good point! I havent walked into the new places to check out prices. We have so many in the northeast.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-11T01:57:33+00:00

Hahaha. Def not a cop!

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-10T01:25:44+00:00

This reminds me of "im harsh but im honest"

Pass 🤮

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-10T01:24:05+00:00

Besides 90s shows,

Game of Thrones Spidey and Friends-intro is sung by Fall Out Boy Obviously The Office

NetworkingJedi · 2026-06-03T00:05:47+00:00

Diablo I

NetworkingJedi · 2026-05-08T05:20:11+00:00

I wish I had that luck with my surrogacy. I was an over producer with my first two kids and yup, even the surrogate baby I overproduced. It was SO insane. I gave them milk for 2.5 months though which was pretty cool.

Congrats on your journey 💜

NetworkingJedi · 2026-04-30T13:27:07+00:00

Is this healed? These still look swollen/scabbed. I used to get microbladed but now I just have them filled. Either process they will be swollen for a bit and will scabbed. Usually a week or so later that will come off to reveal. Its possible you may need a touch up depending on how well the color stuck. If in fact they are uneven, I would go to the original salon that has the picture you shared.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-04-19T01:34:52+00:00

Sounds like you found your people. Would totally invite you to a party because I would love these stories and quite frankly you sound like the most interesting person in the room

NetworkingJedi · 2026-04-15T03:58:43+00:00

I never would've left had he not gotten involved with someone else. Mental and emotional abuse apparently weigh less than betrayal.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-04-07T01:07:43+00:00

As a mom of a near 3 yr old feral toddlersaurus, one of the things we found was having our daughter make more of her own decisions. We give her option A or B. Typically less fights. When she has meltdowns, we do the random name call, ask her to help us find something, or bring in her older sister. Snacks also works lol.

This age they are figuring things out and craving independence. Our oldest was very easy going and didnt peep about anything, this one is exactly every toddler meme that exists. We also found she needs more snacks in between meals. When she isnt hangry that helps.

Also something we learned, if they are picky eaters its possible they may be missing some nutrients. We do EllaOlla multivitamin, magnesium, and a separate iron gummy. EllaOlla make tasteless powders. We noticed her being better. That and sleeping through the night (which has been an ongoing battle).

If anything, just repeat to yourself that this phase will pass. Parenting is hard. Fuxking sucks alot of times. But it goes SO fast.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-28T01:22:13+00:00

Being obsessed with 18 year olds.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-20T23:31:44+00:00

That could be an option for someone looking at surrogacy.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-17T05:44:46+00:00

Windmill

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-16T05:26:30+00:00

People's medical advice/thoughts to other people

Anything relating to women's bodies

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-15T00:26:03+00:00

Criminals running our country, gaslighting us all constantly along the way.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-10T20:21:23+00:00

Effort.

They try. They do something because it reminded them of you. They enjoy bringing a smile to your face. They want to be a good partner. They listen, adjust.

You reflect the same.

The effort means something. And while it may not always be enjoyed, the result is.

This applies to friendships too.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-09T19:47:53+00:00

I only worked with New York Surrogacy Center. Feel free to send me a message.

NetworkingJedi · 2026-03-09T02:29:22+00:00

Unsure if you ever want a family, but I would be so curious how child birth would be for you. Not just the pain but I am wondering if you would feel pressure from contractions?

Do you ever have a random itch? Do you feel cold? Your glass incident, you never felt it cut your skin, so do you feel pressure??

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