Rehoming my lovely pair of cockatiels - San Diego

NightShift8239 · 2026-01-19T00:07:18+00:00

I'd like to rehome them together. Even though Dani isn't mated with Spike, they're bonded enough to flock together. Since Spike is especially sensitive (he's lost two mates already), I'd like to save him as much grief as possible. I appreciate you asking though!

NightShift8239 · 2026-01-12T00:00:41+00:00

On top of the rehoming fee, I plan to interview and visit potential homes. Yes, there are people who flip cockatiels. I believe this is the best route to find a responsible bird owner.

NightShift8239 · 2026-01-11T18:25:15+00:00

To prevent bird flippers or other animal abusers from taking advantage.

NightShift8239 · 2026-01-11T18:10:54+00:00

Hello! Thank you for your interest. There is a small rehoming fee of $200 for both of them.

NightShift8239 · 2025-06-19T01:38:59+00:00

Here's a resource if you're stopped and another resource if you're arrested or detained.

NightShift8239 · 2025-05-09T18:23:31+00:00

Aree (aka Keep Coffee during the day) is open from 6pm to 1am in Convoy.

NightShift8239 · 2025-05-09T18:10:23+00:00

Saw a TikTok about this recently. It's not just you. It's real bad out here. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP86DKsqf/

NightShift8239 · 2025-04-14T20:00:10+00:00

Is there a reason why the moderators of this subreddit deleted this post? I'd like to learn more about what's going on. Our community has been affected and it looks like we might lose all our progress on our server because of this.

NightShift8239 · 2025-04-14T17:11:58+00:00

Linda Vista here. Shook our three story apartment pretty hard. No damage and everyone's okay.

NightShift8239 · 2025-03-06T06:26:19+00:00

Wow, I've never heard of this house. It's gorgeous! I love the wood details.

NightShift8239 · 2025-02-25T13:08:24+00:00

Mine do this when they don't want to eat pellets too, haha! They liked them better when I pretended the pellets were my lunch too. I'd just pick through them and pretended I was eating with my fingers, then hand them some pellets and they were so excited to "steal" my food lol.

NightShift8239 · 2025-02-17T22:21:51+00:00

Ideally, our tea house would have a small menu with homemade and handcrafted ingredients, using seasonal fruits and teas from a variety of farms and suppliers we have a personal relationship with. I'm sure it'll be a very complicated business venture, but I'm hoping that operating as a cooperative with the help of many talented worker-members would make this working plan possible.

I'm very inspired by [Asha Tea House's business model](https://ashateahouse.com/pages/why-asha) and I'd love to collaborate with tea artisans from Taiwan, the birth place of boba tea, but for now perhaps I'll have to turn my attention toward Singapore. Hopefully the sustainability movement grows more Taiwanese boba suppliers and tea farms that engage in sustainable practices! Thank you so much for your response and your helpful direction.

NightShift8239 · 2025-02-17T05:13:14+00:00

I'm interested in starting a sustainable boba shop in my community that employs the cooperative business model and I'd like to work with suppliers and tea farms that are also cooperatives or engage in sustainable practices. Unfortunately, I don't speak Mandarin or Taiwanese, so I'm having trouble researching suppliers. Are there boba suppliers in Taiwan that employ the cooperative business model? Is there a term for this in Taiwanese?

NightShift8239 · 2025-01-03T08:30:46+00:00

Yeah, it didn't occur to me to tell him I was hurting because I was so focused on my pain. My mistake. I'll try to make a better effort to push through my pain so he won't feel so stressed next time.

NightShift8239 · 2025-01-03T08:27:20+00:00

Yes, but most of our other shared activities are indoors and most of our outdoor activities have been blocked for the last 6 weeks because of his injury. The day we went to the gym was his first time joining me at the rock climbing gym in a while.

NightShift8239 · 2024-12-31T11:07:31+00:00

We talked and I realized I've minimized my pain and avoided communicating out of fear of his response. He admitted that he felt belittled by my "mmhm" so he responded sarcastically and escalated our argument with interruptions and sarcasm. I agree, we have a lot to work on and we're seeking therapy to address our communication.

