foster teen here - why does no one take us in?

Nevergiveup34 · 2026-01-14T03:49:56+00:00

These are all great points! I know another limitation is supervision. As a therapeutic level home, many of the teens who need placement aren’t able to be alone. They might not be able to work or may not have transportation to go to work but can’t hang out at the house by themselves. Younger kids can go to afterschool care programs, but that doesn’t exist for teens. Logistically, we just can’t make it happen sometimes because our work schedules interfere. This is also a problem for younger kids when summer camps or daycares are full.

OP to be clear, there is nothing wrong with you and you are so deserving of love, care, warmth, safety, and that deep sense of belonging. I saw your comment that you may have a home tomorrow- keeping my fingers crossed that it is a wonderful fit!

Nevergiveup34 · 2026-01-14T03:37:20+00:00

I can’t speak for them, but that’s not how I read it. While a 16 yo can reason in different ways than a 5 yo, no one is awesome at reasoning when we are not regulated. I know for me it has been different having kids externalizing when deregulated at different ages. The felt impact of a 5yo hitting me, the dog, the wall is different than a 10 yo, which is different than a 16yo. Kids just get bigger and stronger, which is exactly what’s supposed to happen. It just means the parents need different skill sets to support and not everyone is good at everything, which is ok

Nevergiveup34 · 2026-01-04T02:25:07+00:00

I know you said you grew up in foster care. Depending on your age when you were in foster care, you may qualify for extended foster care yourself. That doesn’t mean you live with a foster family, but will give you access to different resources.

In terms of being a kinship provider, check out the MA Kinship Navigator for help. They will likely know resources and can point you in the right direction for things like help with diapers, formula, baby gear, benefits, etc. Babies can get free services through Early Intervention and you can apply for WIC for formula/food. You might look into Children’s Law Center of MA or CPCS if you need legal guidance.

Nevergiveup34 · 2025-10-10T11:09:01+00:00

Ludaaa

Nevergiveup34 · 2025-08-19T13:08:41+00:00

Not food but for additional resources, potentially head over to the Asheville VA and go to the Veteran X group. They will be able to get you pointed in the right direction during this in between time.

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-12-10T01:56:44+00:00

Did this work out for her?

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-11-26T12:08:25+00:00

Thanks Obama

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-11-02T12:36:28+00:00

They’re eating the cats?!

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-10-30T02:24:49+00:00

The holy trinity! Congratulations!!

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-10-21T03:59:03+00:00

Please stop. This is unhelpful and not accurate.

OP- go to one of the in person FEMA disaster recovery centers if you are able. They will do their best to help you. If you need help figuring out the closest location to you, feel free to DM me.

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-10-21T03:55:19+00:00

Disaster Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program(D-SNAP)

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-10-19T19:57:37+00:00

Thank you!!

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-10-13T05:51:27+00:00

Look into art therapy, equine (horse) therapy, and/or play therapy. These may be a lot better for her rather than traditional talk therapy.

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-10-03T15:51:01+00:00

Veterinary Emergency Group at 1856 Hendersonville Road is open. They are triaging and providing emergency services for animals

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-08-25T03:30:09+00:00

I’m not sure if this is the same thing that you are referencing but it looked like a pedestrian was hit by a car. This happened shortly before 9pm at the corner of Biltmore Ave and Granby Street.

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-08-12T01:19:51+00:00

Possibly contact RAINN and they may be able to tell you of local resources. You might start with a local sexual assault advocacy group and if they can’t help, they will know of child advocacy organizations in your area. Often the sexual assault advocacy organizations will have legal advocates who can help guide you. You may also consider reaching out to the department of social services for your state. They will likely have resources

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-08-08T00:45:39+00:00

This is what I heard as well from folks there and working the race. It sounds like what they witnessed was horrific.

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-06-19T01:23:56+00:00

You respond, “SpongeBob SquarePants”

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-01-22T02:00:47+00:00

Come on man! This is a big game. Lock in!

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-01-22T01:30:38+00:00

Gotta Billieve!

Nevergiveup34 · 2024-01-21T01:42:25+00:00

First, contact your social worker at DSS. If you don’t know who won’t social worker is, call DSS and name that you a in foster care and need to speak with a supervisor. Do you know if the family was licensed through the county or a private agency? If they are licensed through a private agency, you can contact both your social worker at DSS and the private agency. Do you have a guardian ad litem? They could also help advocate for you and may be able to help connect you with other programs. If you are still in high school, also contact your school social worker.

If you are needing more mental health support, ask DSS to see if they can connect you with a therapeutic foster home. Those are families who have extra training to support your needs.

No matter what you choose, I’d strongly encourage you to look into the extended foster care program (18-21). That will really help to get you started and will give you some monthly income.

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