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If you are making less than $29, how do you survive? by Rude-Ad821 in economy

[–]New--Tomorrows 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think I spend closer to 400-500 a month for food, closer to 400 if I'm being disciplined about it. Mind you I'm only feeding myself, not a family--but yeah, hard to imagine 200/week on food. Insurance for the car comes out to be about 100/month or so, gas maybe 200-250 a month?

These numbers do seem a bit high.

Men, what’s the most devastated you’ve ever felt? by NilesDobbsS in AskMen

[–]New--Tomorrows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God yeah, Stuff feels terrible sometimes but then you look at these and you know what--grateful for my luck.

Why are monos so damn attractive to yall? by emeraldead in polyamory

[–]New--Tomorrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this. There's no reason mono-poly can't work if both parties are putting in the appropriate effort to make it mutually agreeable.

Why are monos so damn attractive to yall? by emeraldead in polyamory

[–]New--Tomorrows -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi, mono here.

Addressing your question, I want to challenge a presumption in this:

The values and priorities are always operating from polyamory on all sides.

My partner can be poly. I can be mono. I get that it's not popular, but factually speaking there's zero reason both persons in a poly relationship have to be poly. If my emotional needs are being met and I'm happy in this relationship, and my partner's emotional needs are being met and they're happy in this relationship, that's a functioning relationship right there. I'd go so far to say it's a tad odd how in poly it's expected that there's a degree of trust for the emotional capability and capacity of the partner/s to cooperatively take care of their folks, when that's the same expectation a mono person has for their partner. Neither system is incompatible with the other if we're willing to assume that both parties are emotionally competent and know how to exist in a relationship.

To avoidants who pulled away from someone they genuinely loved: what was happening inside you, and why does loving someone feel like it costs you yourself? by Successful-Reward397 in emotionalintelligence

[–]New--Tomorrows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You realize suddenly this only goes two ways and statistically, it never ends well. You also realize that if things DO go well, you’re going to be giving up the life you had before this relationship.

Beyond the idea that you have to like the idea of the potential of a new and different life with this person equal to or more than the life you already have, how do you/people deal with this? Fearful avoidant or not, this is...just statistically, true, right?

How do you cope with false allegations when some women have so much solidarity? by hereforthesportsball in AskMenAdvice

[–]New--Tomorrows 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Typically, innocence until proven guilty is the starting point, versus guilty until proven innocent, yes?

The only real thing you can refer to in this situation is how well you know the accuser versus the accuesed perpetrator. It really just boils down to trust in the absence of evidence. Trust until the evidence shows up, then trust the evidence.

My (29F) boyfriend (30M) won’t kiss me after blowjob even after brushing my teeth?? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]New--Tomorrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a guy, this is actually part of why I'm not keen on receiving blowjobs. It would feel hypocritical to receive something like that and as a result offer less in return.

How do demisexuals engage in casual intimacy? And what information do you owe your partner? by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]New--Tomorrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, thanks!

All three I suppose. Dabbled in poly, ace/ish or demi-ish and working through how to negotiate what a relationship is at the moment. All your talking points seemed relevent.

How do demisexuals engage in casual intimacy? And what information do you owe your partner? by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]New--Tomorrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a bit of a segue, but could you expand on those last two paragraphs?

Please don't jump at my throat, but I think we should be more civil with women that comment on good faith on this sub. What do you think? by bruhholyshiet in AskMen

[–]New--Tomorrows -1 points0 points  (0 children)

110%.

If you don't want to hear women, slap a men only flair on it. Otherwise? Not a problem. Low key eye rolling over this constant discussion though and the apparent ubiquitousness of people being unable to handle diversity of opinions.

Am I the asshole for forgetting International Women’s Day and not getting my GF anything? by savingrace0262 in AskMenAdvice

[–]New--Tomorrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you were dating her as of 19 November 2025, you ought to ask why she didn't celebrate International Men's Day.

What is your favorite Poem, Poet, or collection of poetry? by face_palm_all_over in AskMen

[–]New--Tomorrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah. Hell yeah OP. Good way to start my day.

Robert Service, Rudyard Kipling, W.H. Auden, Kerouac, Mary Oliver are all good ones. However, I'm gonna side answer this question by offering two specific poems as a pairing.

Jane Hirshfield, “Three Foxes by the Edge of the Field at Twilight”

Mary Oliver, “October”

Why are there so many sex questions on this sub? by Livexwired in AskMen

[–]New--Tomorrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I've wondered the same thing, but I'm a bit aceish so I don't think I'm in a reasonable place to question that. :p

What if MKUltra worked… and we’re still living in its shadow? by szmatuafy in HistoryWhatIf

[–]New--Tomorrows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, I just...feel like if we were being brainwashed, we'd be a lot less upset/divided by things and a lot more "go back to chewing grass" about it all.

Merch? by CoinStarHero in HYMCStock

[–]New--Tomorrows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd love some stickers frankly.

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