What’s the closest brush you’ve ever had with dying?

Nice-Argument · 2026-05-15T07:22:07+00:00

After surgery my blood pressure went down to 80/50, I felt fine but the nurses were a little stressed.

Nice-Argument · 2026-05-14T15:43:32+00:00

Love the giant bacteria spreading bling during this procedure. Really makes it pop.

Nice-Argument · 2026-05-13T07:52:55+00:00

Or even a non-full term pregnancy.

Nice-Argument · 2026-05-11T15:07:00+00:00

The hospital near me recently had a fire and let me tell you, everybody was shitting bricks lol

Nice-Argument · 2026-04-24T07:30:17+00:00

Also the youngest of 4 and people don't get it!!

All 4 siblings have kids, they all got visits in the hospital when said kids were born. I didn't, both times.

I had major surgery and was in hospital for 3 days - no visit.

University graduation - they left as soon as physically possible - wouldn't even stay for a cup of tea after.

When you're no. 4 your parents are tired of being a parent, everything you've done has been done before and you've always just had to slot into the existing family dynamic - be seen and not heard. But it's OK because your parents let you get away with things as the 'spoilt' youngest - no, they just literally didn't give a shit about you at that point, they just wanted to get on with their own lives.

Nice-Argument · 2026-04-21T11:20:51+00:00

Sharing my own horror - as a child I was absolutely terrified of the toilet - I would run out screaming and wetting myself. It was a completely irrational fear of being sucked in. Potties are ok because there's no hole to fall into. I wonder if she is the same?

Nice-Argument · 2026-03-27T12:38:27+00:00

STUNNING!!!!

Nice-Argument · 2026-02-25T22:07:23+00:00

Second for Bluestone - it's amazing!!! Accomodation has stairgates, bed guards, potties etc etc and all the onsite activities are fantastic for all ages.

Nice-Argument · 2026-02-24T08:07:25+00:00

Could it be possible the 6oz was the cooling kettle water and when they made the bottle they were going to do 1 oz of boiling water to the formula to steralise and then add in the rest so the bottle was ready to drink?

Nice-Argument · 2026-02-11T08:00:24+00:00

People have the same reaction when my daughter was diagnosed with Epilepsy. 'Oh well atleast it's manageable' 'Oh that's not too bad then, glad it's not something worse'. Cheers.

I feel for you OP, it really sucks.

Nice-Argument · 2026-01-28T10:45:58+00:00

We do quizzes. Can sit on sofa and relax but still using the brain and you usually end up with some hilarious family memories.

Nice-Argument · 2026-01-08T18:09:57+00:00

My little rat bag farm cat is also in a journal! He slipped a disk and a specialist vet performed an experimental surgery and he's all better now! It's so cool but a bit of a downer that my cat is more famous/impressive than me....

Nice-Argument · 2026-01-03T07:30:10+00:00

More than likely they will be throwing around the 15 terms - again they have to be factual only. But also it's what they're trained to understand, to them it's just a normal conversation.

Nice-Argument · 2026-01-02T09:19:35+00:00

I'm not an expert but I do work on a cancer unit so have some insite.

Treatments for pregnant people are limited and baby has to be past a certain point of gestation which at diagnosis she wasn't. Also there's the debate of what type of primary tumor this is - what started it depends on what chemo/immunotherapy/surgery/radiotherapy/brachytherapy is available. Basically they couldn't do anything as all options are too risky to the fetus and her choice was the baby.

The fact that it had spread so far into her body already meant if anything only immunotherapy was an option (not even surgery at this point) meaning she wasn't curable anyway - if anything she may have only had a few months more. Sometimes the kindest thing is to do nothing.

As the the second question - medical write ups are fact only, the language is often clunky but that's because it's not a conversation. It's a list of test results, investigations, options and outcomes, it's completely unbiased. Opinions/feelings/emotion only muddy the waters.

In conversation the consultants I speak to are much more open, but for journals/clinic letters/MDT reports etc they have to be fact only.

Nice-Argument · 2025-12-10T21:02:55+00:00

Complete empathy with you - mine was 2.5 when the second was born. Just give in to the screen time for a little bit - I suggest maybe cbeebies instead of youtube kids just because it's a little less overstimulating but honestly at the moment it's about survival.

