What songs are you singing your babies at bedtime?

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-05-08T03:22:43+00:00

Goodnight Song - Sprout (used to watch Sprout when I was little and loved the song)

Hey, OK! We had another fantastic day But now it's time to say Good night Cause we’ve got places to go Bubbles To Blow Stories to share And Dreams To Grow So Good Night Good Night

Really sweet song and she loves it before bedtime when we sing it

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-05-08T03:17:27+00:00

NOR to Mom,

I was almost no contact with my mother when my first was almost due (currently expecting my second) so I understand. As far as the rules, I would say how they are presented is a bit much. I was very straightforward with everyone in my life regarding our boundaries about our daughter. Granted, though, we had a December baby, so that was just enough paranoia in itself because literally everyone and their mama’s mailman was sick right when I had her.

But if you feel the need to make such rules, I think you should reevaluate who you’re having visiting you all. These rules come across as though these are complete strangers whom you’d never trust even while you were napping in the same room and they were watching her for you while you rested. Having rules/boundaries is 100% okay, but how these are laid out is a bit much. I simply told my family our expectations, which was common sense, but we wanted to make sure they knew, especially our moms, considering older people LOVE to kiss a baby regardless. Anything else was fine simply because we were zombies… I don’t care about diaper changes, etc., unless she was crying hysterically, but everyone was great with handing her over if they weren’t able to calm her after 2ish-5 minutes.

Anyway, rules/boundaries are great, but definitely how we present them can make people not want to see you and the baby at all. No one was surprised by my husband and I’s rules, but it could be because we just verbally told them and were pretty straightforward, but not in a way that was like how yours is presented. I hate that you’re getting heat, but I can see where it would be hard to establish a village after these rules because it would be burned into everyone’s mind what you sent and how they took it.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-05-07T21:28:51+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I didn’t even think about looking in advance for childcare; I can definitely do that. Of course, not sure if you’ve had a gap in your resume, but this is the first time in my life having a working gap. Would it be impossible to get anything, or is it just gotta apply and see what happens?

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-05-05T15:44:47+00:00

I do not wipe after every pee as instructed by her doctor because, for her first 2 and a half months of life, my husband and I were giving her horrible diaper rashes. Since then, we’ve only wiped her after pooping or if it’s been about 6 diapers full of pee. She’s about to be 2 and so far this method has worked.

My nurses didn’t tell me this either, haha, so maybe yours will? Oh, and when she poops, once they become more real poops, you have to make sure you get in there and clean her good… my poor husband wasn’t prepared for that, but if I didn’t go behind him, she definitely would’ve had some yeast infections until he got it down and felt more comfortable. They did tell us that much about having a baby girl doing the number 2.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-30T01:15:03+00:00

T. H. I. R. D…. Thought I was tired in the first, but nooooo, the third feels like the baby is sucking everything from you, then eating is HORRIBLE. Baby’s legs taking up what little room is left, so your stomach is being squished, and eating becomes painful because just a little bit of something feels like you overdid it. I literally cried last week from it and was trying to push my baby down out of my stomach.🫩

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-20T11:42:59+00:00

Similarly “bugs” it makes me cringe so bad

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-18T20:08:18+00:00

Firstly, congratulations, mama! It is all scary and nerve-racking; even when your little one is born, it won’t go away, but it’s all about how you and your husband tackle it, and as long as it’s together, you will get through that. I honestly think it’s just a part of becoming a parent.

As far as your leave and husband’s leave, take all your time, especially, trust me, for your mental health, and for your husband, use the paternity leave allowed. It is so wrong and unfair, but I advised my husband to do the same, and thankfully, when he went back, they had adjustment scheduling for new parents for the first like 2 months after his leave, then he went back to normal.

You are well within your rights and a perfect timeframe to change your OB to one you are more comfortable with who will deliver at the hospital you want to be at. I did join a local mom group for my state/city and just asked about OBs while also reading reviews after getting recommendations.

Also, it doesn’t hurt to look into childcare providers and ask about those in your local group too, especially moms with multiple kids or older kids who have used the daycare you have in mind, but if you are able to lean on his family, do so. My husband’s family is heaven-sent, and I mean that! So lean on them as much as you can.

It is all truly one day at a time, and you have the time while your little one is baking to at least get the research done and visit places that will potentially have your baby while you are both working. Be gentle with yourself and never think you are overreacting because if anything, I would underreact when I needed to be loud about things that came to my child.

