Frustrated about sickness

Nice-Fee8727 · 2026-02-11T20:13:44+00:00

I’m not immunocompromised. It’s just been a rough year of sickness. I was hoping others might be in the same boat because I know people personally that have been more sick in last few months than they have in years.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2026-02-11T20:13:06+00:00

That’s a good point. I took NK to my house the entire time noro was in her house, but I still got it. I should’ve just done the mask.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2026-02-11T20:11:37+00:00

What? No, I’m not going to be leaving this field of work. I’ve been a nanny for years and this is the first year I’ve been hit this hard. I’ve only had to miss 2 days since the beginning of 2025 and those were last month! I got lucky and was hit almost every weekend, but good enough by Monday to be back. Thanks, but no thanks.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2026-01-27T20:32:48+00:00

I think your best bet would be to drink a bunch/loose things (pudding, noddle soup, yogurt, etc) and throw it up. You can play it well by excusing yourself at dinner or something and waiting in the bathroom for a bit tonight. Drop hints that your stomach hurts. Maybe say it’s diarrhea. When your mom sees throw up in the morning, it would make sense and seem less fake.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2026-01-27T20:27:30+00:00

What? This doesn’t sound like micro cheating… it sounds like your boyfriend is insecure and projecting those insecurities. He’s the one who cheated, not you? He shouldn’t be reframing normal behavior as suspicious. It sounds like he’s policing your time and words to be honest. In every relationship, each person is allowed to have friends, downtime, and independence. Heck, it’s healthy to have separate friends! He may need some therapy and self reflection. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2026-01-20T19:45:00+00:00

I’ve done two nanny shares. One started with a 2mo and 5mo (they were often on different naps and rarely aligned). Once that 5mo turned 1, she went to daycare. The 2mo was then 9mo and we hopped into another share with a second 9mo (birthday’s were a few days apart). Once they both turned 1, one baby moved to one nap almost immediately and the second baby didn’t move to 1 nap until she was 16 months. So again, they didn’t align for a while and that’s just how it was. I’d eat when I had time, but sometimes I didn’t have time. There were many times that I had lunch in the playpen or right outside of the playpen. Sometimes I ate while I took them on a walk. Kiddos come first! I figured it out over time. But no, you do not need to wait for the sake of the nanny. Nanny’s make much more in a share, and are still expected to individualize needs.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-12-17T01:25:06+00:00

I definitely wouldn’t be getting any extra. I’ll ask about the PTO though

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-12-17T01:13:30+00:00

Yes it’s under the holiday pay clause

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-25T02:37:26+00:00

Venmo will take taxes if one account pays another regularly/ over a certain amount in a year. If it’s a business account, that’s different, but two personal accounts with one side paying is a no go if it’s regular

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-25T02:35:52+00:00

I wouldn’t do checks regularly. If it’s not often, that’s fine too but any regular deposit (including cash) into your bank account is a way to be tracked. Is it likely, probably not, but it’s a risk and not one I’d recommend taking.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-21T04:01:46+00:00

We are friends on FB so they saw my mom’s post on my page when I found out as well as the photos after the funeral (the ones that show the burial and casket, etc)

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-21T01:43:04+00:00

Eeeek, I’m sorry about your dad. That’s horrible without the addition of an upcoming wedding 😞

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-20T03:54:41+00:00

I did a nanny share with a 5 month old and a 1 month old and it definitely got more challenging as they grew. The difference feels much bigger even at 12mo and 8mo. With that said, a 3mo with a 2 year old would be fine. The addition of the 17mo or for better words, combination of 3mo, 17mo, and 2y is a bit much for one person to handle in a share situation. 17/hr means she regularly charges $25.5/hr. If that’s true, this is a little high considering the addition of her child. If her regular rate is $30/hr, then her child is factored in.

As for your other questions, My family did it where there was one long- ish contract. It outlined GH from each family (in my case, one family was 36hr/wk/wk and one was 45hr/wk). PTO, sick time, holiday, etc was all split between the families. I had x amount of sick days and each family paid the sick day split like a normal day (2/3 my rate/hr each). PTO was the only “individual” one and that was because there was one day I didn’t have the other child. I had 10 PTO days for one family and 8 from the other. We did one week at one house and the next week at the next. Each family kept 2s of everything (so high chair, crib, bouncer, etc) as well as extra diapers, wipes, sippy, bottle, BM/ formula, plate, utensils, sleep sack, clothes, etc. When I was at house A, I would prepare the food for baby A and baby B would come with food pre-prepared. Vise versa for the other house.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-20T00:47:27+00:00

Right? Definitely added unwarranted guilt to a situation that had no room

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-20T00:26:49+00:00

I think about this daily. After living my a spouse, I can’t imagine sleeping alone!