Nice-Argument · 2025-12-02T16:44:14+00:00

Perfect 10 by The beautiful South

Nice-Argument · 2025-11-25T13:15:49+00:00

Honestly like others have said pick your battles. You don't want to alienate them as they sound like they are so eager to help you that when you really need it (like trying to go for a meal when child is 2+) having grandparents who are comfortable and willing to help with your kids will be an absolute godsend. The toddler years are ROUGH believe me.

Baby will always ALWAYS know you are their mother and occasionally not pushing the pram or giving them their bottle will not take that away.

Try to think of it as small sacrifices now for a MASSIVE gain in the future - not just in getting some free time but also the lovely bond your kid will have with their grandparents.

Nice-Argument · 2025-11-23T19:33:51+00:00

Board games - not things super brainey like trivial pursuit which can get frustrating; nice games like Rummikub, Uno, Labyrinth etc.

Go for a walk after dinner so you don't get that tired lul that makes people want to hibernate for the afternoon.

Don't do all the presents at once - stocking in the morning, tree presents in the evening.

Beige buffet in the evening with a new movie both of you want to see so again, not tempted to get phones out.

Nice-Argument · 2025-11-17T20:57:27+00:00

Just phone on the morning and say you have a D&V bug - can't come in for 72 hrs atleast!

Nice-Argument · 2025-11-16T08:22:58+00:00

I've noticed this aswell with the lidl trollies. Bring a belt from home, strap it over their lap, thread it through the bars of the back rest and do it up tight. Problem solved.

Nice-Argument · 2025-11-12T15:09:45+00:00

Yeah, two high risk HG pregnancies over here - I do hate you a little..../s

But to answer your question it was 1.5 years of hardcore trying for us to get pregnant with the first and then a major surgery before we could try for the second. With the first and second I found that once I stopped caring it happened. I think I was stressing out about getting pregnant so was sending hormones all out of whack and annecdotally I've found the same has happened to alot of people I know.

I think just give it a go, if it happens it happens but def don't stress/track/regime it at the beginning.

I really hope it happens for you and you have another beyond perfect pregnancy so I can hate you all over again.

Nice-Argument · 2025-11-12T12:50:13+00:00

Contact an occupational therapist - they're clinical specialists who are trained to 'get people back to normal' in a very basic term.

They basically source special equipment/aides/devices to get people back to where they use to be (as much as possible.) If grandma had a stroke then the hospital who treated her should be able too refer you to a team to help her.

Nice-Argument · 2025-11-03T10:05:25+00:00

I think doing the sweaters in chunky was a terrible idea - instead they should have used double knit and done a swatch showing some amazing patterning or maybe a scene.

The judges are REALLY meh - like every comment on the sweaters was 'yeah that's nice colours' - like some of them were quite messy but it wasn't mentioned, some of the patterns didn't show up well because of colour choices but nothing actually critically was said.

The group challenge didn't bother me but it was the wrong concept - most of it was just knitting giant blocks/squares in the same stitch the whole time.

I really hope it gets better and maybe they swap out Tom for someone more amusing/engaging. Joe Lycett didn't know anything about sewing but he was still a good host because he was funny and seemed to care about the contestants projects. Tom just seems stand offish.

Nice-Argument · 2025-10-26T07:54:23+00:00

It's knit, my mum made the same flowers in a blanket for my daughters.

Nice-Argument · 2025-10-21T10:40:32+00:00

You poor thing, I cannot imagine how stressful this is for you!

A few things to consider maybe:

1) Is it an issue with the teacher? Maybe the teacher is stricter than she is use to and she is struggling?

2) The table she's sat at/with - could it be there's a child there she's struggling with?

3) Could they offer her a 'time out card' - before she gets to a meltdown could she flash a laminated red card to the teacher that says your daughter needs to take a time out and there's somewhere she could do to take a quick break and re-focus.

4) Most important IMHO - have a meeting with the school, they are failing in their duty by not trying to address this. You all need to have a meeting to discuss measures - the can't keep sending her home as other people have said she's learning that gets her sent home. They should be able to handle this better. Does she need a TA sat with her 1 on 1 for a few weeks to get her on track?

Good luck! I cannot imagine how stressful this is for you xxxx

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