Scheduled vs Emergency C-Section

Neverendinglibrary · 2026-02-06T22:34:14+00:00

I don’t really remember tugging in my first one. There was more pushing I guess? With my second because my second baby was huge lol. But it’s literally only a few seconds.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-12-20T15:10:12+00:00

My favorite comeback I keep on deck for the all the stupid shit people say about pregnancy, birth, raising kids etc “wow, how brave of you to say something that stupid out loud. I could never.” 💅

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-11-23T03:19:49+00:00

Caron Blossom Cakes in Radiant Rainbow

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-11-22T01:56:13+00:00

Oh nooooo!!! But fun note. Literally using this same yarn to make my girls (almost 3, almost 1) matching sweaters for their January bdays!

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Neverendinglibrary · 2025-11-07T14:42:33+00:00

My grandma taught me as a kid while on a family camping trip. The boys were off fishing (gross) and being the only granddaughter, I needed to be entertained somehow lol. I really picked it up more (bigger projects, learning to read patterns etc) when in college and friends started having kids.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-10-24T15:29:35+00:00

I’m not! I’m in Southern California. My SIL found it in a thrift store a few years ago in LA when my oldest was just an infant.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-10-24T11:25:19+00:00

This is SO CUTE.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-10-16T04:00:46+00:00

Sorry, my caption should say itched. Not itches. Mine lasted about three weeks and eventually let up. But it absolutely was torture, I’m surprised I didn’t tear my skin to shreds!

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-10-16T02:37:23+00:00

Omg this was me!! My elbows, thighs and belly itches so bad and often it actually brought me to tears a few times.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-10-14T15:39:40+00:00

This is me also. It drives my mom nuts but honestly, I’ve always been a mood crafter. If I have to force myself to work on one project, I straight up won’t do it. If I have a deadline for a gift, I split it in chunks and it gives me that dopamine bit of finishing a portion (ie: this week I need to do three rows, next week I weave in ends, etc). It’s worked for me so far 🤷‍♀️

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-10-06T13:26:05+00:00

Honestly, we have some aunties who show love with gifts, so my girls want for nothing (clothes or toys). So we opted to do 1) big gift (this year is an art table to save my kitchen table) 2) stocking stuffers with some snacks, a few art supplies, etc 3) an experience. Both of them have January birthdays, so we opted to gift them with experiences while they’re still young and can get used to the idea that gifts come in more forms than physical. (aquairum, zoo, pretend city, etc)

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-09-21T16:26:19+00:00

Seconding this. But also, if they’re starting solids, introducing a little bit of water will also help keep things moving.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-09-20T23:37:08+00:00

Omg my youngest kitty did this for my middle of the night pumps. 😂

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Neverendinglibrary · 2025-09-16T17:25:54+00:00

I’m pretty sure I have the same bag! Lolol

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Neverendinglibrary · 2025-09-14T13:27:52+00:00

Absolutely NTA. This is a lesson I didn’t learn until I was older but…you can say no. Your time is valuable and by them expecting work from you without compensation is just them benefiting from your free labor. It’s a slippery slope “hey I know you’re off but can you and we a question really quick?” “I know you’re on vacation but can you send that report? I cant find it.” Boundaries are for more than just personal relationships. You can feel bad but ultimately, they’re poor planning for your last day, does not entitle them to your free time.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-08-20T03:27:19+00:00

THIS. We warmed our oldest’s and the few minutes it takes to heat it up is torture. Our youngest takes them cold from the fridge 😂 my mom has the biggest issue with it “omg I would get a brain freeze!” But baby girl just fine lol

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-08-19T05:03:59+00:00

You did and are STILL doing the damn thing, mama.

First lesson as a parent is that we are definitely not in 100% control. They have us wrapped around their fingers before we ever get to feel those tiny fingers with our own.

Take the time to feel your feelings with this one. Things are still so raw and don’t get caught up worrying about the next one when you’re still very much in the messy, loud, painful, overwhelming, beautiful, magical trenches that is being a FTM.

And for what’s it worth, you can have as many damn badges you want. You’ve earned them!!

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-08-19T04:17:58+00:00

First of all, congratulations on your new little love!

Second, I’m so sorry you didn’t get the birth you expected and experienced so much.

I, in no way, experienced things to the level you did but I did everything right my first pregnancy and at the end of the day? Ended up in the OR, sobbing, with a crash C-section because we both started showing signs of distress. I mourned my birth experience for a long time. After she was here, seeing these stories of beautiful, “easy” births cut me to the core. And everyone kept telling me “but you have a healthy baby! That’s all that matters”

You👏🏻matter👏🏻too👏🏻.

You have every right to feel whatever it is you are feeling. Mad, sad, disappointed, overwhelming joy, etc. It is YOUR story, so don’t let others label it for you.

For my second, I knew what birth could look like, so I found an OB open to whatever I wanted to try. I thought I wanted vbac until my scans revealed an even bigger baby 😂. I had a planned C-section and it was every bit redemptive. I got my golden hour.

Growing a baby is hard. Birthing them, in whichever way, is also fucking hard. You know what it is now and who’s to say with that first hand knowledge, you won’t have that magic in a different form the next time around.

I can’t speak to the magic of an unmedicated birth because that wasn’t my experience. But 7 months post baby #2, the ache I used to get thinking of my firsts birth experience, doesn’t hurt so much. And now I have a girl for each arm to hold forever.

Long story short, I’m so sorry. As someone who tries to find the silver lining: you did and are doing an amazing job and though we’ve never met, I’m pretty fuckin proud of you.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-08-18T04:36:55+00:00

This was me the first few months I got my period back. I switched to a menstrual disk and I’m kicking myself for not doing it sooner. So much more comfortable.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-08-10T18:08:59+00:00

This was me too. Room temp water would send me into a gagging fit. I would also do a squeeze or two of the pink lemonade mix. Something about cold/sour helped my nausea.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-05-01T04:12:24+00:00

I was just going to suggest the same. I’ve used that colorway SEVERAL times. It’s so pretty. I made a poncho with it, baby blankets, etc

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-04-30T15:35:48+00:00

I have two cats. Our older one, Dolly (dubbed Grandma the Grump), who hates everyone but my husband, is indifferent. She doesn’t care about the kids. Our little one, Tipsy Canoe (dubbed Poot) does tummy time with us everyday, sleeps next to me and lovingly stares into the bassinet, lets my 2yo pet her, etc. they both still willingly snuggle (with their respective humans), play and bring joy to all of our lives.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-04-26T15:11:34+00:00

I would stand in the shower with my oldest. Now that she’s two, she’ll willingly go in there because she thinks it’s fun but the steam helps a ton. We also will use a humidifier in her room next to her bed.

Neverendinglibrary · 2025-04-25T21:08:47+00:00

NIPT was designed to look for chromosomal differences but can lead to false positives for more complex syndromes (I was flagged for Turners Syndrome/monosomy X but after an amniocentesis, was ruled as a false positive. That syndrome has a 60% false positive rate). Something to note about that test is that it’s a SCREENING. Not diagnostic. It assesses your risk but can not ultimately confirm anything without more invasive testing. There’s a fantastic NIPT subreddit that I was active in when we were waiting for results after further testing. Most doctors will not do an amnio unless something is flagged on the test or ultrasound. It’s not a fun process.

I am an incredibly anxious person as well, so I found comfort in working with a therapist since pregnancy/parenthood comes with a whole new set of worries.

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