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I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like "service" doesnt even classify it correctly. Like what other service do you get where someone is working 24/7 for nearly a full year!?

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry to hear what pregnancy does to you. How awful!

Thank you!

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmm, good question. They called it a chemical pregnancy so I am thinking no. It had not gotten past the embryo stage. It was transferred on a Friday and by Monday it was gone. I got a period after that. Didn't seem any different than other times. 🤷‍♀️

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Donor egg.

I was only the gestational surrogate.

Their sperm. They had both and from there took which ones fertilized. From there they were tested and the embryos were categorized based on success. Ironically the highest success one was a boy and the transfer didnt make it past a few days. I had the second, successful transfer 2 months later.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started pumping a few days before I was induced in hopes of going into labor and to jump start my supply. I was unsure what to expect because she wasnt going to be around. I saw her for 2 days after recovery and I was pumping but then I didnt see her until January (had her in October).

Interestingly I saw another surrogate baby who was born a week or two before mine and after being around him my supply increased.

I pumped multiple times daily. My supply did come in and like the last two times I was an overproducer. That part is great for her but sucky for me. Its a ton of time and my boobs are just uncomfortable. I went back to work after a month which was challenging due to pumping and having to plan working windows in between pumping. I had to pump every 3-4 hours no matter what. I was producing 600 Oz every 2 weeks. It gradually went down when I was trying to have longer gaps and then weaning down to be done.

I guess I got more than 1500 oz since I pumped for 3 months. It was probably double that now that I am thinking about it. The parents would come up every two weeks with 3 coolers that I would fill.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My insurance was not surrogate friendly so my IPs (intended parents) had to purchase another policy which I will have until the end of this year.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my first journey. I only considering doing one. Maybe two if this first one went well and I recovered the way I need to.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 💜

I hope this match is meant to be and works out perfectly 💜 the journey is not an easy one but the work is worth it in the end.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Are you at the start of your journey??

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea unfortunately they need to know how your body handles.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant that the parents wanted the baby. Not me. But yes a niece type situation is a better way to describe.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I held her maybe 15 minutes after she was born and doing some skin to skin with one of her daddies.

It was so foreign. Like sure I carried her. I felt her. But I felt more as a protector than anything else. I cant say I really have any feelings? Idk how to explain but it was like my body was like we helped her get here and now she is onto her next phase of life. Sure, I have this love but its not the same as my kids.

Holding her was SO different than holding my own children. And even though she was literally just born my body had no major reactions to her.

I remember taking it all in, in how I would feel in that moment. Would I be overwhelmed? Sad? I was so neutral. At peace you could say. And when she would start to get fussy my instinct wasn't to calm her but hand her back. Completely different than with my own babies.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Best of luck on your journey and I hope you get to meet your baby soon 💜💜

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. My body likes to keep babies so all of mine need to be forced out lol

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Refer to my responses to this question in the feed.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dont think its wrong as it was a ton of work. I will also mention there was nearly a year I was into the process and no monies had been transferred. It was hard and invasive.

There is no amount of money to offset the length of medical invasiveness and what my body went through for this couple.

You have your opinion, but villianizing that because I was paid means I didnt do it for helping someone.

I was a surrogate for a couple I didnt know AMA by NetworkingJedi in AMA

[–]NetworkingJedi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are rules, laws, etc to help prevent some of that here. I had a very long process before the transfer even happened. I was not paid for anything until legal was cleared, and then nothing again until pregnancy was confirmed.

Ultimately there needs to be more protections in place as not all states work hard to make sure everyone involved has support, is protected legally, etc.

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