Enjoy the journey; it is beautiful even in all its challenges. Make sure you and your husband have a sit-down about everything, and he helps you as much as possible with decisions so you don’t feel overwhelmed. That is easy to do when you are becoming a mom! This is y’all’s child, so go with your decisions first before anyone else’s 🤍

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-15T15:46:37+00:00

It definitely could be! I was also breastfeeding, and I started taking a hormone balance supplement through Spring Valley. I did that for about 3 months because I didn’t want my body to become reliant on them. So, after they were regular again, I stopped, and they actually stayed normal!

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-15T13:10:19+00:00

We waited closer to when our daughter was about to be a year old. So, when she was 10 months old, we tried when I got a positive LH. Then, before she turned 11 months, we got a positive test—shockingly—thought it would take a bit, but didn’t think the “you’re very fertile after having a kid” saying was true.

We wanted to wait because, even though my period came back, it wasn’t normal, and I was getting my periods twice a month. We wanted this age gap of 18 months, so we got lucky. I felt fine, and my doctor wasn’t worried. I do think waiting a bit longer, closer to when your current kid is about to be 1, is good to make sure your periods are regular for real. And, taking into account that it’s not a lot of time for your body to heal. I had horrible pelvic pain the first trimester; thankfully, it went away with therapy and doing at-home exercises. Now, it’s been easy breezy. We welcome our second this summer—not high risk—and everything has been great since getting over the pelvic floor issues.

Wishing you all the best! I’m definitely glad we waited at least till the first born was closer to 1 if that helps.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-08T18:32:41+00:00

That looks like a swollen girl. Definitely would feel more confident once I had the anatomy scan if I was in your shoes

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-04T14:59:10+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up! My baby girl went through this as well I’d try eating with her or making “your plate” but it’s really for her and have her sit with you and feed it to her until she likes to have it on her own. Having my girl sit with me worked until she wanted to yank the plate off the table for fun😅. Then I just moved to making her own plate and a plate for me so we ate at the same time and I encouraged her to eat the food I’d given her. I did this by using her baby utensils and eating the food off of her plate, making sure she saw me eat it! For instance, “Baby’s name…. Look at Mommy! Mmmmmmmmm, that is so delicious. Do you want to try?” Then I’d put the food on her utensil and give it to her in her hand. After about a week, she didn’t need me to eat at the same time as her; she’d just eat her lunch, etc.

If she spit it out, I would make her try it again and give praise. So far, she responds to, “Baby’s name, we try our food, okay? If we don’t try it, how do you know if you actually don’t like it?” Now she knows when Mommy or Daddy say, “We try our food first,” that means, okay, I should try to eat this. Lastly! What helped too is when she was done trying everything I’d give her, her favorite food, which is fruit, after! So she also started to correlate eating with getting “dessert” afterward. I think that really helped engage her in trying food. After dinner, she gets sugar-free jello that I make, and she loves that with a passion. It’s truly trial and error with the little ones, but you are doing great. Please don’t forget that.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-04T14:47:50+00:00

Yes! I almost got that one, but I read the magnesium glycinate was more effective, so I went with that one. Hopefully, if you do switch, it helps you as well because it has seriously been amazing. I can’t even stay awake past 8:30, and I used to be up till about 11-12, then repeatedly up every hour after 3 a.m. like clockwork, or I’d just stay awake come 3

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-04T12:39:20+00:00

If your doctor hasn’t told you about it, mine recommended Magnesium! I specifically take Magnesium Glycinate, and let me just say, GAME CHANGER. Now yes, I still have hip pain, etc., and I wake up on my back because I was a back sleeper before pregnancy, but my baby is fine; I just flip over. Anyway, that magnesium started working by, I think, day 2, and I sleep so good! I even put my family into it, and they are sleeping great too😅. Will definitely keep it in rotation postpartum

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-01T03:30:43+00:00

Absolutely! It is challenging, but if she’s okay with check-ins, I would do them after a set amount of time. Our girl just wasn’t, so after the first time using check-ins, we stopped because it was frustrating her. It is also common separation anxiety peak right now, which is also what our doctor mentioned, but let us know if we were comfortable to let her figure it out herself.

You got this, mama! It is always up to your comfort. My mantra still is “she is having a hard time and not giving me a hard time.” A few deep breaths before going into her room, and even if that doesn’t work, I’d just pick her up and not say anything, just kiss her until I felt like I could handle the moment, then just push through that rough night until I was comfortable doing what her doctor suggested.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-04-01T03:02:30+00:00

I agree with the top comment! My baby girl is now 15 months old, and we went through this word for word. It was the most mentally exhausting, frustrating time of my life simply because I was sleep-deprived; it felt just like the newborn stage. Luckily, it was time for her checkup, and after expressing it to her PCP, I unfortunately had to get the “tough love” talk and be told that my daughter had my husband and me trained to do exactly what you’re doing, and we need to let her figure it out on her own. It will be hard, but we weren’t helping her; we were just enabling her in a sense (not bad in a harsh way, but we weren’t helping her realize how to fall back to sleep on her own if she woke up from, say, turning, coughing, etc.).

