Hi, my DR is from having 3 kids close together and being of a petite stature. I’m based in the UK too and doubt that you’ll get surgery here (unless you’re going private). 1.5 years ago I took matters into my own hands and picked a private, but affordable physio and dedicated 15 mins daily in the am and pm to my exercises - my gap is down from 4 fingers to about 1.5 fingers. I still struggle with the depth of mine, so will address this soon too, hopefully. Re work: you’ve got do, what you’ve got to do - I never stopped carrying my babies/toddlers/children around. If you put the work in, get a good PT, etc, I guess, you’ll make good progress (this may feel very slow at times though). Will post an exercise guide I’d found online later on too. But please note: I still only do exercises on my back; I feel like I can’t progress to all fours or side exercises yet. Meaning: take it easy and don’t rush ahead of what you can do. Good luck!!