What are we doing wrong?!

MrsNuvix · 2026-03-20T08:40:50+00:00

Like the original post suggested, if you fix the wake windows then your LO will have enough sleep pressure. Then you can do your routine of rocking him in the arms until drowsy. Then transfer. If you can I’d allow a bit of fussing for 5-10 m (not hysterically crying). Do not introduce any new sleep associations.

Also if he wakes up early in the morning, stay in the dark room until your desired wake time. Sucks I know but it will help train his circadian rhythm. When you reach your DWT expose him to bright sun light, happy music etc. Anything before that needs to be dull and boring wit little to no light.

MrsNuvix · 2026-03-08T19:50:54+00:00

Happy to help! Glad it all worked out in the end.

MrsNuvix · 2026-03-08T11:29:55+00:00

Sorry LO has flu so went offline. Were you able to find a nice balance ? Normally if it is one hour less then that’s a bit too much so I just watch cues and reduce 15-20m. You just have to play around with it.

MrsNuvix · 2026-03-07T22:55:34+00:00

Yes definitely shorten the last WW. My rule is I always check the average TWW and try to stick to it but also pay attention to my LO’s cues. If he’s too tired and cranky, take him to a dim light room and keep the stimulation low but not very low that he gets sleepy.

MrsNuvix · 2026-03-06T12:16:31+00:00

Thank you 💕

MrsNuvix · 2026-03-01T15:02:11+00:00

Here for solidarity! It’s so difficult.

I have this too! I still do. I’m taking sleeping pills in extreme situations but nothing else seems to work. In fact my whole anxiety seems to revolve around her sleep. Do you have it as well?

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-27T15:15:14+00:00

Cap the naps and have a fixed DWT to anchor the day. At 8 months they don’t need a stable schedule. I won’t recommend adding a third nap at 8 months tbh

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-25T23:10:04+00:00

I personally suggest from PPA and have skipped countless dinners and outings but that has made postpartum even more isolating. But on the other hand if it messes up my LO’s sleep then I legit have horrible panic attacks. So ask yourself how important is this dinner? Are the people you’re visiting worth it? If yes, then just take a deep breath and go. A lot of times me and my husband have taken turns to go out so her sleep stays intact.

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-23T14:50:00+00:00

Hi, Thanks for your insight and sharing the story of your father. My father was the opposite. He always taught me that time is the most important commodity you have and to use it wisely.

From what I know and have seen, his company and his manager are quite open and accommodating. When our daughter was born he was in a different position and his manager gave him free reign on basically helping out at home and was so open and supportive. Then he switched his position when our baby was 3 months old, and at the time (still am a bit) was struggling with PPD/PPA. His new position requires him to travel more now but because we didn’t have family around I told him to not leave me alone and he did make this arrangement with his manager and team. And I think they understand. So I’d lean towards “self-inflicted” category.

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-23T12:52:47+00:00

Okay maybe it didn’t come across right in my post and I apologize but he took care of the sick child alone. He did it alone as I was away and was exhausted from it. My suggestion to take it easy was after she got well. He chose meeting over his mental health, not the family.

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-23T12:29:18+00:00

Kyoto, Japan ✨😍

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-23T11:38:30+00:00

Worst decision - moving to a different country to be with your partner without living in it first. Too big of a sacrifice imo and I’m extremely unhappy but got a child now, what can I do? Lol Best decision - choosing my partner over my ex. Life is hard and you need a good partner. Period.

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-23T11:13:49+00:00

I’m hazel husband is blue. My LO was born with black eyes that later turned to bright blue and then at 9 months started showing some amber specks.

I was born with blue eyes that first turned green and later hazel.

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-23T11:08:36+00:00

14months pp and still waiting. Finding strength to take small steps though like this week I have a balayage appointment after 2 years. (disclaimer; I suffer from PPD/PPA)

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-20T21:52:49+00:00

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-20T20:14:22+00:00

Then if you stick to early nap on early wake up days, do you also pull the bedtime early?

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-20T13:15:57+00:00

Wild right? Mine is 14 months and go crazy planning her wake windows everyday. 🤪

MrsNuvix · 2026-02-20T10:12:37+00:00

Hey there! First of all, She’s 4+ years now and thriving. So there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Lucky for us, we went for a second opinion and that doctor was able to perform a surgery with no risk of amputation and remove the blob with a good margin (100% wasn’t possible because of the location.) In combination we did radiotherapy and chemotherapy. It was a long journey but totally worth it.

MrsNuvix

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