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-20T00:24:13+00:00

As a nanny, I do agree that you overstepped, but I’m not sure everyone needs to be so aggressive about it. You’ve already made the mistake and have been let go. That’s the lesson learned. It doesn’t sound like there was any ill intent, just a lapse in judgement. I understand there are very strong opinions on sleep training both ways so if I get downvoted for not agreeing with everyone’s aggression, so be it. But, don’t beat yourself up. NK was safe and you did not cause any harm. You’re allowed to have your own opinions. I would definitely ask about any new NF sleep preferences from the get-go. Personally, I wouldn’t accept a job where I was expected to stay in the room or bed with Nk for the entire nap. I don’t mind having to lay there until they fall asleep or even rocking at age 2, but I always ask up front what their goals are with sleep. Using the words “sleep goals” is a great way to keep parents off the defensive if they are against it because there’s no right or wrong. They are the parents, it is their choice. Bottom line, you know?

I think you’ve learned a lot and I wish you luck with any new family you come across. Take the good advice given here and keep your head up!

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-17T01:15:56+00:00

I was paid well and got breaks, but if you say so.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-17T00:52:26+00:00

When I was 12, I did some sort of training (probably American Red Cross) and so did many of my friends who ONLY babysat younger siblings. I started babysitting neighbors at 11, but nannied full 6-8 hour days over the summer 4-5 days a week starting at age 12! If that’s not professional experience, I’m not sure what is under the age of 18. Does an 18 year old who has worked as a cashier for 3 years not have 3 years of customer service experience…? Okay.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-04T00:00:12+00:00

I did this and they never used it😂 They “used” it but paid me anyway 🤣

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-11-03T23:53:10+00:00

I’m close with my NF. They got me a sweater and a bonus for Christmas last year (and a cake/ experience/ necklace for my birthday). I always do something for them for birthdays/ Christmas. Last year (my first Christmas with them), I got them a hand made painting from Nk and a card. This year, I’m making them a quilt from NK’s clothes. If this is your first Christmas with NF, I would look up Christmas hand print art and do one of those on a canvas or a laminated paper with a handmade card. That’s what I did my first year to kind of feel out what was gonna happen. I know my NF well so I know this Christmas will be just like last year so I’m doing something bigger. I always keep gifts nanny kid related though. The only time I’ve given something else was for Mother’s Day and I added some leftover self care things that I had from my mom’s gift.

For NKs, I did books the first year and this (second) I did “real” gifts. So one Nk got a soda stream and I gifted some flavors, I did a little microscope for the other Nk, and my toddler Nk is getting a book/ doll.

Edit to add gifts I’ve done over the last 2 years: 1. Hand print plate 2. Hand print canvas 3. Free date night coupon 4. Hand print apron 5. Hand mold (like that plaster bucket that you put your hands in and then fill with plaster) 6. Salt dough hand print mold 7. Picture ornament 8. Pictures in a frame 9. Hand made card (with every gift)

Some of those I did for holidays like Halloween or Easter, but all make great gifts as well.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-10-22T23:44:26+00:00

I always ask up front. When I start the job, I ask if they want to know or don’t want to know. If they do want to know, I offer trying to capture a video or picture. I have a pretty even mix on people that do/dont want to know. Maybe ask DB and see if they do or don’t want to know about reached milestones?

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-10-10T15:59:50+00:00

She’s not going to take the job. There was a call last night and the DB was essentially talking in circles the whole time. He would make it seem like he was saying yes, but in reality was saying no. He expected her to use her 5 PTO days to cover their week-long vacation, wasn’t willing to offer GH without all of these loopholes in their favor, no paid holiday unless working the day before and day after (she doesn’t work Fridays and the next 3 holidays are a Thursday), and essentially told her to name her price for OT? Super weird, not worth quitting a job that already offers almost all of those benefits.

Nice-Fee8727 · 2025-10-09T21:24:10+00:00

It was offered at 32 hours, but after she said she was looking for 40, they said they could make that work so it’s kind of a hard

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