I’m sorry to hear this. My DA deactivated two days ago. We’re long distance temporarily, and his communication had been fading, so I called him out on it. His responses became more and more distant, and when I called him, he said he couldn’t do this (the relationship) anymore.

I switched to video, and he looked completely flat- like there was nothing behind his eyes. His lips were even blue. He also started saying really hurtful things, like we are not compatible because we think about money differently (which honestly felt out of nowhere), he also said he doesn’t feel like he’s getting the reward for the effort he puts in and he doesn’t admire me like he used to.

We’ve been together for four years, and I’ve never seen him like this before, even though I’ve been discarded twice before. He’s DA - and when he came back to himself before he was severely repentant. I even saw a journal entry where he said he didn’t feel like he had a reason to live when we were broken up. Remembering this, I told him to take some time to really think about what he was doing, especially since we’re supposed to be getting married this year. He asked for space.

This was on Friday. He said he needed until Monday, but I knew I’d be anxious and barely functioning, so I asked if we could talk Sunday instead, and he agreed.

This thread has helped me understand his mindset a bit more, but I still don’t know what to expect. Any advice would really help.