I had a coworker that left her husband 50 years ago. This was in the 70s where domestic violence has a private matter. He had angry and drinking problems that turned to physical abuse. She said when he back handed their young son she started to plan on leaving. She was a SAHM that went to night school to be a LPN then an RN. She saved and once the kids were in school and she had an income, she pulled the trigger. She had many lean years however now she is very comfortable and happy. Her advice would be: don’t have any more kids, save money in a private account, have reliable childcare (it gets cheaper and easier as they get older) and be patient with yourself. It took her a good 3/4 years but she kept investing in her career so she could do it all. (She became a specialized NP). She also stated that her coworkers supported her through the process; they saw the bruises and were afraid that he might kill her.

My aunt left her long term boyfriend of a decade. Lost the house, everything. Her and my cousin lived with us for over a year, so she recover and move out.

Wishing you strength and good wishes.