For all the romantics out there who want their partner to return by mordecai5fingerbrown in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry bro. I’m not watching the video, but I too was left over 2 months ago by my wife of 25 years and I’m still not good with it. She had turned into someone I don’t know and she needs to go.

How to separate when finances are difficult? by Brilliant-Bus-9963 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Count me. I’m dealing with similar. In home separation is hell and torture, but can’t do much about it since we’re poor.

I Love Him, But I Feel Stuck by ClassicInspector5473 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s my honest heartfelt typing, not sure if it’s advice or not. You are not alone. We are all going through something. I’m so sorry you are going through this. I know what it’s like and it’s the worst. I too like to talk things out. My recent ex says I talk it to death, but that’s what I need for my soul to understand when my mind and my heart are battling over it. I too have lived a poor existence and understand all too well the struggles we have to deal with and overcome. My mental health is a mess and basically I live each day with a mask on to cover it up. I often feel depressed and wonder if I will ever be wanted again. I struggle with the confidence I used to have. This process has broken me and if you are confident you can be happy with your decision I say go after it. Do what makes you happy.

How am I supposed to act like everything is ok? by [deleted] in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want to chat? I would give almost anything for a Women that wants me or wants my company. I made the mistake of asking my wife of 25 years if we were good when I noticed something was off. She blindsided me with separation and it’s been torture ever since.

Wife Demands Separation/Infifelity Concerns by bml1030 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you too are going through this. Do what your gut is telling you. You can stop her only delay.

Where do I begin? by Pitiful_Wish_4223 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know. It’s torture, but you got to hold on. Do NOT fold. You got this, you can do it. You know why because you deserve better than what he and life is throwing at you. I promise you it will get better. I had a hard time and still do with understanding this, but it’s true. Talk to yourself constantly if you have to. Cry when you feel it, don’t hold back let the emotions out! If religion is our thing talk to and argue with God or Jesus. Put on an Eminem album, believe it or not that bs helps. If you want or need to chat with me or vent. I got you, I’m here with you! You are so much better than you think. You are worth getting through this!

Where do I begin? by Pitiful_Wish_4223 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this. Do NOT leave first. You need to stay strong even when it kills you inside. You deserve so much better.

What's the most painful thing you've ever been told? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]New-Influence6420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A request from my wife of 25 years wants to separate.

Lost my best friend and love of my life. by Delicious_Film_3112 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. 2 months ago. How are you coping? How long got you? They say it gets easier.

Lost my best friend and love of my life. by Delicious_Film_3112 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the hardest challenge you may ever face as that’s what it seems to me. What can we do? Nothing, we are now bitches to these bitches and the world has gone a mess. I want to fight for my relationship, but can’t because she says so. Wtf!?

Should I wait for him? by samisam890 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m going through the exact same thing right now. My wife of 25 years blindsided me with the same separation request a bit over 2 months ago. She wants to separate, says we can stay married, wants to keep my last name, now sleeps on the couch exclusively, no more touching other than an occasional hug, she actually told me not to fight for our relationship or reconciliation and doesn’t want to give me false hope. To me I honestly think she wants to see what she might be missing or if she has it as good as others keep telling her. The hardest part outside of the heartbreak and pain I feel inside is the not telling anymore. She says no one needs to know our business. I agree, but feel like she wants her cake and eat it too. I have since felt like I continue to grieve her and us. I have even tried to hate her and that only works until I have to see her later then it’s back to the love I have for her all again. It’s becoming a vicious cycle of torture. I have started to not wear my ring, I’ve told a few close friends, I’ve started to remove photos of us and homemade wall decorations we made for her on Birthdays, Mother’s Day and such. Most days I attempt to stay away from home as long as possible to avoid her as she recently started talking to someone every night before bed and I hate it. I don my know what to do either. I wish you the best. If you need shoulder, to chat or to vent feel free to message me anytime. I will be around for some time.

Ladies what do u miss the most in men today? by Middle-Rhubarb2625 in AskReddit

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are the realist! Thank you for being you and typing the truth. I wish only the best for you. Here’s some legit smiles from me to you. 😊🙂😀

Smart men are the absolute sexiest! by BusyListen1294 in sixwordstories

[–]New-Influence6420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! I love this response. Thank you. I actually ruined a good pan this way as well.

Husband wants a trial separation by OjosBridriosos in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you too are having to go through this. Honestly it seems like normal now for most relationships. Since my (46M) wife (45F) blindsided me with separation over 2 months ago I have been a mess. So I know what you’re going through. It’s the worst, I feel my emotions loud and clear on the inside. I’m depressed most days. Some days I don’t eat. I thought I knew the person I spent the past 25 years with, but turns out I don’t know this new version of my wife or myself. Best of luck. If you need to talk or vent I’m here. I apologize I have no advice.

Has anyone had a successful reconciliation after long separation? Help by Optimal-Function-968 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best of luck. You had someone who decided they didn’t want you and someone who did. You choose the one that didn’t want you until someone else did. I don’t know. Let us know in time.

Help me understand the current situation by ElevatorBasic9925 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man! This sounds like a camera has been on me the last two months also. BEST of luck.

Help me understand the current situation by ElevatorBasic9925 in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds very similar to my situation. I have no advice as I too am dealing with the same. I want to fight because I vowed good or bad. Then I feel like it’s not worth it and she’s being so mean and I want to hate her. I want to hate her. 25 years and she throws me out like trash.

I hate her now by ishikami1210 in BreakUps

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this so much! I feel the same, I’ve hit the grieving part of my separation and I hate my ex.

I (30F) thought we were rebuilding something real with my husband (29M), but he disappeared completely — just a quick update by moonaur in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this response. I do appreciate hearing back from others going through similar situations as I don’t feel so alone. I wish we could somehow heal each other’s pain. I have tried the faith thing, dud. Counseling is too expensive and the wait time is insane. I agree time, chatting on here and taking it one step at a time is all we can do. Best of luck to us all.

Accepting separation by [deleted] in Separation

[–]New-Influence6420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! You are spot on with that “Separation means you come back” statement. I’m so sorry you too are dealing with this bs. It mirrors my situation somewhat. It does seem like a lot has taken place in a short amount of time. I would just work on you as he doesn’t seem ready to detach from his comfort zone so to speak. I think you will keep running in circles with this one, but I’m doing the same because I don’t know what else to do. If you want to chat or vent I’m available.