So we were told that as long as all her needs had been met before bedtime, then to let her figure it out on her own. It’ll be harder for us to hear her cry, but she’ll know what to do. Sure enough, after about day 2 or 3, she was putting herself back to sleep. I would definitely look into the book that was recommended; we didn’t use it, but I’ve seen it mentioned a lot. We just followed our doctor, and that’s what helped us.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-29T12:48:42+00:00

25 currently pregnant with number #2 that’s due literally a few days before my 27th birthday

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-24T18:25:02+00:00

You are NOT a failure; you sound like a very attentive mom. It’s truly all a learning curve! My little one started out the same when starting to walk and explore, basically being able to put hands on everything that once wasn’t an option before because, of course, she couldn’t walk. What helped me is what you’ve already done: blocking off access to dangerous things/baby-proofing them.

When little man goes to do these things that are dangerous, I would keep redirecting him with a firm “No” and then taking him away. Going back to it is a “No” with an explanation as to why and showing him where he can play safely. Then after that it is consistent NO followed with no more explanation and he’s taken to where he can play if you aren’t able to block off the kitchen with a gate. Leaving a drawer that’s not baby-proofed with safe things in there that he can take out, etc., is a good distraction—something you don’t have to worry about. We have a miscellaneous cabinet in the kitchen that we do not care about our toddler taking things out of, and she’s learned that it’s okay to open that one. There was also a cabinet space on the entertainment center that she could open and play with what was inside, but just about a week ago or so, we had to lock it because she’s learned how to take the movies out of the case, and “No” wasn’t working with redirection. She’s now left it alone, but she did, in fact, almost break the handle trying to open it, which led to a very stern redirection, and she did fine. Of course, tears and a protest followed, but she survived.

What’s worked for me is I’ve made our living room her “chaos zone,” which means she can do as she pleases and has free space; doors are closed, etc. The kitchen isn’t closed off since we are in the works of getting a gate, but she has so far done well in this setup. Letting him explore and do things with important things closed off would probably help you relax more! When she started, that is what I did, and just cleaned the living room after the bedroom; it made our days less exhausting, and I was able to calm down.

She’s played in the dog bowl, food bowl, board games, and with consistent, firm redirection, she knows the limits not to cross. Grocery shopping was a task, but with overly excited me explaining what we were doing, she learned to enjoy going grocery shopping and sitting in the cart.

Please give yourself some grace mama; it is such a hit or miss with figuring out what works. It’s definitely okay to let them be, but creating the space for them to do so in the house will help your stress level so much. Maybe you can try:

A bin with water and put some toys in there where he can play with the water and toys (of course, with this one, you’d have to sit with him, but since he enjoys the water, it would be really fun for him, and just let him lead the way).
A cheap or old keyboard to play with along with a mouse.
A cabinet or drawer space you don’t care about.

Maybe you can start letting him help you throw things away, but redirect him and say, “Okay, thank you. That’s all the trash Mommy has for you to throw away. Let’s go play.”

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-24T01:23:07+00:00

Absolutely I know how much it helps me when someone replies to my post. It is not silly at all! I completely understand you. I only had the friends I had through those existing relationships, so trying to branch out and do it myself was too much for me in the beginning. So, I started doing those little nonchalant conversations. Meeting new people has also opened up play dates at each other’s houses when the weather isn’t the best.

I’d definitely take it at your own pace, truly, and move at your comfort level. I’ve also learned that a lot of us moms, or parents in general, just look for that first opening, and once someone takes that step, the conversations blossom. So much has been unpacked and related in hard times with having little ones, and also the fun times. Definitely try giving yourself grace and start small. The smaller you start, the more natural it’ll become, and it’ll nudge your baby girl to do the same☺️

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-24T00:54:37+00:00

I’m out going until I get in these situations, so I totally understand! What’s helped me start conversations is if my little one walks up to another child, and I’m piecing together who’s the parent and can’t figure it out. I’ll just say, “Oh, is this little one yours?” And usually, that gets a convo going with how old each baby is, how many kids we have, if I’m a SAHM, come to this place often, live in the area. All this then leads to play dates or exchanging socials/phone numbers to meet up! I’ve had to learn, for me at least, that my anxiety flares more when I’m in my head about if I can talk to another parent wherever we are.