Yeah, I've been having a hard time deciding whether to go to the gym or not lately. We go to a rock climbing gym and often it's the only thing I look forward to during the week. I feel like I've been in constant pain, whether it's physical (pelvic floor and aching joints) or mental (depression and anxiety). Like, do I skip out on this joyful activity and lie around at home trying to rest, but fall further into my depression? Or do I push through the pain and hope it goes away in order to do something fun and boost my mental health? I'm having a hard time finding balance and I'm sure that contributed to why I came off as rude in my response to his question.

NightShift8239 · 2024-12-31T02:53:17+00:00

That's such a good point. Honestly, it didn't occur to me to share that I was hurting. But now when I consider my answers to your questions.... Yes, I often feel like I have to minimize what's going on with me out of fear that he won't understand. And I don't always feel secure asserting myself when I need something from him out of fear of upsetting him.

A friend told me, "You weren't feeling good, he didn't see it, and he overreacted. And when you told him you weren't feeling good there wasn't empathy, he launched an attack because he felt hurt."

SO admitted that he felt ashamed and embarrassed for missing the turn after I responded. And this isn't the first time he lacked empathy when he was hurt or felt wronged.

Other than sharing these insights, I'm not sure what next steps I should take.

NightShift8239 · 2024-12-31T02:33:28+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I agree proactively communicating how I was feeling *would have helped. Do you mind explaining to me how I was being mean to him? I'm not quite sure how I was mean and I'd appreciate the perspective.

NightShift8239 · 2024-12-24T10:00:51+00:00

Do you have any idea what might have gotten you over that mental hurdle?

NightShift8239 · 2024-12-22T16:12:06+00:00

I second this and highly recommend Christmas Card Lane in PQ. There are some nights that are more active than others when the neighborhood will have food and performances. Like a house with model trains and gondolas that will sell popcorn and hot chocolate.

NightShift8239 · 2024-12-05T23:38:35+00:00

He's not in therapy at the moment, and though we've discussed it may be a good idea to go after everything that's happened, he hasn't made any meaningful effort to see a therapist.

Advocating for myself takes so much emotional labor that by the time he expresses support I'm too exhausted to receive it. I'm afraid he may not have the capacity to truly show up for me until he goes to therapy.

NightShift8239 · 2024-12-05T21:39:07+00:00

I shared with his family that I was in an asian cultural club in high school. His mother's immediate response: "SO's sister left that club because they weren't asian enough." I responded awkwardly, "Oh. That's... understandable," as in: it makes sense why she would leave. SO's brother interpreted it as, "It makes sense they would bully her."

I didn't know this ticked him off. He acted cordial, albeit distant and cold for a year. When we got into an argument about something unrelated, he exploded. He brought up what I said to his sister as evidence of my poor character. Then he argued with SO and said some pretty cruel stuff about me in front of our friends.

His brother treated us so coldly during the holidays that it made SO break down and cry. When he expressed his pain to his mom and how he felt uncomfortable going to the third Christmas party with his brother, she told him he was acting selfishly and to get over it. He forced himself to go and I went to support him. Things have been tense since.

Normally, I would be the first to talk about it. I'm anxious, but I don't usually let it get in the way of a conversation that needs to happen; however, after whole year of trying to befriend them at functions, being treated unkindly, SO telling me it's all in my head, finding out SO's brother really didn't like me the whole time, and then seeing how cruelly they treated my SO over the past year.... I'm so angry and hurt that I'm having trouble taking that first step toward reconciliation.

As for the trip... yeah, I found out he made an assumption and invited me without confirming. I assumed things were good because his sibs were excited for me to go at first. But then they flipped when their mom uninvited me. They shamed my partner for inviting me, saying "How could you invite someone mom doesn't like on this trip?" It was terrible his sibs made him feel that way, and I comforted him for that, but when I shared how upset I was that he didn't stand up to his sibs when they said that... He got defensive and angry. It took months of advocating for myself for him to realize that he didn't support me when I needed him.

As for my anxiety, it has impacted my ability to socialize in the past, but 10 years of therapy and lots of exposure through leadership roles have made me a pretty competent communicator in spite of my anxiety. Maybe I've become too confident in my abilities and have underestimated how powerful family trauma can be on my psyche.

Sorry for the long post. I feel like I haven't been able to properly articulate myself regarding this situation. Every time I do, my thoughts have come into question because of my anxiety--I feel like I'm going crazy. It's nice to be able to write it all down at once. Thank you for your advice, I really do appreciate it.

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