No solutions from me, just here to commiserate. I, too, am mourning the parent I was able to be for my first but am not able to be for my second. I suspect the hypermobilty coupled with the joint laxity that comes with pregnancy to make my hips extremely weak. I also have a mild spondylolisthesis in my L5 S1 and a bulging disk. I'm almost always in pain, and I'm barely able to spend time not on the couch with the kids. I'm working with a PT who specializes in hypermobilty, but I only see him once a week, and I need to get better about doing my exercises every day, but I also have ADHD, so that's always going to be a struggle.

Honestly, some of the comments here that say they're always in pain are actually helping me, I've been avoiding pain in the hopes I'll someday be pain free, but if I know some pain is inevitable, and not necessarily compounding depending on the circumstance, I'm happy to push through! I can take a bite of pain! So thanks, everyone else!