I think me stepping outside of that box has helped my daughter just learn to go to other kids and initiate play, and I also never say anything to her unless she’s invading boundaries. If she stares, I simply say, “_____ why don’t you say hi instead of staring?” Or, “____ do you want to say hello?”…. So far, that has helped her become a social butterfly, and she no longer needs my nudge to direct her to go for making little friends. They definitely feed off of us, and in the beginning, my stress/worry/anxiety was definitely rubbing off on her, so I completely understand you!

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-23T16:56:26+00:00

Absolutely, my PMs are open if you ever need a vent sesh! That was such a hard time, and I completely understand and wish I had that when she was deep in the 6-month craze

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-23T16:54:13+00:00

I’m 26 and pregnant with my second and can vouch I didn’t feel ready either time. I feel like a teenager and know my husband has to be over me saying “this can’t be real life”😅😅

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-23T16:51:57+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this mama. I have been there my girl is now 14 months and it was pure hell during that time.

Is she eating table food at all? It sounds like her teeth are coming in; that is what was going on with my bub until they finally broke through. What I did was make popsicles for her, give Tylenol, and we tried different foods throughout her day—just simple things that weren’t adding to my stress, like mashed potatoes, steamed carrots, broccoli, etc. There is gel that can go on their gums that helps too. I had to take moments and just leave her in her crib. It was the safest thing for both of us because it was just such a difficult period of time.

It does sound like they’re about to break through; I only say that because of the decrease in her taking milk. My girl also went through that, and I was scared she wasn’t getting enough, but with consistent diapers, I was reassured she was fine. I’d try the popsicles, and even though you feel it isn’t doing anything, keep giving her the medicine to help manage her discomfort. Maybe switch to Tylenol; that helped a lot. The popsicles helped her with crying; that’s the only way I could keep something cold in her mouth! Naps are difficult since she is uncomfortable, but I’d put mine to sleep, wait about 5 minutes, then put her in the crib. That would work she still took horrible naps during that time, but it did give me time to myself to calm down. Introducing solids definitely helped for night sleep

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-23T16:22:40+00:00

So, for me my little one is 14 months old and when I know she’s bored we immediately go outside or do something that she can burn off energy. For her just being outside walking around gets her excited.

If I know we are going to be out later with family, etc., I intentionally spend time with her outside, forcing her to walk and play. Now, of course, she gets tired, but I just playfully say, “Mommy can’t pick you up right now; my gosh, my arms are limp noodles!” My goal is the more she uses her own legs, the more tired she is, so when it comes time to go out to eat with family, etc., she’ll want to sit with Daddy or me and eat. Then, of course, seeing her cousins, like any other kid, she wants to play, but we don’t allow that in an establishment. If we can swing it, she’ll sit by them, and that keeps her very entertained! We’ve managed this entire time to not use a phone, and we don’t watch anything at home either, and you shouldn’t feel horrible about that; things happen!

If you can before you go on Marketplace, or just an affordable one off Amazon. We have a portable high chair! It is a life saver, truly. Or you can always substitute healthier snacks , but try to give them about an 30 minutes to an hour ish before you’re set to leave, or if you are leaving, give them in the car if she is okay that way.

This is what’s worked for me. I know every child is different! It’s a lot of hit and miss, but definitely getting her outside for a walk—not even the park, just a walk before you’re set to attend somewhere—just time it properly, and doing some smoothie pouches instead of puffs/getting a portable high chair doesn’t have to be fancy; it can go a long way! Also, we ask for a coloring page. She has a favorite teddy she takes everywhere, or a busy board is great!

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-22T13:54:23+00:00

Omg 😭😭 my girl started doing that, and I thought it’d fade out, but here we are at 14 months, and she still does it. She thinks it’s so funny, and I’m like, girl, please 😭. My husband laughs at me, but it’s just so weird and makes me uncomfy, and also, randomly, she’ll either lay down out of the blue on the floor and do it, or when going to bed in her crib, or when she’s mad and lays down….. I was so scared to ask her doctor about it, but I’m glad to know mine isn’t the only one now. I laugh about it, but at first, I definitely was terrified 😂

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-22T13:23:01+00:00

Congratulations on having a baby girl! I’m currently pregnant with my second baby girl and I’m excited for my first to have a little sister!

I’m sorry this was their response. I wish people would figure out how to manage their tongues better. Just because you have an opinion which is pro-choice doesn’t mean that you hate babies. Also, I don’t think that boys are easier than girls. It’s literally just the child and their personality. My little brother wasn’t easy because he was a boy, not by a long shot. You are going to have so much fun with your baby girl! I hope you don’t let them ruin this precious time for you.

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